If you find out your husband/bf is unfaithful, and you don't want to disclose due to your family, how would you recover?
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thorn in my heart
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I see. good morning
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<br>but you would prefer not saying anything or ask him directly?
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as for me, i won't just suffer in silence.
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<br>how i can forgive if my bf/husband is unfaithful?
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i see, but at the same time, it may turn into a big fight..and it may affect your family as well...
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但要諗下錯既源頭係出自邊個, 唔係話想嘈, 事實係有問題, 唔可以唔解決... 無左信任, 好難繼續落去
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agree, but 80% of the time is men's fault?
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at first, why you raise this question ah? :)
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<br>are you a man?
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I would get known another man and ml with him for revenge
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shy,
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<br>are you serious?
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<br>shane,
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<br>yes, I am a man, I raised this question because I have a lady friend she has this kind of delimma, I told her to stay with the relationship, just want to know what do you guys think.
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u r welcome
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你個女性朋友結左婚未?
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@ @,
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<br>ai....long story...
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<br>let's say, she is married.
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咁要睇下佢係乜野性格, 本身會唔會同朋友講, 定收埋曬, 講真有邊個接受...
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<br>你係男人都接受唔到身邊女人unfaithful la
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Yes, I agree. But I don't think she will say it to anyone (except close friends), and she was hurt
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有冇講俾屋企人知, 佢身邊人做左乜野令佢咁?
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ok, I didn't know that then. I don't think she will tell her families because she doesn't want them to be worried. That's why she talked to me instead.
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<br>Her husband always stayed out late and send initmate messages to females..
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how old is she now?
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<br>does her husband treat her good anymore?
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she is in late 30, I think she's fine with her husband now. Because it happened quite a while ago. but she was really upset at that time
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i see.
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<br>she has kids? BTW, how did you comfort her?
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she doesn't have kids, that's why she has considered leaving her husband.
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<br>I was talking to her about this and made her feel better
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you advised her to leave her husband or stay with him instead?
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of coz stay with him la
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Hmm
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<br>but is she able to control her emotion now? she has a job or housewife?
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yes, I think she is fine now. she is a professional woman
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<br>Lin, what about you? what is your point of view?
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oh, absolutely such unhappy experience happened, what they can do is.. depends how they (especially her husband) maintain their relationship if they don't want to seperate
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<br>Time may not heal all her wounds, you know? those memories bring back once in a while... it really hurts
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agree
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what those guys thinks?
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I am back. So, you are saying it depends on the husband?
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<br>I mean, if your husband doing something bad, but he then apologize and treat you nice. Will you still tolerate him?
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<br>What is your bottom line?
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it doesn't help, i think..
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<br>I will leave at last if you really did. do you agree? you mean having another girl at the same time?
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I think it depends on how serious it is? or you will think of divorce even though your husband went out dating with other women?
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<br>My experience is, if someone lies, no matter how far you go, it hurts another's feeling, right?
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hmmm it's difficult to tell..
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<br>actually i think if you're the man, let's think what your bottom is, so you may get the answer
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一定hurt...你做左好多hurt人既事?
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no, not really. I guess after a while, you become mature and will think of other's feeling
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<br>at the same time, Men always like to flirt with women, it doesn't necessarily have to be cheating, right?
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睇下有冇玩過火
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<br>咁大個男人, 應該會識得分邊d女人對自己好.. 好既先會留係身邊
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<br>flirt個d, 當娛樂?
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yes, actually I like flirting with ladies, but nothing more than that
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<br>how about retaliations? will ladies retaliate to their husband?
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最近我睇個一本書, 講一段關係, 男人點知道身邊既女人係岩自己..
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<br>大概係:
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<br>1. 經過相處一段時間, 仍覺得身邊個個係最好/明白自己諗乜
<br>2. 如果她離開, 你都唔會過得更好....etc
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I agree. I think it depends on what kind of relationship man is looking for. your points are right for marriage
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<br>quite hard to achieve though
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of coz they do as well.
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<br>have you experienced like this? sometimes ladies are making the situation worse
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so depends how do you think la
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what about you, Lin. are you married?
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flirting is not cheating, just an annoying/disgusting habbit, like smoking, or gambling. Some ppl may tolerate it, some ppl may not.
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absolutely agree, she.
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<br>it is not a good habit, but I will not be cheating either..when my gf finds out, she is very upset
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no
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<br>have a relationship
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Lin,
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<br>stable? did you have situations like we have talked about?
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no, i am not that kind of people .. luckily. haha
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<br>be a responsible and real man. don't be jerk
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<br>i can see some threads are non-sense.
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Lin,
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<br>it's not easy in nowadays world, I am surprise to see people's value decading so fast..
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一定upset架
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well, when you said your gf 'find it out', that means you lied to her about it, which is then another 'annoying habbit', you need to have a lot of good points to compensate for your 'annoying habbits', in addition to the assumption that your gf believed that you didnt really cheat on her. Complicated situation. Does it worth it just to flirt?