sl 最終會變成 sp 嗎? 有人試過成功地找到sl /而冇演變成 sp 嗎?

by missmarc - 02/25/07 23:53
 
 it applies, on the girls/women too

各位男士, 想問下如果一個以往有好多sp經驗的男人, 會唔會有機會鍾意上一個sp, 而想同她發展成sl 呢?

各位男士, 想問下如果一個以往有好多sp經驗的男人, 會唔會有機會鍾意上一個sp, 而想同她發展成sl 呢?
 
 by vanessa - 03/04/07 12:04
 
 會,
 因為世事無絕對

you may be looking for an exception

Thank you guys for your replies.
 我同佢都係已婚, 一齊都差不多一年了,
 我地日日都有幾次好sweet 的sms, 晚晚佢都會msn 同我say goodnite. 佢話我同佢以前的sp 唔同,佢真係鍾意我. 想同我做長期sl.
 我都鍾意佢, 我唔知我係咪真係佢的exception.
 但如果佢唔鍾意我, 點解一齊左咁耐都仲咁好心機氹我? 我地最初係由sp開始的, 所以我同佢由第2次見面時已有sex.

how old are you? how long you get married? how about him?

passerby,
 我34, 已婚8年. 佢37. 已婚4年.
 我唔知點解你覺得年齡同我既問題有關.

you feel bored with marriage and want some excitement in bed, while he is fresh in marriage, so, he is not yet tired in LOVE, to you and her wife, or others
 
 is that the case?

there is no real SP, just meet in bed, go when done
 
 there must be a drink, meal or some time together, like movies, before or after even though the relationship started from SP

your case is SP to SL, nothing strange

passerby,
 i don't understand what's the point?
 
 SP man,
 i see. "nothing strange" sounds good.

so, are you happy with him?

man,
 yes, i'm very happy to be with him.

vanessa,
 
 if you guys are not up to the stage of divorcing your other half, whether sp or sl doesn't make much difference. Cheating behind your spouse and not getting caught is 1 of the excitements to have sl/sp. I guess there's true love/passion for a sl/sp relationship but I don't see you'll have your status upgraded or a big change whether you're his sl/sp. As long as you still feel happy to see him without getting any jealousy involved, I think it works quite well for both of you.
 
 The first year of this kind of relationship is quite sweet, no one can tell what's going to happen next.....try to enjoy as much as you can. Even a marriage can't guaranty a life-long relationship. If our society allows a multi-spouse system, I guess not only men, women would like to have more hubbies....ha ha!
 
 Aferall, humans are greedy if no one needs to care about the moral system.

Hi all.. I'm back.
 
 How's u guys' weekend?
 
 Aferall, humans are greedy if no one needs to care about the moral system.
 
 by sigh - 03/04/07 16:25
 
 Well, I think it's not greedy or what.
 1. when sex become a casual activity, the term SP will be gone. coz it's a causal activity :) just like other countries.
 2. love thing, it really depends on how good u can manage. someone can't even manage 1 single love relationship with bf/gf. don't think about SL or SLsssss.

thank you for sigh and monk's replies.
 
 sigh,
 i think there are differences between sp and sl. sp means either one has no real feeling to other. he/she keeps looking for other better sex partners come along. he/she wouldn't care to communicate.
 SL means both of them are very satisfied with one another and would not look for other sex partners.

monk,
 i agree. i hope some day people can accept open relationship so that people won't have to cheat on their spouses.

morning everyone
 
 it took me a while to read all yr responses after i left my story.
 Agree with Sigh that Men do like to hv their free times, and I did think over this whole matter this weekend.
 Well, i should be happy since he did come to see me, even only for a short while, but he did keep his promise to meet me on Saturday.
 I understand any SL relationship will come to an end, its just I was still remembering in our old sweet days earlier and didnt want to face the fact that he has changed his focus.
 Now, i will focus more on myself, love myself more and wont bother him.
 Lets this relationship end naturally ^^
 
 Thanks everyone

Sigh
 
 can i ask how long u with yr ex-sl?
 also many yrs?

今日無人係度既>?
 what a busy Monday ^^

ms-saisai > 好開心你睇開左 !!

saisai
 睇開d開心d...^^

sai sai
 
 I knew him for around 5 years but the relationship came to an end 1.5 yrs ago. we still met and kept in touch but lately he suddenly wanted to stop all the contacts without telling me why. And know what, we just had sex in Feb.
 
 I was the same like you always thinking about how sweet he was in the beginning but since the relationship had gone stale, I have to accept the fact that it's not a sl relationship anymore. We're like friend + more but the way he treated me lately, is even worse than a real friend. I guess that's it, I won't look back or expect him to contact me anymore.

Sigh
 
 Thanks for yr sharing.
 i am accepting the fact now, and will push myself to focus on somewhere else.
 As u said, if i dont call him like i used to do before, he might feel the difference.
 Never try , never know ^^

you're welcomed, maybe you should focus more on your hubby.

saisai
 你識得諗咪好囉,
 希望你可以開心返^^

其實我同hb可能結婚耐�驉A大家當大家係個伴侶，佢有時有d野太有原則，我後未識�鬻猧l，初時好sweet，甘會成日想住佢囉!
 不過我會努力去放低佢�謚� ^^

sai sai,
 
 if you're having a sl is for fun and not planning to file a divorce, should pay some more attention to your spouse. Afterall, they maybe our life long companion. Sl/sp is for temporary fun.

sigh
 agree,
 唔好其望太多係sl/sp身上

Sigh
 agree with u
 Plus, hb can financially support my living if one day i dont want to work
 But sl/sp wont ^^
 I know ga, so dont worry, i will try my best to handle ^^

mildseven
 how a u today?

saisai
 都係咁,
 無乜特別....哈哈

有無人係度>>>

yau yan ar.....back from long lunch :)

morning, anyone here today ??

hi saisai
 yes
 i'm here!!

hi mildseven
 
 morning, 今日呢度都好靜渦

係啦,
 咁你就搞熱佢啦....

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哈哈
 照咁睇你都無謂再side時間係佢身上啦,
 你係佢心目中已經無地位,

我會啦，我心軟先幫埋佢呢次囉
 我係ｓｈｅ度近排都有同幾個新識既係ｍｓｎ　度ｃｈａｔ
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good morning ar
 
 Sai sai, you're using the right stretegy la. Keep it up gal :)
 
 you have new guys going after you already?

Hi Sigh
 
 finally see u la, i miss u ah
 well, i am chatting with 2 guys from here, but they are single and seems only want to find sp
 I did tell them i am not looking for sp, so, just normal msn chat only.

saisai
 干爸嗲^^
 你一定會搵到合適既人

mildseven
 我唔係想話一定要搵到一個ｓｌ去令自己轉移，只係想識多ｄ朋友，等自己唔會成日再去諗住�
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好多事都係一個cycle,
 最緊要唔好重滔覆徹,
 好似每日起身返工,星期日放假,
 每年要過聖誕,
 做人樂觀d就會開心d^^

saisai
 同你新相識朋友仔msn緊呢?^^

mildseven
 
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