How do I stop being so emotionally detached?
The other day, I had a long talk with a good friend, she mentioned how emotionally distant I usually am. I figured I was always pretty independent, but once she mentioned it, I realized just how distant I can truly get.
I've tried talking to a few guys I've gotten somewhat close to. The common comments I usually get are always along the lines of "I wish you weren't so jaded", "You're so hard to read" or "I can never tell what you're thinking." I have no idea what it is about my face that makes me that way.
Friends have told me how detached I am, that I can seem to get by without talking to them or socializing, the longest being 3 weeks without so much as a text to a close friend. I don't know how to open up to them.
It's put a damper on potential relationships because the guys I talk to want to get to know me. Now, I'm an open book to everyone, I'll tell you every little secret I have to hide if you just ask. Yet I still seem distant to them. Whenever a guy has gotten "too close" for comfort, I push them away and tell them something like "I can't care for you the way you do for me." I've tried so hard, but whenever a guy pushes or so much as feels like he's prying, I inadvertently shutdown and block them out.
I'd love some tips or advice or something. Thanks in advance!
Hell-o last edited by
Heaven, so what do you think is the cause for your apathy or your aloofness? your upbringing or some unpleasant past experiences?
Everything is temporary.
Your thoughts. Your belongings. Your relationships. Your love/care/hatred/jealousy. Your house. Everything surrounding you. Everything you see/touch/feel is temporary. Nothing remains. Nothing passes the barrier of time.
You see a death and you think how loose our lives are. You see a wealthy man and you see how happy he is. You see illness in our bodies. You see a birth and think how joyful and pure life is. But everything has an expiration date. Including yourself.
seller last edited by
"everything is temporary"
that's why we need to seize the day?