7年之癢?



  • 想問下各位, 七年係咪一個好大既關口?
    大家一齊耐左結埋婚關係好似大不如前咁。。
    大家都覺得對對方再無感覺,但又唔係討厭,究竟要點做先可以繼續行落去?



  • wa, a big task for most of the couple.



  • Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 6:15 pm


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    wa, a big task for most of the couple.


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    我而家就係呢個關口好辛苦


    老公開口話大家都無晒感覺


    好似一對好fd既同屋主多過2公婆



  • Oh ,sorry about that...But if you have kid, your case maybe be better...no need to focus on your relationship only.




  • 可惜我地無, 亦唔打算會有!


    所以我都唔知維繫呢段婚姻有咩意思。。。



  • Well, You dun wanna keep it?



  • Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 6:39 pm


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    Well, You dun wanna keep it?


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    我都唔知。。但大家都無晒感覺仲keep到咩??



  • Find your way for both of your happiness lar...





    Office now?




  • Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 6:58 pm


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    Find your way for both of your happiness lar...





    Office now?


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    我諗都應該會分開。。


    係公司丫! 你呢?



  • Me too. In office now...so boring...





    Have wechat?




  • Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 7:26 pm


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    Me too. In office now...so boring...





    Have wechat?


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    我都悶到發毛





    有丫 留比我丫



  • add my wechat lar, thanks!





    forrest-lam



  • Added



  • how about wild sex? try more new things with him



  • millmaster replied at 2014-06-14 8:01 pm


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    how about wild sex? try more new things with him


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    Wild sex? 姐係點呀?



  • 仲7年?


    你太睇少時代既變遷



  • yandi,


    this is common, as the feeling beomce stable and u2 hv find the way to keep on it



  • k_4 replied at 2014-06-14 8:42 pm


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    仲7年?


    你太睇少時代既變遷


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    如果少於7年係一個關口,咁我今次係咪應該放棄?



  • yandi replied at 2014-06-14 10:09 pm


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    k_4 replied at 2014-06-14 8:42 pm


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    仲7年?


    你太睇少時代既變遷


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    如果少於7年係一個關口,咁我今次係咪應該放棄?


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    答唔到你,我只知道..執子之手與子偕老,即使分開也不是我主動提出





    以當今觀念....即使唔分開咪各有各搵餐食囉!!



  • yandi





    i can tell u...this seven-years-itchness will come again when u have been married for 14 years....





    my marriage is 14 years...i had seven-years-inchiness at 7 years and again on 14 years too



  • yandi replied at 2014-06-14 7:29 pm


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    Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 7:26 pm


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    Me too. In office now...so boring...





    Have wechat?


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    我都悶到發毛





    有丫 留比我丫


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    how about skype or line ?? may I chat with you too ??



  • yandi,





    你幾多歲結婚, 其實你地可能太過FOCUS 自己圈子入面, 識多D朋友, 見少D可能會好D 架啦.





    有興趣ADD 我SKYPE 再傾.


    specialist@she.com



  • My Wechat: kenp1981



  • 我朋友選擇左呀,佢忍唔到佢老公,佢同佢老公提出左分手!但結果係。。。。


    老公答應左,分居!


    個刻我朋友喊曬,原來最初感覺,要分開時,到真係放棄分開,佢係做唔到!佢回去求佢老公再諗!


    但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在,佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。


    係,女人係想要喝求關心更多,但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛,因為己經同你住一屋,這還不夠嗎?要特破,要找大家共同關事或物,可能會有更好溝通!因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通,而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺!


    又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人(SL),令你去食補充維他命,令呢段感情關係繼續存活!



  • tk replied at 2014-06-14 11:48 pm


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    yandi,





    你幾多歲結婚, 其實你地可能太過FOCUS 自己圈子入面, 識多D朋友, 見少D可能會好D 架啦.





    有興趣ADD 我SKYPE 再傾.


    specialist@she.com


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    你呢 d 書男咁 pk 嘅嘢都講得出口嘅? 扮懶晒好 人厄西丟?



  • YES, 又有幾多個SL可以OVER過7 年呀!哈哈!有幾多個"年年今日"?戲名!



  • 古人講得無錯 ... 七年我哋就開始變了 ...



  • fantasmic replied at 2014-06-14 10:08 pm


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    yandi,


    this is common, as the feeling beomce stable and u2 hv find the way to keep on it


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    我地大家都未搵到方法繼續一齊生活..


    當我提出果陣佢留我


    到佢提出果陣我比唔到反應


    大家都無左愛既感覺,雖然未到討厭唔想見對方


    但大家都唔痴家,根本家不成家..



  • Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:06 am


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    我朋友選擇左呀,佢忍唔到佢老公,佢同佢老公提出左分手!但結果係。。。。


    老公答應左,分居!


    個刻我朋友喊曬,原來最初感覺,要分開時,到真係放棄分開,佢係做唔到!佢回去求佢老公再諗!


    但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在,佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。


    係,女人係想要喝求關心更多,但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛,因為己經同你住一屋,這還不夠嗎?要特破,要找大家共同關事或物,可能會有更好溝通!因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通,而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺!


    又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人(SL),令你去食補充維他命,令呢段感情關係繼續存活!


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    LILY, 我同你朋友都幾似, 之前我覺得真係無辦法再忍受咁冷淡我提出分開,佢挽留我,到隔左2個星期竟然佢提出分開!果下我都好呆..佢竟然提出,我以為自己對佢一D感覺都無,但到佢講分開果陣我個心痛好唔開心,但我唔知係愛既感覺定係時間耐左既感情?


    的確,呢幾年我既生活就只有佢一個,朋友愈黎愈少!反相佢工作關係愈黎愈多朋友,就變到長期都係我自己一個係屋企,一個星期都未必見到3個鐘,我覺得好累好辛苦想放棄..


    或者你講得岩,我應該要擴大自己圈子,唔可以再眼內只有佢..


    如果學人地有SL, 咁呢段感情仲有咩意義呢?



  • Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:21 am


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    YES, 又有幾多個SL可以OVER過7 年呀!哈哈!有幾多個"年年今日"?戲名!


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    SL又點同呢? 唔可以同日日對住,你事事為先既老公比較..



  • man replied at 2014-06-15 12:27 am


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    古人講得無錯 ... 七年我哋就開始變了 ...


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    仲有好多人未到七年已經變晒IIM..


    有時真係好灰,做左咁多野去維繫最後乜都無



  • 有無小朋友?


    如果無就易搞啦,如果有小朋友又要分開就真係搵著個小朋友黎搞



  • k_4 replied at 2014-06-15 1:28 am


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    有無小朋友?


    如果無就易搞啦,如果有小朋友又要分開就真係搵著個小朋友黎搞


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    touchwood未有小朋友,


    就算洗牌重新開始都唔難..


    但結婚未足一年又離唔到婚要等多半年..



  • 分居囉....



  • 你地大家有冇諗過想要什麼既分婚, 有冇好好交流一下, 表達一下心中既感受和所需??



  • yandi replied at 2014-06-15 1:26 am


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    Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:06 am


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    我朋友選擇左呀,佢忍唔到佢老公,佢同佢老公提出左分手!但結果係。。。。


    老公答應左,分居!


    個刻我朋友喊曬,原來最初感覺,要分開時,到真係放棄分開,佢係做唔到!佢回去求佢老公再諗!


    但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在,佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。


    係,女人係想要喝求關心更多,但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛,因為己經同你住一屋,這還不夠嗎?要特破,要找大家共同關事或物,可能會有更好溝通!因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通,而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺!


    又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人(SL),令你去食補充維他命,令呢段感情關係繼續存活!


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    LILY, 我同你朋友都幾似, 之前我覺得真係無辦法再忍受咁冷淡我提出分開,佢挽留我,到隔左2個星期竟然佢提出分開!果下我都好呆..佢竟然提出,我以為自己對佢一D感覺都無,但到佢講分開果陣我個心痛好唔開心,但我唔知係愛既感覺定係時間耐左既感情?


    的確,呢幾年我既生活就只有佢一個,朋友愈黎愈少!反相佢工作關係愈黎愈多朋友,就變到長期都係我自己一個係屋企,一個星期都未必見到3個鐘,我覺得好累好辛苦想放棄..


    或者你講得岩,我應該要擴大自己圈子,唔可以再眼內只有佢..


    如果學人地有SL, 咁呢段感情仲有咩意義呢?


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    YANDI, 你講得對,你寂寞係佢少左關心你,你有一個人都唔知做咩,我以前都一樣,我選擇左去做GYM,去做義工,去學野,去上網交友JOIN活動,我識左幾個交心朋友,記住唔好識酒肉朋友,因為佢地只係過眼雲煙,你回看一年你又會覺自己好似好荒淫,但識左真心朋友,又會筧係值得,因為呢的真心朋友都係會去關心你感受人!




  • GemmaPun123 replied at 2014-06-15 9:36 am


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    yandi replied at 2014-06-15 1:26 am


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    Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:06 am


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    我朋友選擇左呀,佢忍唔到佢老公,佢同佢老公提出左分手!但結果係。。。。


    老公答應左,分居!


    個刻我朋友喊曬,原來最初感覺,要分開時,到真係放棄分開,佢係做唔到!佢回去求佢老公再諗!


    但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在,佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。


    係,女人係想要喝求關心更多,但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛,因為己經同你住一屋,這還不夠嗎?要特破,要找大家共同關事或物,可能會有更好溝通!因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通,而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺!


    又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人(SL),令你去食補充維他命,令呢段感情關係繼續存活!


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    LILY, 我同你朋友都幾似, 之前我覺得真係無辦法再忍受咁冷淡我提出分開,佢挽留我,到隔左2個星期竟然佢提出分開!果下我都好呆..佢竟然提出,我以為自己對佢一D感覺都無,但到佢講分開果陣我個心痛好唔開心,但我唔知係愛既感覺定係時間耐左既感情?


    的確,呢幾年我既生活就只有佢一個,朋友愈黎愈少!反相佢工作關係愈黎愈多朋友,就變到長期都係我自己一個係屋企,一個星期都未必見到3個鐘,我覺得好累好辛苦想放棄..


    或者你講得岩,我應該要擴大自己圈子,唔可以再眼內只有佢..


    如果學人地有SL, 咁呢段感情仲有咩意義呢?


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    YANDI, 你講得對,你寂寞係佢少左關心你,你有一個人都唔知做咩,我以前都一樣,我選擇左去做GYM,去做義工,去學野,去上網交友JOIN活動,我識左幾個交心朋友,記住唔好識酒肉朋友,因為佢地只係過眼雲煙,你回看一年你又會覺自己好似好荒淫,但識左真心朋友,又會筧係值得,因為呢的真心朋友都係會去關心你感受人!


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    可惜係我單方面想補救想改善,原來佢有左第2個。。。


    跟住就同7年之癢 大家淡晒無關!




  • Yandi, 咁點解唔好似lily咁去揾多d節目? 太多時間自己一過一定好辛苦, 尤其你另一半成日咁忙..


    你意思你你老公巳有第三者?



  • Jacob replied at 2014-06-15 12:32 pm


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    Yandi, 咁點解唔好似lily咁去揾多d節目? 太多時間自己一過一定好辛苦, 尤其你另一半成日咁忙..


    你意思你你老公巳有第三者?


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    Jacob 佢已經承認有第3者了


    話係因為我地之間出現問題


    佢同個女仔拍散拖2個星期 剛分手



  • yandi replied at 2014-06-15 12:45 pm


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    Jacob replied at 2014-06-15 12:32 pm


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    Yandi, 咁點解唔好似lily咁去揾多d節目? 太多時間自己一過一定好辛苦, 尤其你另一半成日咁忙..


    你意思你你老公巳有第三者?


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    Jacob 佢已經承認有第3者了


    話係因為我地之間出現問題


    佢同個女仔拍散拖2個星期 剛分手


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    咁快手?



  • Yondi, wah, 佢比光纖上網速度重要快..@@



  • Yondi, 其實我覺得如你二都咁坦白, 不如誠心講下點維持或分開好過啦, 而家咁都冇乜意思㗎...



  • 我同意JACOB講法,如果佢連有第二個女友都同你講,証明佢總想對你坦白,若果唔想分,大家座低傾,大家方向,大家感受,因為你們都曾經生活過渡過好多時光,你們都總係唔想一個向東一個西走呀!



  • Lily replied at 2014-06-15 5:22 pm


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    我同意JACOB講法,如果佢連有第二個女友都同你講,証明佢總想對你坦白,若果唔想分,大家座低傾,大家方向,大家感受,因為你們都曾經生活過渡過好多時光,你們都總係唔想一個向東一個西走呀!


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    今晚會再傾下


    唉 呢段日子真係好難受。。



  • 正正係一個好好既考驗~涯得過既~先至係真感情~~



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    今晚會再傾下


    唉 呢段日子真係好難受。。


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    There are hard times in marriage, just as in life. We make tough decisions in relationships, to keep or to break alike.





    It is common for people, esp women, to focus on the details, like what he says n what he does lately, while forgetting to take a look of the broader pictures, e.g. two individuals keep changing and progressing in their lives n the directions n speed of changes are never guaranteed to be similar. Over time, a matter of time, the gap between them will be wider n wider. Acknowledging this is rather normal than otherwise can make us assess the situations better.





    I am not promoting separations for couples n happy-ending marriages are wonderful, though I question if they can be considered a norm based on the above simple observation. Thus, sometimes it may worth taking an alternative look n consider separation as an appropriate means to free both individuals from sustaining pain n avoiding ongoing pain, even we know tough decisions carry painful costs in the short-term, yet may be the right thing to do.





    At the same time, many couples may regret about not taking the efforts to save a marriage when they could have. Well, there is nothing to stop them to re-marry after many years. This is harder path n less likely, of course.





    In any case, wish both of u may get a no-regret decision for your fate, at least for now. All the best.







  • Yandi, 啱, 大家好好地傾下啦, 要大家真誠去維繫一段婚姻真係一d都唔易, 雙方都要有一定要付出, ( 我都付出咗好多 :) 記住,放棄永遠係最容易, 點都好希望你地可從今晚有個好結果:)





    Lily., thank you !



  • 其實牽涉好多野,首先好多人唔明婚姻係另一個階段,如果還懷勉拍拖既日子,就註定失望,另一方面,relation 太脆弱,太多誘惑..



  • Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:06 am


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    我朋友選擇左呀,佢忍唔到佢老公,佢同佢老公提出左分手!但結果係。。。。


    老公答應左,分居!


    個刻我朋友喊曬,原來最初感覺,要分開時,到真係放棄分開,佢係做唔到!佢回去求佢老公再諗!


    但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在,佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。


    係,女人係想要喝求關心更多,但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛,因為己經同你住一屋,這還不夠嗎?要特破,要找大家共同關事或物,可能會有更好溝通!因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通,而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺!


    又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人(SL),令你去食補充維他命,令呢段感情關係繼續存活!


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    that's the path many choose to take... to survive a little longer by any means. sad but true.



  • 其實每段感情都有機會係咁~~當你選擇放棄,但可能下一個時間奈左都會有相同既情況.問題是大家如何維繫.不過,呢種感覺唔係一時三刻產生既.或者試下同老公揾唔揾到d新既沖激?


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