lost the passion with SL



  • had a serious quarrel with SL last week, she apologize but really broke the trust between. not sure if able to re-build the relationship although i know she is trying



  • What's the quarrel about?



  • katie,





    thanks. reason and what quarrel about is not an issue already, I just keep thinking how or if it is able to rebuild everything back.





    how about you? have some trouble or confusion at the moment?



  • morning,quarrel is usually face la, depends on both how to see





    If love still there, it can keep, finish till one left



  • Agree!





    If both still care / love each other…



  • thanks for sharing





    communication is always most important



  • man38man5 replied at 2014-05-08 3:17 pm


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    thanks for sharing





    communication is always most important


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    If so, then why don't you communicate with your wife instead of taking a lover?



  • PP replied at 2014-05-08 3:44 pm


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    man38man5 replied at 2014-05-08 3:17 pm


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    thanks for sharing





    communication is always most important


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    If so, then why don't you communicate with your wife instead of taking a lover?


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    I think you don't know a long marriage life issues, so silly to ask this





    Expectation !!





    All feel disappoint after knowing the situation of both character can't change whenlost of sweet love, but something restrict the decision on divorce



  • agree with sl



  • sl replied at 2014-05-08 4:32 pm


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    PP replied at 2014-05-08 3:44 pm


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    man38man5 replied at 2014-05-08 3:17 pm


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    thanks for sharing





    communication is always most important


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    If so, then why don't you communicate with your wife instead of taking a lover?


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    I think you don't know a long marriage life issues, so silly to ask this





    Expectation !!





    All feel disappoint after knowing the situation of both character can't change whenlost of sweet love, but something restrict the decision on divorce


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    Cheaters always jump to the conclusion that I must not know anything about long marriage, beleive me I probably have been married longer than any of you, don't give excuses for yourself.


    Something restrict a divorce is the fear of unforseeable future, greed and selfishness.





    No sweet love feeling, come on, this feeling goes away after a period of time whoever you're with, so you would take many lovers to get this feeling? People can't change but they can compromise, right?





    Would having an affair make everything better? Just hiding one problem behind another, until the affair go sour then the cycles starts all over, not mention the risks of other half finding out.





    Many claimed they love their other halves but still have an affair but they will find an excuse to cheat, all is about GREED!




  • Theory and Practice, greedy and selfish are human being





    Like eat healthy theory, how many ppls did it??



  • morning all





    it's always free for everyone to share own thoughts, we don't need other to agree with our own thoughts, just admit other thoughts do exist will be good enough.





    everyone has his/her own story, and I don't think I have to explain any detail of my family life.





    communication with everyone is important including your own family, friend and colleague. We may have different issue with different member in the family, with different friend ... with different one.





    One thing I think we all have to admit, we are all greedy, who don't?



  • morning





    I usually agrue with my sl near 3 years, tired but still together



  • 這種關係,需要溝通、互信、了解大家的想法


    她一定有點不開心才吵罵呢!


    想繼續keep住...多問候下,她感受到的。‧




  • we are re-building and fixing what we broke.


    have a nice weekend!!



  • as long as you think he / she is the right one, try to understand and listen , who don't ever argue?!





    i am facing similar situation too



  • sweetie





    thanks for your message. i hope you are okay and the problem will be solved soon.


    will be patient to listen if you want someone to share with



  • man38man5 replied at 2014-05-09 4:16 pm


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    we are re-building and fixing what we broke.


    have a nice weekend!!


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    很好...互相體諒,沒事


    你把這狀況分享,巳經是在乎了...她會好感動的



  • 我越來起唔識認清這個關係,感到好失落



  • sweetie,





    it's very hard to make a secret relationship "clear", as it requires extra understanding and patient than normal one.





    what's your own expectation? most of the time, problem appear when things going different from our expectation, and you have no channel, no friend can talk to....





    if you dun mind, can share with me via email, mine is man38man@she.com





    have a nice sunday, have a great mother's day



  • thanks man





    yes maybe expectation different and I feel bad





    how will you handle if your sl has hard feeling ? guess most probably guys would say 有心無力 and being someone sl NEED to settle the emotion ourselves



  • sweetie,





    morning!! depends on where is the hard feeling come from?


    in a secret relationship, we may not able to handle each other emotion at once but it doesn't mean we can ignore it or just " say 有心無力".





    process of communication is important, sure both will feel how much effort we put. i always prefer to write and express everything directly.







  • morning~





    thanks for sharing, how long have you last the relationship with her?





    just a platform to share our burdens, no offense



  • morning sweetie,





    is just about few months with her, and we back to normal now, have better understanding after some more sharing from heart.


    issues always come from different expectation, however, we take the chance to learn more about ourselves.. as we are buddy also, able to chat and share everything





    how about you?



  • what a relaxing Sunday......


    how about you all?


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