Feel very painful to hate someone I met here



  • We met here. He said he is single. We had been together for almost a year and we live together. Suddenly he said we didn't work out. Later I found out he has another woman who claimed herself as his wife and live in his place. And the moment I found out that, that woman just gave birth of their son. He lies from the beginning. And he still owed me money when he left me and he created lots of ridiculous and nasty reasons for not returning me the money. He has the money but he just doesn't want to return me.

    I feel very painful. I hate him so much. Why the God doesn't punish this son of the bitch? What can I do?



  • Forgive yourself. Forget him



  • How? I remember everything so clearly and I am still living in the place we used to live together.



  • Move



  • 只好當撞鬼,當燒左錢,打堂齋就算


    關於有B一事,你咪信了



  • There is no God. Be wise.



  • you have learned the life lesson. God bless you.



  • 自 作 業 不 可 活


    next time don't believe in any guy and live together with him, you lost your time, money, body and soul, but you win the experience!



  • Think about your future, not the past



  • Dilyschong replied at 2014-04-22 6:13 pm


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    只好當撞鬼,當燒左錢,打堂齋就算


    關於有B一事,你咪信了


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    我親眼睇住佢同個大陸女人同個BB一齊





    我最嬲既係,佢覺得自己無錯,錯既係我。佢有錢不停去旅行,但唔肯還錢俾我。



  • googe replied at 2014-04-22 6:26 pm


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    Think about your future, not the past


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    I don't know what future I can have. I lost faith in ppl and myself.



  • am i really that bad so he treats me like this??



  • 算喇,止蝕離場吧



  • sometimes you have to move on without certain people, if they are meant to be in your life, they will catch up.



  • help replied at 2014-04-22 6:34 pm


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    am i really that bad so he treats me like this??


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    不是你的錯,唔好亂諗喇,世上仲有好多人愛錫你,takecare urself



  • help replied at 2014-04-22 6:34 pm


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    am i really that bad so he treats me like this??


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    Do thieves only steal from bad people?




  • help replied at 2014-04-22 6:33 pm


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    googe replied at 2014-04-22 6:26 pm


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    Think about your future, not the past


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    I don't know what future I can have. I lost faith in ppl and myself.


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    Life goes on. Your still need to live



  • 神 replied at 2014-04-22 6:40 pm


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    help replied at 2014-04-22 6:34 pm


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    am i really that bad so he treats me like this??


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    不是你的錯,唔好亂諗喇,世上仲有好多人愛錫你,takecare urself


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    Thanks God. Will you punish him for the best of the world?



  • Give him a chance to return your money or you will disclose his personal particulars here, or even sue him in a civlian court.



  • Give him a chance to return your money or you will disclose his personal particulars here, or even sue him in a civlian court.



  • Should I forget the money as well and not asking him to return?



  • help replied at 2014-04-22 6:33 pm


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    Dilyschong replied at 2014-04-22 6:13 pm


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    只好當撞鬼,當燒左錢,打堂齋就算


    關於有B一事,你咪信了


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    我親眼睇住佢同個大陸女人同個BB一齊





    我最嬲既係,佢覺得自己無錯,錯既係我。佢有錢不停去旅行,但唔肯還錢俾我。


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    Why do you still have expectation on him?




  • You gotta do something, not only for yourself but others.



  • help replied at 2014-04-22 6:43 pm


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    Should I forget the money as well and not asking him to return?


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    可以講借左你幾多錢嗎?其實多與少,還是忘記左會比較好



  • help replied at 2014-04-22 6:43 pm


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    神 replied at 2014-04-22 6:40 pm


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    help replied at 2014-04-22 6:34 pm


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    am i really that bad so he treats me like this??


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    不是你的錯,唔好亂諗喇,世上仲有好多人愛錫你,takecare urself


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    Thanks God. Will you punish him for the best of the world?


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    如果我真係神,我會想你得到幸福,妳的他根本不值得理會



  • 只憑對方片面之詞,你地就相信佢,太無知啦。



  • 版主可能不甘心人錢佳失,錢就當叫鴨花了,遊戲一場當教訓,重回現實吧啦!



  • 當事人 replied at 2014-04-22 6:56 pm


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    只憑對方片面之詞,你地就相信佢,太無知啦。


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    i thought relationship should be built on trust..yes i am too naive



  • sis replied at 2014-04-22 7:02 pm


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    版主可能不甘心人錢佳失,錢就當叫鴨花了,遊戲一場當教訓,重回現實吧啦!


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    唔甘心點解做好人就被人傷害,做衰人就為所欲為,世界真的是這樣運作嗎?



  • 你地當時幾歲?



  • help,





    After a big lesson in life, you'd better focus on yourself and what is best for your own goodness and happiness. Please try stop asking why, as he and everything about him should become irrelevant to you asap. He might be punished, in this life, or the next life, or the previous one, just you are silly if you take it as your concern.





    Let go as fate has gone.





    We make mistakes in life, and the best strategy is always to learn the lessons and move on, and throw away the shxtty details. Others who have left the comments earlier, myself, and many others to come, will echo the same tone, and I daresay at least some of us have made worse mistakes than your case here and yet we are now telling you to let go and move on.





    Be selfish and love yourself first at this stage. ;)










  • likewitty replied at 2014-04-22 7:39 pm


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    help,





    After a big lesson in life, you'd better focus on yourself and what is best for your own goodness and happiness. Please try stop asking why, as he and everything about him should become irrelevant to you asap. He might be punished, in this life, or the next life, or the previous one, just you are silly if you take it as your concern.





    Let go as fate has gone.





    We make mistakes in life, and the best strategy is always to learn the lessons and move on, and throw away the shxtty details. Others who have left the comments earlier, myself, and many others to come, will echo the same tone, and I daresay at least some of us have made worse mistakes than your case here and yet we are now telling you to let go and move on.





    Be selfish and love yourself first at this stage. ;)








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    tx. my frd advised me the same. but i always recall some memory about him which upsets me



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    tx. my frd advised me the same. but i always recall some memory about him which upsets me


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    Of course you will, as we are humans (even deleted computer files can often be restored by forensic techniques as ordinary users are generally not experts even some think they are).





    The key is not about forgetting him and stop thinking about him -- the harder you try to do that, the more tortures and deeper images are impinged in your mind. What you need to do is to dilute the impacts of the recall. You may remember that there are incidents you consider as big as the world when you were young are now merely silly amusing stories when you chat with your friends. Well, I don't expect you can turn your case now into some amusing story in future, but at least it is not something that you feel really that bad when you talk about this next year.




  • i do hope so. he left me suddenly. i thought its coz i didnt do good enough. i tried to improve but later i found out this is not the root cause. he left coz he has another woman and a baby son..sigh..a big and heart breaking surprise.





  • When you think again, is this such a big event??? Yes, for today maybe. Then when you calm down, and try to access it objectively:





    - the incident only spans 1 year in your life





    - your relationship, love or whatever, is not that deep like those stories of harsh realities disclosed just the night before marriage.





    - the financial loss, may I guess, is not that significant and it is something you can afford, and you know it from the moment you decide to lend to him ;)





    - No discrimination, though it is very understandable for HK women to feel humiliated if the other side is a Mainland woman.





    Thus, allow me to be blunt, it is possible you have not felt hurt from the perspective of Love. You hate to feel deceived and lost; a point of hurting your ego, which means it has hurt you at the superficial level only.





    Even if part of my guess or analysis above is right, you need not be in a position to feel painful. You can hate, but make sure you do that constructively to amuse yourself when you share your stories with your friends and throw darts imagining he, or she, is at the bull's eye. Um, I should say, make the target bigger to be the whole dart board LOL





    Hope you can see a message here is for you to think from different perspectives, and then the unfavourable incident can bring fun to you too, especially after you can realize there is no point for you to torture yourself more --- note the keyword YOU, as if you hate him more than 4 months 28 days 786 minutes, then you become the one who is responsible for the agony, not him ;)




  • help replied at 2014-04-22 8:04 pm


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    i do hope so. he left me suddenly. i thought its coz i didnt do good enough. i tried to improve but later i found out this is not the root cause. he left coz he has another woman and a baby son..sigh..a big and heart breaking surprise.


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    One lesson I think you should learn for yourself in future - men usually will not leave a gal because she is not good enough. Any gal who tries to improve herself to please her man is likely to be wrong in the first place. It is better to stop developing new ways and techniques to chase him off as a woman will be inclined to do once she feels settled with a man ;)





    Reasons for his leaving, again, is irrelevant. He could have left without another women or baby, or several women and many babies. Often women drill into the fine details without seeing the big picture in these cases.
















  • blah blah blah....outsider never know what happened between a couple..



  • 不是因為ego,是痛得不能再痛,那麼好,一閃眼,全部都沒有了。好像一切都是假,但全部都真正發生過。很痛很痛。





  • Good, at least you can see some goodies out of the bad experience: 那麼好,一閃眼,全部都沒有了 This is better than relationship failure with pain dragging on for months or even years.





    No matter what, be glad you have gained a life experience, marked with pain. Be wise to let go the pain when you should la.



















  • 咪算好彩囉同咗佢一年就知佢咁賤,到你人老珠黃先至知重慘。



  • 唔明點解佢可以唔覺自己賤格,仲可以話我錯,佢講得理所當然,令我唔知誰對誰錯,誰是誰非,好混亂。



  • 不要因為佢突然分手問點解?


    不要因為佢突然消失問點解?


    不要因為佢說是你錯問點解?


    不要因為佢欺騙你而問點解?





    因為.....他不會答你,再問也只會增加你痛苦,時間會告訴一切真相。





    錢銀的,我相信他是絕不會還給你,要有心理準備錢也失掉。



  • help replied at 2014-04-22 9:24 pm


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    唔明點解佢可以唔覺自己賤格,仲可以話我錯,佢講得理所當然,令我唔知誰對誰錯,誰是誰非,好混亂。


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    In relationships, it is unwise to try gauge right-wrong or win-loss or seek explanations or need clarifications. Fate comes fate goes.





    Focus on let go is always the best strategy as said. Don't be angry too long ;)







  • 唔駛理原因後果就有眼見到,真相就是佢做埋啲衰嘢又唔知錯,佢搵藉口俾自己等自己好過啲,唔想你再煩佢又唔想還錢,你自己最清楚邊個係對錯,唔好俾佢擾亂。


    有冇單句?有嘅可以揾收數公司。



  • 既然妳現在這麼痛,不如先處理妳你痛楚先吧。





    妳要問點解,思考一大堆問題,不是不可以,請讓情緒回覆正常先。





    要愛自己呀。





    愛人走了,愛還可以在的。愛在妳之內。她不愛妳,妳更要珍惜妳自己。







  • 上she之前係無聊,有水吹下,有手仔拖下,有人so下已經係bonus,可以有一段關係,已經係神跡!


    我經常狂抦2至5分鐘,因為很怕自吹自擂,又浪費時間;


    唉, 去個廁所都吾止啦......





    希望你記得開心嘅事,我宜家好實際,見到人嗰時先當係,吾開心嘅就當撞鬼


    人根本係一無所有




  • 小孩無辜


    錯的係個男人





    失財事小


    失身事大


    最可惜係俾人呃蝦條


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