有冇人覺得自己處於中年危機? 你地點面對生活





  • 正面去面對!多些學習多些精神寄托,多些不同階層朋友 + 運動^^



  • Heracles 你係中年人士, 面對緊中年危機?



  • 揀學乜都好頭痛


    係人都知應該有不同階層朋友, 但點去識?


    我覺得人大咗, 就好難去識朋友



  • 40勾是吧!工作上ok,感情上同餘下人生都有點空白



  • 我根本提吾起興趣去識新朋友, 所以吾會話特豋為識人而去做d野



  • 睇自己性格喜好!興趣有動有靚的,你可容入又可開放自己 comfort zone, 一定在內有得著又有遇到朋友!點都要走出 first step, 唔系講乜都冇用!



  • 靜 typo^^



  • 識多d朋友就會安然渡過中年危機? 我平日都吾中意講野, 係靜同內向個種, 識吾識新朋友, 對我吾係最重要. 我個point係, 你點面對對人生既疑惑? 



    吾通一識到新朋友, 就同人講自己面對緊中年危機?



  • 版主, 你覺得有咩危機? @@



  • 我冇話識到朋友就可以安然渡過中年危機@@

    我意思系個人心態多些精神寄托、多些朋友分享人生會有共鳴, 人之相識是互動的!

    如你太內向好靜去找些學習, 從中可了解自己也可得到一些成就感, 當然大前提你要投入及積極參予啦!



  • 木:我都想知你指乜危機?




  • 中年都唔係人生嘅deadline, 又做咩灰成咁呀?



  • (星島日報    報道)人到中年,危機四伏!失婚、失業,甚至中年發福,都是一眾中年男士有機會面對的危機。香港單親協會表示,時下男子要「揹起成個家」,既有生活壓力,也有工作煩惱,令硬漢子也有軟弱時。有精神科醫生指,中年男士往往感到自己責任重大,容易造成心理和生理上的問題,建議積極面對危機,在適當時候調整期望,彈性處理不同情況。



      精神科醫生曾繁光指,不少四十至五十歲的中年男士,因身任要職,為家中經濟之柱,故全神貫注工作,形成「阿特蘭提斯綜合症」,即全力工作,照顧家人,「一個人頂住個天」,久而久之,容易造成心理上壓力太大,亦會引發生理上的健康問題,如血壓高、心臟病    、肥胖等。



      他表示,社會重視學歷,中年人找工作困難,壓力大增,而退休也是煩惱根源,因很多人均是「餐搵餐食餐餐清」,憂心退休後沒收入的生活。



      曾繁光以個人血淚史為例,曾窮得連八十元一支紅酒也買不起,便試試買超市十九元八毫的紅酒,喝第一口時,感到非常難喝,不能接受,但過了一會兒,調整想法後再喝,卻覺得很美味。



      曾繁光建議,中年男士應積極面對危機,靈活及有彈性處理不同的情況,並適當調整期望。他認為,港人缺乏幽默感,但幽默感正可帶來愉快感覺,正面思維有助減低抑鬱症    的出現,所謂「一笑解千愁」。



      五十八歲的吳煥平表示,九年前遭逢喪妻之痛,遺下兩名當時僅讀小三和中四的兒子,他不時想起與妻子昔日的點滴及關係,又要獨自一人處理所有家務,多重壓力下情緒非常低落,後來學習調整心情才可輕鬆過來。「既然笑着也可解決事件,為何要經常不開心這麼辛苦呢?」



  • dolly, 妳都中年呀 hehe



  • Heracles : 我都好認同你所講





  • 何謂中年「過渡期」?它是否必然會成為「危機」?http://www.sdbcin.org/sbchinese/208/20819.htm








  • heracles, 話唔定年紀我大過你! 不過, 外表就讓你大過我啦. kakakakakakaka



  • 人到中年百事哀



  • thx kitman



    人都活到半百, 睇開d到接受自己, 放鬆d 行出第一步, 開心d 感覺下週圉吧!



    人我知活到一定時間也太 focus系自己空間, 但點解唔可以改變一下, 要自己活在死胡同裹!



    信我!人生是姿彩的睇大家可行出一步嗎^^



  • sizsiz, 做咩咁灰呀?  發生咩事?



  • 無呀,有感而發啫



  • Waste gas! I doubt ppl talking here do really know what is midlife crisis or are really going through one.  they just keep saying be positive make new friends learn new things blah blah blah.. all not the answer to all. 





    dolly  女姐, 我冇話中年危機就係人生deadline, 我都知呢個係樽頸位, 所以睇下人地點捱得過. 我都知你好中意猛叫人積極積極積極, 咁你有冇d乜野分享, 點面對self doubt 呢樣野? 你覺得自己既value有冇改變? 



    我想大家明白, 我吾係要人"安撫",猛咁淨係識得同人講it's alright. 我想知其他人面對過乜野難題同情緒問題,同埋點樣渡過。 個d話冇,因為自己夠積極既人,可以慳返啖氣,吾洗post,因為佢地其實極之吾誠實,中未赤裸裸咁面對自己,所以亦吾會對人講真話,所以呢d人既advice,吾聽乜罷。又如果有人話因為佢夠積極,從來冇覺得受呢個危機困擾,咁佢不如簡單d講話佢冇經歷過中年危機算啦,咁可以慳返大家好多時間







  • mimio, thanks!  although you may be too young to know what midlife crisis is, really appreciate that



  • WTF is that? does that explain all?



  • 中年危機========>對我呢講.........係~~~~~~~~~~~~無錢錢錢錢錢))))))))))))))))))



  • u're too rude, did i say anything to against u, nevermind la



  • 木,,

      你跟蹤咗好耐? 你又知我鍾意叫人積極? hahahahahahaha.



     我無特別秘笈或方法, 只不過帶著四個字"勇敢面對" 好多時人失敗唔係輸比經驗,知識, 係輸比自己的情緒, 轉危為機係需要EQ, 當你選擇勇敢地面對生活中無法避免的順逆境時, 你就會即時感覺到平靜, 安然度過人生的高低..   



    好多時, 我地要學習如何適應環境,而唔係埋怨環境唔適合自己.



  • i can stand rude but really intelligent ppl but i can never stand stupid but still try to teach others that's all i can say



  • dolly, 我又學到野^^



  • dolly, don't think yourself too big. no i hadn't been stalking on you, i dont have the interest. i only read a few posts of yours which already turned my interest off.  i still thnk ppl here 齋talk, like somebody who puffs how strong he is and he can defeat who who and who but the truth is he doesn't even know how to fight and 'd never been in one.  



    dare to tell what emotional difficulties you've been through and how you'd overcome those?  i am still not convinced that you truly know what a midlife crisis member has to face



  • 木, 



    係近呢十年, 係我身邊都發生咗幾樣不如意嘅事, 公司嘅人事鬥爭, 牽連至我私人嘅事, 然後係家人, 中間當然係有以淚洗臉嘅日子, 但係咁又點, 唔通坐係到任人魚肉, 唯一嘅出路咪就係解決個困難囉.



  • 係近呢十年, 係我身邊都發生咗幾樣不如意嘅事, 公司嘅人事鬥爭, 牽連至我私人嘅事, 然後係家人, 中間當然係有以淚洗臉嘅日子, 但係咁又點, 唔通坐係到任人魚肉, 唯一嘅出路咪就係解決個困難囉.





    miss, let's make clear: all the above listed could happen to any age group and has no direct linkage to midlife crisis. what most crucial that a midlifer has to face are definitely not those. you have mixed them up.  do you get my point? 





  • dolly, do you really know what midlife crisis is?  or you're those lucky ones that don't even have the intelligence to read one





  • 99.9% of she posters are puffers, think they know everything and try to be a life coach



  • dolly102 replied @ 2009-07-26 5:00 pm





    heracles, 話唔定年紀我大過你! 不過, 外表就讓你大過我啦. kakakakakakaka





    唔駛爭啦,年紀我最細,樣我未老先衰,心當然係反老頑童啦~~~~~



  • 當你係後生時發生嗰啲事, 你就唔覺得係乜, 因為最多巨劈炮唔撈, 但係當時已經係無得揀劈炮, 咁你又明唔明, 當時係焗住,繼續做, 走咗就無咗份糧, 相信亦係好多中年人嘅惡夢.

    後生時講 離婚好容易, 仍然大把青春, 但當中年時你要帶住個仔, 又唔可以劈炮時你會點? 



    識唔識去做人係好個人, 好多人過唔到咪去尋死囉, 



    我唔知你遇到啲乜野, 但係,我都認識好多人, 佢地可以輕鬆咁步入中年. 有時啲野好case by case嘅. 你睇人順唔順眼係好個人嘅.



  • dolly102 replied @ 2009-07-26 5:56 pm






    當你係後生時發生嗰啲事, 你就唔覺得係乜, 因為最多巨劈炮唔撈, 但係當時已經係無得揀劈炮, 咁你又明唔明, 當時係焗住,繼續做, 走咗就無咗份糧, 相信亦係好多中年人嘅惡夢.








    咁你可吾可以解釋下以上同中年危機有乜關係? 你究竟知吾知泛指既人年危機係乜?? 吾係話係有d個人際遇就叫中年危機架呀姐!



  • dolly, specific personal life experience is experience dealing with midlife crisis. if you don't understand the subject here i don't blame you, just DON'T confuse the topics or pretend you know.



  • dolly, specific personal life experience is not equivalent to experience dealing with midlife crisis. if you don't understand the subject here i don't blame you, just DON't confuse the topics oer pretend you know



    the more irrelevant things you talk about the more you show ppl that YOU DON'T KNOW



  • and how confused your mind is



  • 今時今日D後生仔,人浮於事,冇乜學歷既,揾份工都難,睇錢份上,打份自己唔鐘意既工,焗住,繼續做, 走咗就連飯都冇得開,唔通又叫中年危機咩?


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