未 ready?



  • 有一個男仔... 佢追左一排, 我地之後開始左...



    開始左唔係好耐, 佢同我佢未 ready 有 新既 relationship...



    佢基本上係一個好人, 都幾好仔... 佢上一個女朋友 hurt 得佢好深... 向我地一齊既時候, 佢個 ex 有打過俾佢, 佢之後同我講, 原來佢未 ready... 佢以為自己 ready, 可以開始新既 relationship... 佢話佢好驚, 唔敢住...



    佢話佢唔會同返佢個 ex 一齊... 佢叫我信佢真係未 ready. 大家可唔可以做返朋友. 



    我好想知佢有冇呃我....



  • 好難知道 wor..


    um.. do u know how long he has been with his ex?



  • 幾個月啦. 佢個 ex 算係佢真真正正第一個女朋友...







  • 又係咁嘅借口,佢根本未忘記佢ex,所以先唔可以接受另一個開始.



  • 我好掛住佢...



  • 能夠咁樣同你講..我相信佢唔係花心既人...我覺得可信



  • 佢仲有同我講, 佢唔想叫我等佢, 因為佢話對我唔 fair...





    我未同佢一齊既時候, 我有問過佢, 佢對佢既 ex 冇曬野啦? 佢就答我, 依家獅一個更重要既人... which 佢既意思係我... 但係一齊左又話未 read...



  • 未 ready 可能係真既, 但同時亦都表示左, 你唔夠 power 將佢拉返出黎



  • 樓主,我都遇過你這種情形,但我覺得他真的沒有欺騙你...



  • carol,


    你既故事係點? 最後合定分?



  • luke,他的前度是死於cancer...雖然隔了數年..他還沒放得下...他說不是不愛我,只是最愛的還是她...這一年半對我很內疚...最近分開了,形於陌路一樣...



  • luke replied @ 2009-01-18 10:34 am





    未 ready 可能係真既, 但同時亦都表示左, 你唔夠 power 將佢拉返出黎





    正如你所說的,我未夠power



  • carol,


    噢, 過身又確實非一般痛楚, 我估真係無咁容易出得返黎, 就算你幾索幾正都冇用, 要等佢醒返, 返黎現實先得, 如果, 到時佢搵返你, 你又未有男友, 你會唔會...?



  • luke replied @ 2009-01-18 10:59 am





    carol,


    噢, 過身又確實非一般痛楚, 我估真係無咁容易出得返黎, 就算你幾索幾正都冇用, 要等佢醒返, 返黎現實先得, 如果, 到時佢搵返你, 你又未有男友, 你會唔會?





    其實他正式和我說的時候,是除夕那一天...我其實識他的時候是知道,前度在他心中是非常重要的...


    未開始前我也問過社工朋友如何幫他的,但社工朋友也說只有依靠他自己...





    我相信我會等他的...



  • 有點感動, 看到你對他的愛, 他對故人的愛, 希望, 你的等待可以帶給你幸福



  • luke replied @ 2009-01-18 11:13 am





    有點感動, 看到你對他的愛, 他對故人的愛, 希望, 你的等待可以帶給你幸福





    我也不知道...心裡面很想放手,尊重他的決定,實際上我做不到...很矛盾



  • 假若勉強一齊令雙方增添痛楚和壓力, 乾脆退一步回復好朋友關係其實都值得嘗試, 之少可以保持接觸, 多一點機會關心他.



  • luke replied @ 2009-01-18 11:34 am





    假若勉強一齊令雙方增添痛楚和壓力, 乾脆退一步回復好朋友關係其實都值得嘗試, 至少可以保持接觸, 多一點機會關心他.





    謝謝你,我會的



  • 我想問, 點為止係夠power呢?



  • my ex sl's nick name was greentea also..kinda miss him sometimes



  • your story is so touching lei...add oil ar~





    relationship needs time to build up and i think he needs more time to forget about the past...



  • thank you all.





    I am hoping that one day he's ready... but he doesn't know that I am still waiting...





    I don't know what to do.





    Carol, add oil!



  • greentea ,謝謝你



  • 佢有無呃你


    好視乎你地去到咩關係


    e.g.上左床未



  • 未知 replied @ 2009-01-19 2:22 am





    佢有無呃你


    好視乎你地去到咩關係


    e.g.上左床未


    ==========================================


    your questions is so fxxking stupid, is it all you care about? gosh



  • ex sl replied @ 2009-01-18 12:31 pm





    my ex sl's nick name was greentea also..kinda miss him sometimes


    ------


    want a replacement?



  • 未知...講得無錯喎....


    佢未食你而講話未ready,咁個男仔都好老實,證明佢根本唔想扼你感情.


    但係如果你同佢上咗床而佢咁講,即係擺明玩完你就走啦,上完床先話未ready,咁你既然未ready就無食人啦,擺明扼食.


    所以上咗同未上分別好大架.



  • 咁妳咪搵過另一個囉



  • At least he put the relationship on hold, better than him leading you along while he has another person in his heart.





    But be careful not to get involved in draggy relationships.



  • 他倆一齊經歷既野比你倆既多


    俾啲時間大家,慢慢黎,但唔好等


    亦無需要懷疑自己既魅力




  • 小嗡嗡, are you a guy or a girl?



  • 現階段, 分開一下係好0既.



  • Myra,


    如果你係女仔,我願意變成一個大男人;如果你係男仔,我願意變成一個小女孩.



  • well thank you ;) but i'm not looking for a partner.





    I just thought your reply below is very well said, very insightful. so i wonder if you're a girl or a guy.





    小嗡嗡 replied @ 2009-01-19 10:16 am


    他倆一齊經歷既野比你倆既多


    俾啲時間大家,慢慢黎,但唔好等


    亦無需要懷疑自己既魅力




  • 我同佢冇上過床...





    我真係好掛住佢. 等之外我可以做 d 咩?



  • greentea replied @ 2009-01-19 2:21 pm





    我同佢冇上過床...





    我真係好掛住佢. 等之外我可以做 d 咩?











    其實佢都已經開到口, 咁我相信你都無乜野可以再做.





    你不如努力面對現實, 積極生活, 多0的擴大自己0既社交圈子仲好啦~



  • 其實拍拖都好靠feel


    過一段時間


    你對佢/佢對你既feel都可能會唔同


    你要有心理準備



  • stupid replied @ 2009-01-19 3:54 am





    your questions is so fxxking stupid, is it all you care about? gosh





    =============================





    但事實有唔少都係外表西裝友,實則搵食男


    佢present 得好好仔唔代表佢唔係搵食


    有人會食完之後先飛你,仲用個好好既藉口贏埋最尾一個好印像





    你覺得stupid只係你人如其名諗唔到




  • 佢應該係冇呃你! 仲都叫肯負責任 ! 放開 d 啦 !



  • 不過, 就唔好諗做返朋友啦.......



  • 曾經


    我都試過有個男仔追左我一排


    同你情況差唔多一樣


    佢都同我講佢一定唔會同返ex一齊


    但個結果係佢都係放棄左我然後同返ex一齊



  • Myra,





    同一句鼓勵既說話,一個由男性說出,一個由女性說出,那一句容易入耳?



  • Welcome to add with me!


    i am 32 and 180cm tall!


    msn :


    benben818hk@hotmail.com



  • He told me his ex cheated on him. and he does not want to see his ex again. but then... who knows...





    I sent him a message yesterday, told him that how I feel... told him I cannot be friends with him at this moment, cuz I am still thinking about him, and miss him alot...





    I told him that 未 ready is not a valid reason for me... so I would prefer end whatever relationship we have right now. even being friends... I will keep on think about him if we keep in contact...





    but guess what... I still missing him a lot...





    what else can I say? what else can I do? there's nothing I can say and nothing do...



  • 小嗡嗡, my guess is you're a girl. ;)





    greentea, focus on other parts of your life i guess?



  • 如果佢無呃完你上床先分手,咁都可以assume佢唔係呃你


    咁佢依家同你講左都好,好過一路keep住你但個心有第二個





    我覺得你唔好等佢,因為唔知等到幾時


    如果第日佢有心搵返你,先再考慮佢