男朋友係BANKER好辛苦呀

做律師又點?你係唔岩人杯茶既,人地照樣可以飛你冷落你!
 
 好明顯,版主條仔分明就唔係咁愛佢啦,講黎都曬氣!
 
 就算唔親自約出黎講清楚,相信若版主放棄找男友,呢條仔都唔會搵番佢!
 
 男人就係咁,有d龜縮d既,想分手又唔敢出聲,女既出聲佢又要扮下野,拖多一頭半個月就會自然分手,自然唔聯絡,自然玩完....

男對女冷漠,未必一定同依家個市有關,好多人都忙啦,我反而覺得係男既對女既唔上心,唔係咁鍾意,行左唔係太夾,又無藉口分手,自己又唔想做衰人先飛人,米咁lo!

多謝你既泠言泠語,做律師都係人,都有感情同七情六慾....我知感情既野冇得免強,所以我都好泠靜咁冇要生要死呀,又冇捉住佢唔放,唔通都係我既錯咩? 如果可以既,我相信天下所有人都唔希望咁易結束一段感情,你話係唔係?

beautyaiya
 以前我也是用忙做藉口, 所以損失女朋友. 只怪自已唔好
 再忙也好, 每日應用一些時間去溝通及分享
 我也後悔!

Hi Beautyaiya,
 
 我dBANKER朋友比較強,所以我地會討論多過傾訴..
 其實我的情況和你有些相似, 但我追那個是女BANKER.結果都係唔聽我電話,最後我亦都唔再煩佢. 因為她話沒什麼要和我傾所以唔聽我電話... 明啦.
 
 好像你這樣下去只是無聲分手,不告門別, 並不是和平分手. 其實是很HURT的.
 主動一些提出分手吧, 這樣自己會比較容易放得低.

Hi Tom x:
 
 我明白個班女banker心態,基本上做得女banker唔使指意有男朋友,性格仲剛硬過我地做律師既,所以我建議你非必要都唔好簡女banker.我唸我會唸清楚後同佢提出分手.其實我個性都好獨立,只係覺得有時要做番個小鳥依人,但落花有意,流水無情,唸起都好hurt,都明白hurt之余都要繼續生活同做野....早知今日,何必當初!有得選擇,我都會選擇番一個唔係事業型既男士.....

初初幾個月拍拖, 我都試過被男朋友冷落過一段日子, 好似我打俾佢會煩到佢個隻, 但係我個陣時可能仲細個, 冇諗過要分開(但而家大個左, 回想起可能會同佢講分手), 結果有一日我崩潰, 係電話度同佢講清楚,喊到收唔到聲,好彩佢仲係愛我,到而家佢改善左好多, 關心我好多
 我當然希望你都係甘, 到最後佢可以醒覺, 的起心肝改善佢自已, 能找到亙相喜歡大家的, 是緣份, 得來不易, 但不幸地佢連電話都唔聽你, 女人青春不多, 佢鍾唔鍾意都講清楚丫, 真是太不成熟了, 是時候你要找回你的尊嚴, 冷靜下, 識多些朋友, 愛自已多些, 女人不要時常令自已煩惱呀, 個樣會冇哂光彩架,希望你快快走出煩惱啦^^

當你下次揀一個唔係事業型既男人時,你可能又會嫌棄佢無出息,份工唔夠專業,襯唔起你呢位專業人士既姐~
 
 找對像,有時唔係職業既問題,重點係性格,人家喜歡你有幾多姐!
 
 假若係唔多鍾意你,擺明唔多想緊你既,就算同你行緊,一樣可以恃勢凌人咁head住你,要你等call,愛情既野,永遠都係睇你好唔好彩,同你本身既條件,未必有直接既關係!
 
 另一半可以咁樣待你,好明顯係你著緊佢比較多!即使你外在條件有幾好,幾有自信都好,但係兩性關係中,唔代表你一定係強勢,呢段情中,擺明係女既已經頂唔順男架啦!
 
 女既要由弱轉強,睇怕都要花一d功夫!除非玩分手姐~但元旦在即,大時大節玩分手,對於一向咁有自信既女仔黎講,將會係一件好hurt既事~

我明白個班女banker心態,基本上做得女banker唔使指意有男朋友,性格仲剛硬過我地做律師既,所以我建議你非必要都唔好簡女banker.
 ................唔係呀?你係米有職業歧視呀?還是自以為係律師就高人一等?乜野行業都有人性格剛硬架啦!咁咒banker女唔駛指意有男友我覺得就毒左d!
 你唔好忘記,你呢d乜野律師呀,醫生既專業人士,好多男人都自問高攀唔起!我地d港男點敢媾你呀?我相信好多兄弟都認為banker女會比你呢d專業人士容易親近lo!
 
 我唸我會唸清楚後同佢提出分手.其實我個性都好獨立,只係覺得有時要做番個小鳥依人,但落花有意,流水無情,唸起都好hurt,
 ..........假如你係咁獨立,咁容易放低既就唔駛係度啦!一個對感情理智又獨立既人士,早就斬左欖啦!再唔係,早就搵條佬四四六六講清楚啦,駛乜係度拉鋸?
 hurt當然有!特別對於一d專業人士黎講,自己職業咁高尚,咁有能力,又年青(當你係喇~),咁樣俾人暗飛,俾人冷落被迫分手,當然係比一般既女仔hurt既,呢樣野好容易令人明白!
 
 無辦法,香港女士一般都係咁~我唔覺得你同一般既港女有乜分別~
 
 都明白hurt之余都要繼續生活同做野....早知今日,何必當初!有得選擇,我都會選擇番一個唔係事業型既男士.....
 
 祝你好運啦!
 不過下次遇著個非事業男時,唔好又話人太痴身,覺得人地既職業唔襯你就好喇~
 
 係咁多!閃~

Hi Beautyaiya,
 
 其實我的性格比較平和, 故比較喜歡一些性格比較剛硬及獨立的女孩, 這樣的話一起時會有趣一些. 至於是否banker反而無所謂.
 以HK女性來說即使性格剛硬, 但都是知道何時要小鳥依人, (如你.) 只是如你所說落花有意,流水無情.
 
 對於我來說HURT只是一時的感覺, 過後回想也是覺得SWEET的..緣起緣滅而已.
 
 事業其實是大部份男性的生命意義(特別是現今的HK), 所不同的是他們處於事業的那個階段; 而在不同階段, 他們的對於伴侶/家庭的著緊程度會有差異而已.
 
 據我所見大部份在於事業上愈有成就的男性對於伴侶/家庭愈是著緊, 所以不要灰心..

好多字, 睇唔曬哈哈 ~
 
 開心就繼續, 唔開心...送埋黎都無用?
 
 各位新年快樂 ^^

前邊個位人兄,我地律師得罪佐你咩? 你唔好咁冇品得唔得呀?作為男人比D風度好冇?你咁算係男人咩?唔好成個八婆咁......女人既世界你明咩?我有問過你意見咩?係呀,我岩岩同佢講分手呀,起碼我多謝呢度支持我比意見既朋友,而你...我亦都祝你好運,希望你呢一世感情順順利利!

HI 有咩問題兄,
 哈,知道沒有, HK女仔"胸"起上來都很犀利的.. 當然溫柔起來弈可殺死人.
 
 Hi Beautyaiya,
 你終於結案陳詞啦, 心�堿O否放鬆了一d呢. 真係要祝你一世感情順利, 但代價可能會係悶到嘔..

I think beautyaiya and yin share the same man
 You two should exchange some information.......

hi Tom X:
 
 同佢結束佐啦,心情好差....其實都冇話悶唔悶,同佢一起個時都悶,只係而家冇佐個人咁者,以前可以係佢面前"申"下,但後期佢變佐質我好耐都冇"申"過,所以話有等於冇.
 
 to love:
 
 我都有喊過,昨晚就喊過....但唔係係佢面前喊,我永遠係佢面前都喊唔出,可能同我職業有關....算啦,你個個肯為你改都叫珍惜架啦,希望你同佢會幸福.佢係好唔成熟,成日遇到事就避個種,冇d責任感!昨晚同佢講佢都想扯開話題,仲叫我唔好講埋d咁既野....後來我最後一句分手就cut佐佢線!我唔想咁拖落去,唔想為見唔到未來既感情付出,學你講女人青春唔多,唔可以浪廢係d唔值得既人身上,所以話男人唔明白女人唸法,佢地成日都以為要灑脫,佢地唔明女人青春有限,成日都將自己角色代入去唸.唉．．．．祝福你．．．亦都係度祝福個班"濺男".

banker.. famous for being 'players' ..

to singa:
 
 用忙做藉口可能你唔夠愛佢,女人係好敏感既,佢會feel度你忙定係唔忙,好似我個咁,我feel得度,所以佢忙我冇煩過佢,佢唔忙,比女朋友煩下我覺得天公地道,因為我地唔係經常見,如果煩下都唔比,呢段感情都唔會有結果,唔會有結果對女人來講係冇意思,因為唔會同佢拖一世.我都知係男人面前一提結婚就會嚇親佢,但拍佐唔係咁耐拖都變成咁,女人係會feel度值唔值得落去.所以希望你會對你另一半好ｄ,比多ｄ安全感佢佢就唔會成日煩架啦！女人需要既係安全感．．．．

hi benefit,
 
 係唔係所有banker都係player我唔敢講....但有一樣我認同既就係佢地一直覺得自己高人一等,要人遷就得好緊要...十個banker九個花心,仲有一個在動搖！我個個（今日開始算ex)啦,佢就冇比我捉過痛腳,但佢最近既行為難免比我懷疑有第二個.

Hi Beautyaiya,
 
 未講分手前是很煩, 講了分手後就很失落, 是正常的.
 根據你所講你個個是成日遇到事就避個種冇d責任感的BF,丟了可矣.
 其實拍拖如果怕煩就不如不拍.
 
 其實BANKER並不高人一等, 我的BANKER朋友說"你有沒有想過你平時DEAL開的BANKER可能比你蠢很多" 事實我弈都係, 如果唔係這次banker點會loss咁多錢.

你男朋友做乜banker咁厲害呀？我係ibank做VP都唔會叫自己做banker。

算啦tom x,我都覺得好多banker都好蠢,咩都唔識,仲係度指手劃腳!其實我地都受過唔少banker氣,初初以為遇度一個好d既,可以體量自己,點知都係衰人一個.....令我對banker印像又差佐好多,可能仲有d好banker未死曬既.
 
 r:
 
 我唔覺得banker好利害,有時感情既野,有feel就係有feel,冇feel做皇帝都係冇feel....你做VP唔係最高危既咩而家?iBank銜頭高,有邊個係可以稱自己做banker?都係出邊咁叫.誰不知做親d公司好多都係垃圾公司,仲要包裝到好好出去騙投資者,上完後有事投行會理咩?

Hi Beautyaiya,
 
 其實BANKER都只是一份工作, 沒所謂高不高, 低不低, 平常心啦..
 
 你講得對, 最緊要有FEEL, 其他一切都唔重要, 咁樣先可以你又煩吓我,我又煩吓你, 此之謂SWEET DATING.

我都想係咁sweet,但人地嫻我煩冇計....可能我自己唔夠吸引啦...所以佢咁快覺得悶.其實點解你唔繼續追個女banker者?可能追追下打動方心.雖然性格硬,但女人始終都係水造既,好容易感動架傻瓜!但亦都好容易受傷......

HI beautyaiya....
 
 jusy pass by & read your story.....
 
 If u wanna cry, just cry, let all your emotion gone......let it go..don't keep it in your heart, will hurt u.... ok?
 
 Wish u be fine & Happy new year

Hi Beautyaiya..
 
 btw.... if u go out for clubbing tonight, take good care yourself....don't drink too much....easy get drunk ah ok?
 
 love yourself.....ok?

hi Beautyaiya,
 
 都已經追了一整年啦, 弈都曾經有兩次大家的心很close, 可惜兩次都deal唔成. 而我地的想法是有點各走極端 - 我是一個很樂觀的人而她是一個很悲觀的人 - 所以大家在溝通上有點格格不入.
 
 同時我是一個很得閑的人, 經常忍不住打電話煩她.. 所以在她的眼中我是一個很煩的人, 但又不懂make her happy的人.
 
 在這個x'mas前, 我不想再糾纏煩惱下去, 故決定放低.. 說真的真的很掛住她.

BTW, 我發現很多HK女仔都很悲觀, 很多事總是由負的一面開始想起. WHY ???

Hi aero and tom x:
 
 多謝你地既關心,仲有幾幾個鐘2008年就過去啦,希望所有唔開都唔好帶入去2009年,所以亦都係我選擇放手既原因.我唔會去飲,我好愛惜自己,因為我都知點解作濺自己,過佐去就由佢過去,我昨晚喊佐好耐,頭先都有喊過.
 TOM,其實你應該知個女仔對你有冇feel架,如果有feel,唔怕同佢講中意佢,心好CLOSE已經漫進佐一大步,有冇試過SEND短信比佢?咁樣唔會好煩,好仔係要人TUM,口口聲聲話唔中意,其實好霖,亦都好少會講出口,所以你唔應該放棄,按道理你地兩個好夾,一個悲觀既女仔係需要一個樂觀既男仔,冇可能兩個都樂觀或悲觀,咁先有互補作用,一年唔算長,好似呢個悲觀既女仔個人認為係需要時間,我同佢都係識佐半年先START,初初都對佢冇信心架,但後來感動佐......其實點解你唔直接問佢有冇機會者? 唔通要個女仔人家開口咩? 冇機會你死心都直得,可能就係因為你自己都冇信心同恆心,好難讓一個悲觀既女仔心交給你.....多D tum下佢開心,例如送D得意野,唔一定要貴野,好似D專業人士物質上需求唔大,需要男人細心....明冇?真係中意既唔好怕監介......女仔要一個肯負責任同有主見既男仔,而唔係懦夫,唔好學我個個咁選擇逃避,女仔好多時都會試探你既心,信我!因為我以前都成日試佢.....

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i had a banker bf be4....but that was not a good experience .
 
 he 's so proud of his job .then my job seems not a business to his .
 Banker looks dowm thoes level lower than him , but never respect those level higher than him !
 
 he saves every single dollar !!
 
 i had never recevied a gift from him over $100 ....
 
 2000000per year .....shirt

只因男人覺得你唔值,所以米唔會花錢,花時間係你身上lo!

睇曬全部留言後想向網友八下,係米要成績好好既人先可以係大學度讀law?
 
 點解....d中文別字錯得咁離譜?

hi just passing,
 
 A very similar story we had, I have never receive any gift from him….how long have you went out with him?

hi Beautyyaiya,
 
 你上面所講得我都做過, 而且不只一次. 其實兩次都是在我將要放棄的時候由她主動提出的.
 最近這次我知道她已經盡力賞試去接受我的, 只是無論我如何努力都達不到她的要求.
 雖然千金難買心頭好, 但我真我已經盡力了, 所以我知道係時候放低了.
 
 BTW, 我係個種認定目標就勇往直前的人, 而且心中HIDE不到秘密的人, 所以有時說話難免衝撞了她, 而她是那種很敏感的人. -- 總括而言, 我不懂怎TUM女仔..哈.

just passing
 
 your ex-bf was so cheap!!

Hi Beautyaiya/just passing,
 
 Is it possible you met the same banker.. ha

ladymarmalade

tom x replied @ 2009-01-01 12:16 am
 
 Hi Beautyaiya/just passing,
 
 Is it possible you met the same banker.. ha
 ___________________________________________________
 
 the same banker is mine too ~~haha

Hi Ladymarmalade,
 
 Oh really, 佩服佩服..

ladymarmalade

it's a small world
 
 i did suffer a lot from the long distance relationship
 
 I just want a simple and normal onel

hi Ladymarmalade,
 
 Just wonder.. are you male or female ?
 
 & what you mean " long distance relationship " ?

ladymarmalade

tom x replied @ 2009-01-01 12:45 am
 
 hi Ladymarmalade,
 
 Just wonder.. are you male or female ?
 
 & what you mean " long distance relationship " ?
 _______________________________________________________
 
 Why r so puzzled about my gender? Am i misleading again purposely or accidentally ?

what is banker? a person working in a bank?

ladymarmalade

passerby Y replied @ 2009-01-01 12:49 am
 
 
 what is banker? a person working in a bank?
 
 __________________________________________________
 
 Younger banker are those speak with nature/ artificial American accent in LKF, the most advantageous ppl in cutting girls.

are you kidding me? that's banker?

I really didn't read all the prior messages in this thread. So have no idea about what you guys were discussing.
 
 but a banker? hope it's not an employee working in a bank (or even a pretigious bank)

ladymarmalade

行內人一般如果叫自己係Banker 多數都係講緊 Corporate 同 Commercial Relationship Manager 一類，即係作為銀行同銀行之公司客戶的中間人，Banker 的工作一般都係幫間Banker servce 好現成客，做下review 睇下d 客有冇問題，做定期，借貨，分析公司的健康，及跑數, 即係要幫銀行搵錢，如發掘多ｄ新客等, 通常都係銀行ｏ既前線工作人員。

ladymarmalade

致於I-Bank 既I-Banker 就係做Corporate Finance 一方面的，即係吾只係做debt 既借貨，而係equity side, 的任何融資方案，如 Initial Public Offer, Placement 等

Hi ladymarmalade
 
 完全明白曬..
 are you banker

I see some young "bankers" making over $10M HKD a year. And they never call themselve bankers. And they're salespeople...and selling products such as accumulators/decumulators are what they do everyday. And of cos entertain customers on their firm's expenditure.

my bf is banker too............he out town frequency >.<