男朋友係BANKER好辛苦呀



  • 有冇人男朋友都係BANKER呀?佢成日唔得閑理我同陪我,我只由等佢搵我,呢種感覺好難受,仲有又唔敢打電話比佢,驚阻住佢做野! 最近我發覺佢對我泠淡佐,可能係緊張工作既野,但我又唔知點先安慰度佢,好無奈咁,有男朋友等如冇,想放棄但又唔舍得,覺得係度拖住,我可以點做呀?



  • I have the same experience like you. Loneliness is the cost of having a gorgeous bf.



  • banker係米銀行家既意思?



  • 我ex boy,就算忙大家不見面,都想佢每日夜晚比一個電話我傾十五分鐘, 這個要求我覺得唔過份, 佢話這樣要求好大壓力,,,,最後分手了....唔明拍拖唔係想人互相關心, 互相鼓勵, 佢都唔比時間大家溝通, 點知佢想點.... finally, 大家不夠愛.... 可能已出現第三者,所以不夠時間去entertain你.



  • I have a busy job too, so i understand his situation.





    Just a very simple philosophy, leave it when u can't put up with this, FLUNK him as he cannot fulfill the basic duties. No need to have quarrels. Losing temper is a childish and disgraceful act



  • 第1, 愛吾愛你同係咪banker同biz無咩直接關係.


    第2, 如果佢係一個出色既人, 愛情同事業都可以handle得好好


    BTW..我bf係一個上市公司既director



  • 你叻law


    玩哂命



  • sue, 你bf係咪Federic呀?



  • 其實同呢d人拍拖應該有心理準備對方會好忙,我老公一個禮拜飛3-4日我都係甘過日子。有時候會難受,但佢有自己的事業同理想,無理由做老婆既唔支持。





    加油啊!



  • 所以我唔明點解佢而家會咁,以前忙都會經常打比我,收工都會,可能而家佢識佐第二個,就連我打比佢都會唔聽電話.SUE你就好啦,既然佢忙都重視你,希望你好好珍惜,我發覺我連珍惜既機會都冇.



  • 我ex boy,就算忙大家不見面,都想佢每日夜晚比一個電話我傾十五分鐘, 這個要求我覺得唔過份, 佢話這樣要求好大壓力,,,,最後分手了....唔明拍拖唔係想人互相關心, 互相鼓勵, 佢都唔比時間大家溝通, 點知佢想點.... finally, 大家不夠愛.... 可能已出現第三者,所以不夠時間去entertain你.


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    我覺得佢有第二個,其實我覺得每晚一個電話唔過份呀,因為唔係成日見,或者佢唔夠愛你,或你愛佢多過佢愛你,我就係咁...我愛佢多過佢愛我,我都唔想係咁.我覺得而家同佢好難相處,我地都唔係日日電話,都係兩三日一個電話,但都係咁.朋友成日同我講D BANKER好花同成日去滾,我都有D懷疑係咁,但我又唔想咁唸佢,因為我冇證據,所以屈係心度好辛苦.



  • 講真,如果佢唔聽電話又真係有點可疑。我同老公拍拖個陣,每晚都通電話,而家結了婚,佢都成日買禮物俾我。不如你趁著新年同佢食餐住家飯(自己下廚)或手寫卡片寄到佢office,話畀佢知你掛住佢,目第下有無得掹。



  • ANN,我都有成日同佢講掛住佢,我亦都做足曬架啦,最近我成日為一個電話發佢皮氣,佢都仲會緊張我,但我唔明就係近排金融界唔忙,佢仲衰過以前.我自問我唔係愛得唔夠,近排次次都係我約佢食飯,仲有我最近發現佢既BLOG成日有個女仔會去,我真係好懷疑係第三者.但我唔敢問,驚拆穿佢反面!



  • 點解唔直接d大家出泥講....講唔掂就分...


    人類dna出錯....喜歡覆雜化ma???



  • 就是啦


    兩個人相處, 大家都不花時間去載種, 缺乏溝通, 女方一定會想多左野, 想想下會去壞方面想.





    同exboy都是為了他不打電話比我, 又話唔記得左你,他很不重視我, 所以分手.  男人係咪甘忙, 每日夜間抽十五分鍾和自己喜歡的人傾個電話都話很大壓力,,,,當初一齊夠time consuming



  • 唯一方法....坐低直接傾...


    甘簡單既事兩個都做唔到...仲講咩一齊...


    胡思亂想會痴線



  • Aimar,我都想坐抵同佢好好傾,但佢成日都扮冇野,亦都冇解釋過點解唔聽電話,見度面就好似以前咁,但一唔見就唔知佢做緊乜,就好似變佐第二個人咁.我亦都有發過佢皮氣,但我永遠唔敢提分手,因為未有足夠證據下我唔敢亂來,我驚可能事情唔係我唸到咁壞.但女人直覺好準,我就硬係覺得佢識佐第二個,我懷疑成日上佢BLOG既既個女仔同佢有路.你話我應唔應該直接問佢呢樣野定係扮冇野?



  • Beautyaiya:


    可能大家唔岩大家呢



  • Beautyaiya,





    If you continue to sit around and does not improve yourself, you will find distance between you and your banker bf getting so far that you cannot get hold of him one day.





    Problem is not that he has no time for you. Problem is that you DON"T KEEP UP with him and you were too lazy. Get something to do (learn a new language, take a MBA course, etc) to improve yourself or you may as well give up.



  • 你梗係咪講呢個問題啦....佢會用你唔信佢泥做把柄...


    你要好強梗甘傾.....佢冇合浬解釋又改唔到既.....


    你都應該................



  • 算啦,可能好似Ryan咁講大家唔岩大家,同佢半年都唔知佢中意d乜,唔係我唔想去了解,而係佢根本唔想比我了解佢.我係做法律,差在我如果係心理學家就好....以前忙得制根本冇時間去唸佢,反而佢主動,而家經濟不景手頭上既野冇咁多,所以多d時間唸住可以多d時間同佢一齊,點知佢咁樣!我一方面都懷疑我係咪太強勢而男人唔中意,但初初以為佢呢一類會需要一個獨立d既,我都好獨立架啦,但係我都係女人,係佢面前都會小烏依人,但可能落花有意,流水無情!正如aimar咁講,佢吃軟唔吃硬,用強勢咪搞到大家吵架分手收場,識佢咁耐我地冇嗌過交其實,其係發下皮氣咁....



  • ladymarmalade:


    你以前男朋友都係banker呀?係咪都係咁呀?





    Ann:


    你老公都係banker?你地以前點過架?係咪都係咁? 我應該點做?










  • 頂唔順氣佬唔理你既,夠薑米分手lo!





    人生邊有咁完美架?個個人既命水都唔同!有條仔又話人唔陪你,無時又呻無仔媾!我覺得你呢d有男友既女人根本就身在福中不知福啦!





    人地專心搵錢,工作至上你又唔like!媾女偷食就話賤姐,好心就體諒下啦!





    你自己得閒無野做米進修下,搵野學下,搵姊妹陪下lo!駛唔駛成塊膏藥咁貼住條佬呀?





    到你條佬成日陪你時你又可能話佢無出息,成日痴住女人無前途架啦!!





    依家女多男少,大把好條件既女仔或者大把女仔都係單身,人家恨有條咁既仔都無啦!





    你試下同條仔分手拋一件出黎呀,大把女要呀!





    不過咁,總有d人話針唔拮到肉就唔知痛既!但我覺得你真係咁頂唔住既米分手lo!唔好妄想攪乜野小動作去改變你既男人!





    女人最無知既就係以為自己有能力改變男人!做人要厚道d,米剩係顧自己,輸打羸要!





    總之人邊有完美架?伴侶總有缺點架啦,係你結婚之前睇清楚佢,係唔岩既,米飛左人lo!但就唔好做人咁貪心,想住依家有一件,等再搵到另一件更正時先飛起依家呢一件,好似人地生人霸死地咁!呢d咁貪心既女人無好結果!





    呢段感情係去定留,自己成熟d想清楚啦,米剩係曉係度怨人地唔陪你,你自己係成年人,都要想下究竟自己發埋呢d小姐脾氣係米好無謂,好無知!





    大把對事業雄心壯志既男人,都想背後有一個明白佢既女人支持自己,而唔係剩係識係背後怨個男人做乜唔個個星期陪自己?點解每日唔接自己放工?點解唔每日一個來電同自己談心?





    話你知,只有對事業無要求,無上進心,想住等你照顧既廢柴男人先會咁閒咁樣日日應酬條女!



  • Beautyaiya,





    乜佢唔係你sl咩?



  • sorry, 你唔係佢sl 咩?



  • 你男朋友叫x星?來自北京?



  • 話你知,只有對事業無要求,無上進心,想住等你照顧既廢柴男人先會咁閒咁樣日日應酬條女!


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    如果係咁樣的話, d女人一個人走去醫院生仔都係應該? 女人唔應該要求個男人為女人做任何事啦 呵呵 ~







  • 好簡單:





    你唔清楚,同唔明就唔好係度說教啦,你地男人最中意做咩你地自己知.係背後收埋一件仲要扮可憐扮無孤.我唔使你教我點做,你都係番去教訓你個個啦,或者搵你既男性朋友飲多兩杯,唔該!



  • 做banker都會有得放假 but 呢個時勢, 佢地都high risk? 唔打得電話米 sms 羅, 溝通到就得啦 ~



  • cool7002:





    冇呀,電話都少...高危都要食飯休息架!以前忙我可以體量,但家下個個都得閑,我覺得好過份,雖然我知佢隨時都可能冇佐份工,但.....唉!唔知呀...好煩.




  • Beautyaiya replied @ 2008-12-29 6:46 pm





    cool7002:





    冇呀,電話都少...高危都要食飯休息架!以前忙我可以體量,但家下個個都得閑,我覺得好過份,雖然我知佢隨時都可能冇佐份工,但.....唉!唔知呀...好煩.


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    佢做得呢個位, 無左份工, 就算你養佢, 佢都要過到自己先得架????



  • 佢地呢行, 活力有限! 又多應酬, 又多paper work! 又要成日飛! 如果佢唔係有其他選擇的話, 你都應該體諒一下佢羅 ~



  • 唔知呀,但我覺得好怪....


    唔通佢擔心到出年年中,我就要日日過住咁既生活,或者係自私,但係大家一齊,係分享同分擔,如果個個都好似佢咁,都唔使拍拖同結婚!老實講我都擔心我自己架,分分�瘜ㄦ



  • 咁好睇你做邊行?





    banker 都分, 佢地做大行 or 細行? 本地 or 國際?





    佢地個腦要記住自己工作上既資料, 又小時間 take rest, 你想下, 佢地仲有無位去思想同你傾計?








    佢地行內競爭又大, 做衰左個名就真係邊到都唔駛去, 掉轉你係佢, 你自己會係點?




  • 你呢d港女先難服侍!講你又唔接受!





    既然你自己都話佢有第二件啦,咁唔高興米分手lo!駛係度扮煩話唔知點做!





    慌你唔係個d想先where住一件,然後同時又媾第二件仔既貪心女人咩?





    你係咁好條件,咁有骨氣既,見條仔唔岩心水米分手lo!





    都講到出口唔捨得,但又lum唔掂條仔!若然明知條仔有第二條菜你都忍得既,即係你唔可以無左佢啦!咁你米繼續忍氣吞聲,做個隨傳隨到既女友lo!或者日子耐左,你條仔見你表現好,會好似倪震咁,最後都同你結婚既!你慢慢等啦!





    睇你個款都係鍾意人地講d你岩聽既野,咁上黎呢度有叉用咩?





    最好呢度全部既網友都話你條佬唔岩,佢應該成日陪你,你怪佢係無錯既,最好等網友過兩下絕招俾你,等你條佬可以自動蒲頭黎做你個觀音兵!我諗咁樣你最開心!





    睇你既留言就知你係一個不知反省,將自己放係高處唔識體諒人既女人啦!





    大家係呢度留言同你chat 都戇居!



  • 如果係咁樣的話, d女人一個人走去醫院生仔都係應該? 女人唔應該要求個男人為女人做任何事啦 呵呵 ~











    by cool7002


    呢樣野都要睇情況,依家世畢難撈,唔駛做呀?版主依家要生仔咩?死人淋樓呀?做女人成塊膏藥咁痴到實,係男人都怕左你啦!



  • 好簡單 replied @ 2008-12-29 7:04 pm





    如果係咁樣的話, d女人一個人走去醫院生仔都係應該? 女人唔應該要求個男人為女人做任何事啦 呵呵 ~











    by cool7002


    呢樣野都要睇情況,依家世畢難撈,唔駛做呀?版主依家要生仔咩?死人淋樓呀?做女人成塊膏藥咁痴到實,係男人都怕左你啦!


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    我睇到你話, 上進既男人就唔會有時間做其他野嗎? 咁仲睇乜情況?





    版主唔係想痴到實, 係佢當中有不明白之處, 如果佢係痴到實的話, 唔駛係到發問題啦, 仲唔去佢條仔公司留下等 or 追魂call咩?



  • Hi Beautyaiya,





    我很多FRIEND都是BANKER, 他們現在並不忙只是很煩, 在這情況下他們很須要好朋友,特別是BF/GF, 傾訢.


    用男性的角度來看你的CASE, 你都係時候要"CUT LOSS"啦.




  • 想唔通既米親自搵條仔三口六面講清楚lo!





    有無第二件都唔駛估估下!駛係呢度問呢個問個個?





    又怕死又唔like條佬唔陪你,咁樣點姐?依家係自己同條佬兩個人拍拖,有問題自然係兩個人自己去解決!





    傾唔埋咀,各自想過自己既生活,男既想專心工作,女既想多d搵男友陪,傾唔掂數米分手lo!又驚散,又唔滿於現狀,呢d叫自虐!根本唔會有更好既解決辦法!





    要人讓步,就要睇下邊個愛邊個多d,邊個願意犧牲喇!兩個人係埋一齊,一個願打,一個願挨,兩個都堅持自己既生活方式,而呢種生活根本係互相矛盾時,根本無可能係埋一齊!





    問黎都多餘!總之唔想再覺得自己俾人冷落,米出黎傾掂佢lo!最緊要係版主自己接受到,今次好大可能會俾人飛姐~



  • 又怕死又唔like條佬唔陪你,咁樣點姐?依家係自己同條佬兩個人拍拖,有問題自然係兩個人自己去解決!


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    解決當然係佢地兩個自行解決, 咁佢發問問題, 多個人思想一下, 行得好d姐 ~



  • 算啦cool7002,由佢啦,唔好同佢爭論......我上得來呢度都係想搵個解決方法,所以我唔介意佢講既野,只係可以講d人修養有問題!仲有,我做律師.





    tomx:





    我明你既意思,其實我都feel度佢變佐啦,因為佢都開始唔聽電話,我亦都唔敢再煩佢...所以係咁既情況下,我希望和平分手,因為我都feel度只係講與唔講既問題.其實好多時都想知佢既情況,就算佢傾訴我都願意聽,可能我幫唔度佢啦!又或者我唔了解佢既原因!咁你d朋友係咪成日搵你傾訴呀?



  • not related to his job..etc.. he ust lost passion.., n may be dating others..



  • u sure u was his gf..or just playmate in the past?



  • beautyaiya





    you were his sex mate in the past,not gf





    i know who is "him" <<<<<<



  • i know who is him



  • Hi Vega, are u from the field? who are u? may leave me message?





  • helo how's ur morning



  • Beautyaiya,


    我男朋友唔係banker,但都係好忙, 佢仲要係一星期五日半喺大陸, 只有星期六日喺香港, 之前, 佢可以一個星期連半個電話都無...佢話好忙! 佢唔得閒call我, 我就不斷send SMS去關心佢....感覺, 好似自己同自己拍拖咁!


    我只有黙黙喺度等,上佢屋企清潔,打掃,幫佢拎啲衫去洗,幫佢買啤酒汽水, 等佢返嚟咩都唔駛煩! 不過佢無appreciate我咁做!


    佢對我, 真係可以做到不聞不問, 我諗我喺香港死咗, 佢都未必會知!


    所以我提出分手, 講俾佢知我的不滿, 最後佢都有搵我, 仲有改善! (其實係改善中)


    試吓同佢溝通啦!



  • Yin:





    我覺得我家下既情況同你差唔多!但你仲好我少少,起碼一星期仲會見度一次面.


    我都講過分手其實,佢初初都改善,但改改下都係一樣,所以覺得佢係改唔掉,或者根本唔重視我.我希望個市快d好番,到時我地忙個時就可以淡忘佢.家下個市對所有人都不利,唸呢樣個樣.....