My ex is freaking weird.



  • I found out that my ex was having an affire/ cheated on me two years ago.



    During this period of time, we are still keeping in touch but just didn't see each other in person.



    However, he got jealous if i kept a close contact with other guys.



    Last night, we met up. and we "made love". 



    Things went a bit weird. I am confused.



    Isn't he my EX? Why still cares for me? Why still made love to me? Why still acted like he is my bf?



  • Why still made love to me? ..


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    because sometimes men doesn't need love to have sex..





    please seperate lust, sex and love..





    u have been used just for sex, don't be stupid in thinking there is love..





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    However, he got jealous if i kept a close contact with other guys.





    he is possessive guy.. just like some women and men..





    if he can't have you, he doesn't want others to have you..





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    by having sex with you.. seems to suggest he owns you..





    no love there at all..





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    best wishes







  • u2



  • LittleGirl





    Nothing weird. He want sex and you offer free service to him.



  • he did not make love with you, he just sexed with you


    he did not really care of you, he just care of himself to make sure you will sex with him



  • little gal


    maybe he just needed ...i suggest you not to expect too much


    if you wanna talk more


    you can add my msn


    kidschow@hotmaill.com



  • LittleGirl





    He didn't have a girl to fxxk on Dec 25, and so he fxxk you. Now he will be hanging round with other girls.





    Stop day dreaming.



  • yr 'love' was derived fr making,


    what do U think?



  • Well, he told me that he still cherishes me.


    But then, you guys are right to a certain degree.


    Maybe he is just a possesive and selfish guy.



  • I asked him why.


    He told me that i just think too much.


    He even suggested me not to listen to what others say about him.



  • Little Girl


    if he really loves you, he would not choose to seperate with you.


    i worry you drop in a hole ...



  • of course we are right..


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    I found out that my ex was having an affire/ cheated on me two years ago.





    if that's true.. it will happen again.. but whether you know or not is another matter.. he will be more careful..





    if you want to show he loves you.. need time for him to prove..




  • look like he will ask you to provide sex services to him continually



  • K: Thanks. But don't worry about me. I no longer put myself in a situation where i still think he loves me.


    I have fogiven him for what he has done to me.


    But I don't want to waste my love on someone who doesn't love me any more.





    The most difficult thing is that whenever i am about to leave him, he shows me how much he cares.





    but he is very 被動, as he thinks that he is not the one who can make me happy, he is in no position to hold me up by telling me not to go.





    Weird..and that makes me even more confused.



  • benifit:


    Thanks for your advice, too. ^^





    Well, well..i don't know if i can wait for that long. it has already been two years. Even we still keep in a close contact, but..i can feel something is different.





    He told me that he is no more in "soul mate", not physical attraction.


    er...well...i don't know.



  • The most difficult thing is that whenever i am about to leave him, he shows me how much he cares Weird will only make you happy and memorable, not make you confused



  • hmm how long were you 2 be together?


    he is very passive because it is his character?


    or it is an excuse to him ...



  • K:


    I have been together with my ex for 6 years.


    He is passive, yes, it is part of his character.


    And well, it is sometimes his excuse, i think. hehe~



  • The most difficult thing is that whenever i am about to leave him, he shows me how much he cares.





    but he is very 被動, as he thinks that he is not the one who can make me happy, he is in no position to hold me up by telling me not to go.





    how does he show ?





    ________





    but he is very 被動, as he thinks that he is not the one who can make me happy, he is in no position to hold me up by telling me not to go.





    right.. that means he has back up ? why bother with him when he doesn't seem 100% committed ? unless you also don't think he is the one ?





    ______________________





    But I don't want to waste my love on someone who doesn't love me any more.





    don't bother.. sounds like u guys might be sex partner though..





    _________________





    u educated abroad ?



  • ha ha well


    then actually u know the truth..


    you should not feel confusing anymore


    your next step is action..


    do whatever you love and enjoy..right?


    that;s the life..


    btw, what is your plan today? do you mind to add my msn for keeping in touch purpose?



  • 6 yrs.. um.. if always physically together.. there bound to be feelings.. whenever there is talk of break up..





    that's why vivian and joe are getting married.. but is it too emotional thing..





    my longest was 4 and half.. but my ex went away with another guy..







  • Little Gal


    i am going to be away for a while


    here is my msn


    kidschow@hotmail.com


    look forward to chatting you again. Have a good day and enjoy 2009



  • benefit:


    Will I and my ex be sex partner only? haha..i dont know. Coz i don't see him very often. And you know what? when the feeling of love is not there, I can't make myself being intimate with any guy.





    And yes, i received my education overseas. ^^ Do I sound weird, too? ;p







  • K:


    I have no plan for today. But might go to see movie ALONE. as i quite enjoy doing things on my own. :)





    Looks like you have got your plan for today settled? Good. enjoy your holiday. and yes, might catch you later. :)



  • i will be free in the afternnon. if you are interested,


    we can go to movie or have a tea.


    where did you study? and what is your job in HK




  • K:


    I thought you were gone. :)


    Well, i might hang around with my family for a while.


    Thanks for letting me know that you are willing to be my company if time allows us to meet.





    Where did i study? Somewhere out there. haha!





    I am currently working as a product manager in a small company. ^^




  • no..





    i spent 4 years in canada, and 10+ years in the uk..





    and the tone of what you are writing made me think u are from overseas.. =)







  • i am just doing housework


    i cannot reply you fast


    haha in a small company? hehe well but you are already a senior mgmt person.


    btw, i am considering to study my MBA. Would you give me some suggestion?


    it is my pleasure that i can give you a company


    what is your hobby?



  • benefit:


    You have spent quite a long time living overseas.


    You might have a great chance to experience how different culture affect people's living and way of thinking. :)





    What have you learnt out of your overseas' life?



  • K:


    How old are you, mind me asking?


    And what is your profession?


    As I am now doing some research on MBA programme. Not sure if i can help, but can further discuss about the course. :)





    My hobby? I enjoy hiking and reading. Talking to different people, observing how they live their life and how they think is one of my hobbies, too. haha! ^^



  • would be nice if we can have cafe or a walk around the tst harbour to chat about it ..








    lots to learn..





    namely different cultures, how to live and get along, accomodate others ..


    how to realise my problems, my weakness and strength through situations ..


    how to cook the best noodles, spagetti..


    how to keep fit in cold weather..


    how to live alone but enjoy little things..





    etc etc =)



  • ha ha you sounds like a mointor..


    i am 27 and working in private equity.


    i am planning to study full-time MBA aboard / in HK


    what kind of books do you read?


    i think you mind to tell me how old you are right? haha when will you study your MBA?



  • Right on, kid. :)


    You seemed to learn a lot out of your journey.





    I learnt how to cook (and cook well) while i was alone there.





    Can you imagine those young kids got excited to eat the food i cooked for them? kinda reminded them of their mom(s). :p



  • haha ..wow ..well what is your favor dishes?


    may i have a chance to taste your food?


    you are saying i am a kid..


    oh oh well ...how old are you in fact?? i think you are 2X



  • K


    I don't mind at all. Age to me is never a secret.


    34 this year. hehe~





    Where to take your MBA will have to depend on your needs.


    hmm~maybe we should take about it more in details later. :)





    I am not planning on taking MBA course but locally promote/ recruit students for overseas uni.





    What kind of books do i read? Well, well..again, that will have to depend on my mood. ;p but more to do with self-learning/ spiritual stuff. haha~Do i sound like an old lady? i bet.



  • Tiger girl isn't "little" at all la



  • =) am 29, my ex was 36, not a kid anymore la..





    u sound like a kind hearted woman..





    yes, learnt how to operate rice cooker and washing machine which i won't be have a clue !



  • benefit:


    It is indeed a joy to just have a cup of coffee and walk along the hobor in such a great day. :)





    nice weather, nice people and nice mood. :)



  • oh you recurit students for oversea university?


    hehe would you help me?


    i take a MBA because i would like to explore my network. also i want to learn more from others, especially many of them are already mgmt grade.


    perhaps it is too young for me. however, i really need to prepare to be a senior mgmt ...though




  • wanna do that today, Little Girl, with me?



  • Johnny:


    Tiger girl isn't "little"?? haha...well, I am not "little", you are right. I am quite big in a way. ;p





    benefit:


    Never trust what you see with your eyes, but with your heart.


    Words can be beautiful, anyone can fake it. :) (see, how bad i got hurt..can't even trust people easily now. hahaha~just kidding)



  • =) i live near elements, so quite convenient to go anywhere.. not sure where u are and what time u avaliable ?



  • yes, that's another thing i learnt in life..





    but to me, maturity means to have a balance of being rational and emotional..



  • K:


    if you want to explore your network, i then would suggest you take the MBA course locally. Choose a nice and well-known uni, if you can apply.


    It is more practical for you in your situation.





    Johnny:


    with you? sure, why not? but next time. :)







  • trust.. even i am a guy, i don't trust guys that easily.. haha..



  • is this "next time' already, just 'next' to benefit replied @ 2008-12-26 11:28 am





    haha



  • benefit:


    maturity means to have a balance of being rational and emotional..


    ==> can't agree with you no more. :)





    we need to strike the balance between life and work.





    Well, i won't lose my faith in human beings. :)



  • hmm however, the reputation of local school is not well recongized by most big foreign company.


    to be honest, i do not want to limit to exposure in China only..


    what do you think?



  • Johnny:


    You are sooooooooo funny. so cute!


    Well, i'd love to go for a walk with any kind-hearted gentlemen i have met here. But...I don't think i would be able to make it(for some reasons.)







  • K:


    If that's the case, try those overseas uni where got the course opened in hk for international students. It might be another option for you.





    You are quite well-organized as you are now planning for a better future. Keep it up, young man. :)