背住自己女友, 收埋一個秘密情人既男人到底會唔會對秘密情人動心?

如果你真系好中意對方的話,

就同他女朋友搶,

做正印,

難道你想成世做SL嗎?

hi everyone,

he did call me and go out w/ me today even though he's not feeling well. We went to see a movie. Although the movie was dead boring, I enjoyed the time when we're together, so did he say.

Dear all,

thanks for ur reply.

he went out w/ me 2day even though he's not feeling well. 'm so touched. haha ~ thoguh u may think 'm silly, indeed i'm, hvnt been so happy for so so so long.

Dear all,

Thanks for all ur reply.

End up he took me out 2day, even though he is not feeling well. :)

We went to see a movie, a boring one, but I still enjoy the time we spent together.

S,

I won't be his SL for life of course. I like him very much at this moment b'coz our relationship is not too bonding n we both dun hv the pressure. When it is turned to sth associated w/ responsibility, I may not be able to bear.

你條件甘好,

而且又咁後生,

大把機會.

你平時多唔多人追噶?

V

哈哈！原來妳享受既係無責任既愛情

坦白講, 追我既人好多. 不過個個我都唔鍾意果下慘呢.

我鍾意 d 思想成熟 d 既人, 而追我既一係太老, 一係就太吊兒郎當.

可能係我要求太高

earthworm,

當 2個人真係o係埋一齊, 所有缺點都會見到曬, 大家都未必可以接受得到.

反而而家咁, 星期只可以約會一次, 平日都係見一見就走, 大家都會享受一齊既時間.

agree,

我唔係話朋友唔重要, 朋友都好重要, 但係 lover 帶到俾你果種快樂唔係朋友可以俾到囉. at least 你唔會每朝起身都因為想起你朋友而會心微笑.

唉!! 傻妹....如果你真係覺得好enjoy同佢既相處同關係，我諗你根本唔洗開條thread去問人意見，有好多你自己內心既隱憂同猶疑，你自己最清楚。

我都試過你誤打誤撞之下做左人第3者，個男人同我一齊既幾日後同我講佢有個行左8年既女友？當時我可以點？都成個人投入哂好難抽離，明知係唔岩但又想偷偷摸摸繼續，內心好爭扎好痛苦，我都唔想破壞人地，我好驚有報應，結果幾個月後個男人詬頂唔順呢種內心既背叛同對我既內疚，主動提出要分開。

當時我都好似你一樣，只要見到佢就開心哂，但呢d只係偷番黎既快樂，對方都話覺得呢d關係好carefree架喎，我亦都有好多既空間去處理我既工作，但呢d都係自己呃自己既借口，都係想令自己好過d！佢曾經講過，可能如果我都係有男朋友既，個感覺似乎會fair d，起碼佢對我既內疚會放底少少，因為佢知我內心一定有憧憬過我可以明正言順做佢女朋友，但事實...要行到呢步真係好難好難。

V

買一件衫返屋企，妳鍾意個 design，但係唔鍾意個質地，咁妳究竟著定唔著？

anyway，妳依家個 case 甚至唔係買衫，係租衫，妳著得，人地都著得，如果妳既"經濟能力"只容許妳租衫既話，都要接受架啦！

我自己就會揀一件自己鍾意既衫，可能質地唔夠 perfect，design 亦隨時過時，但最緊要我接受佢，佢令我著得舒服，我日日都著，最貼身亦貼心

agree

有一樣野唔太認同，唔係自己都做錯，就可以容許對方做錯，反之亦然

所謂好過 d，會唔會有少少自欺既成份？

anyway，自欺都係人既自保本能之一，我明白，但不認同而已

我而家確實有係你時既想法

不過佢仲係好錫佢女朋友, 所以我根本冇想過可以做正印

可能我真係成是個人迷左入去, 佢為我做好少事, 我都經已好開心

講真, 我 d 朋友個個都唔睇好, 個個都話佢為左 sex 而同我一齊. 如果真係咁, 佢尋日大可以帶我去開房丫, 洗咩同我去睇戲 wor.

earthworm,

我可能就係太 perfectionist, 先至會有而家咁既後果囉.

V

有陣時男人未必係為 SEX 先搵 SL，簡單 D 講，SL 身上可以提供到正印提供唔到而自己又想要既野，呢個 DEAL 就會 MADE 得到喇！

佢都可能係想搵一種虛榮感同埋偷既刺激感

V

回歸基本，MAKE 得 DECISION 就要承擔得起後果，包括好既同壞既後果

earthworm,

我知道呀, 後果 ... 哈哈, 聽落幾得人驚

不過唔跌過, 又點知痛 wor.. (仍然都係我太傻)

I just wanna know whether he has a little regard for me

V

如果妳知道 MAKE 得 DECISION 就要承擔得起後果呢條 GAME RULE

妳就唔會問佢會唔會對妳有後悔既感覺

佢話有，妳都可能覺得唔真實

佢話冇，妳又會唔開心

聰明既人唔會問一 D 聽完答覆都冇辦法印證既問題

earthworm,

O... sorry, when I said "regard" I mean "care & attention" ... just dunno how to translate in into Chinese.

Yea, I agree w/ u that "聰明既人唔會問一 D 聽完答覆都冇辦法印證既問題", that's why I never ask him abt it.

O... sorry, when I said "regard" I mean "care & attention" ... just dunno how to translate in into Chinese.

==> 相信你既意思係.."在乎"..right?

講真, 我 d 朋友個個都唔睇好, 個個都話佢為左 sex 而同我一齊. 如果真係咁, 佢尋日大可以帶我去開房丫, 洗咩同我去睇戲 wor.

==> 當我講得衰d，佢呢d咪係"又怕痕又怕痛"囉，如果佢本身唔係慣性有sl，佢都只係想試下多個女仔傾慕同refesh下既感覺，但如果去到上床，都就會怕係癡身驚要commit你d咩野架喇！

earthworm,

好贊成你嘅講法:

有陣時男人未必係為 SEX 先搵 SL，簡單 D 講，

SL 身上可以提供到正印提供唔到而自己又想要既野.

其實女人都會咁.

有一樣野唔太認同，唔係自己都做錯，就可以容許對方做錯，反之亦然

所謂好過 d，會唔會有少少自欺既成份？

anyway，自欺都係人既自保本能之一，我明白，但不認同而已

by earthworm - 12/19/08 10:38

==> 我當時都唔太認同佢呢個想法，仲覺得佢咁諗有d自私，難聽d講，如果我當時同樣有bf既，即係大家出黎偷食，大家都唔好要求對方d咩野，會更更更更加 carefree囉 !!!!

V

u are off today too?

agree,

yes, that's "在乎". ... OMG, my Chinese is soooo poor.

"又怕痕又怕痛" <-- haha, maybe u're rite.

Did u hv sex w/ that guy at last? Sorry for being nasty, but 'm a bit curious. (if u dun wanna disclose it here, just ignore this question)

Leo,

'm off today, but hv party at LKF tonite.

Did u hv sex w/ that guy at last?

==> 當時兩個人確實好有chemistry，我話互相無sex appeal 就呃你既，不過因為我地唔可以成日見面，同埋始終我地既關係都好清楚係"偷番黎"既，所以好多時我地都好緊守防線，或者我地兩心都知道根本唔會long last，佢其實係一個好considerate既人，佢都怕再行錯一步會傷害到3個人。

V，

其實你係咪個心都ready同佢有sex？

最好想清楚，由sl 轉左做 sp既話，你或許煩既野惆悵既野會更多。

V

maybe u can meet a nice one in the party

Leo,

I dun normally fall in love w/ sby whom I know nth of easily.

it take time for you to know a person well..

but u have to make fd with him first..

that's not an easy step anyway

我男朋友有sl，仲一齊好耐，我呢個月先發覺，我男朋友解釋話只係當佢係雞用黎發洩。

我好唔開心，我覺得我男朋友對佢口中個隻雞好好，我想問男人...如果你愛一個女人，會為左解釋而話個女人係雞嗎？

V，

其實去到依家你最大既問題究竟係乜？

我覺得個男人對你係有動情，爭在去到幾深，既然你又咁enjoy現在既status，好"似乎"好清楚自己既定位，又唔會要求對方d咩野，咁你仲有咩野諗唔通？！我諗就算呢度既人點講你都一樣會go ahead

sad,

好同情你既遭遇. 不過我覺得你 bf 咁講又真係有點過份. 有 d 野係責無旁貸, 唔係話個 sl 係雞就可以當冇事發生囉.

你同你 bf 冇 sex? 點解要"搵雞"? 點解係話你 bf 對個 sl 好好?

sad，

我男朋友解釋話只係當佢係雞用黎發洩。

==> 嘿嘿..難聽d講即係私家雞

我唔係男人，不過我認為呢個男人2個女人都唔愛！愛你既話根本唔會有"叫私家雞"既想法，仲要俾你sense到佢對佢唔錯添????? 同樣佢對佢隻"私家雞"都未必係好好，係好係愛既可能晨早同你分開啦！除非個女人本身都有另一半，大家都貪玩。

agree,

但我深明我自己做緊既野係唔o岩, 你睇下 sad, 我好怕有一日自己會令到人地咁樣. 同埋, 我都會怕, 佢只係當我係一件 "玩具"

你一開始講得冇錯, 係我任性.

V，

所以我咪話你把口就算講得好義無反顧，好為佢感受諗都好，你內心其實係會有好多隱憂。

無既，我覺得那怕對方係bf又好，sl都好，都無可能一下子就100%投放哂，"每天愛對方多一些"，隨著大家既相處同了解去遞增，都唔係一件壞事，如果你同佢相處後覺得佢唔太為理你感受，唔太再會花時間係你身上，你都唔需要再為呢段關係付出太多，心知咩野一回事咪勇敢d離場囉。

驚？無得驚架，你都決定繼續行呢條路囉，唔通你又係"又怕痕又怕痛"？愛情根本無保險買既，即使係正正經經識個男人，都唔擔保你地唔會分開。如果你真係咁多hesitation，即係代表你自己都玩唔起囉！

哈哈...不過我都係覺得你又後生又條件唔錯，點解唔去找一段可以帶到俾你幸福既關係？叫你行番轉頭似乎無可能，但有d野..."試過咪算囉"...

如果我可以好似你講得咁瀟灑 - "試過咪算囉" - 就好. 多謝你既提點, 到O左佢唔太再會花時間係我身上既時候, 我諗我都會勇敢d離場, 因為一開始就知唔係長久. :)

你見我好後生, 但係男人我見過好多, 太多 ... 可能係我唔好彩啦, 都唔係好人. 我已經對 BONDING 既 RELATIONSHIP 冇咩信心.

我已經對 BONDING 既 RELATIONSHIP 冇咩信心.

==> 但亦都唔代表搵到真正既快樂就係要發展一段undercover 既 relationship 嘛！一係你就索性抱住玩玩下既心情，otherwise，你依家個心俾佢咁樣bond住，又有咩野分別？一樣係會令你連做野都集中唔到喎！係咪?!

點都好，我知好多人會有d"大時大節症侯群"，總係會在呢d時份特別需要"愛"，希望佢陪唔到你既時候，你一樣可以過得開心.

其實我當日都唔係灑脫，都要花左好耐時間先走出陰霾既日子 XDDD

"試過咪算囉" 呢句，都係當時人地點醒我架咋，我同自己講過，我打死都唔想再做人第三者，自己又唔係太差，點解我唔可以搵一個男人正常發展? 最重要係，我根本玩唔起

agree,

我呢 d 做後備既大時大節又點會有份? 所以"大時大節症侯群"與我冇關啦.

亦都係可能因為咁, 佢昨天陪左我好耐. (我個人猜測) 由佢起身陪到佢 gf 放工. 平時佢2,3個鐘就要走, 因為怕佢 gf 打俾佢.

agree,

可能到最後我都係玩唔起. 咁你而家係咪同一個正常既男人一齊?

我呢 d 做後備既大時大節又點會有份?

==> 呢句好唏噓 ~~ >.<

你同佢尋日都特登放假出黎？你地出黎有無拖手？有無kiss?

呢件事都發生在好多年前喇，之後我都有拍拖，現在就單身喇 ^^ 不過早陣子我遇到一個好鍾意好鍾意既男人，佢最初好努力去隱瞞佢有女朋友，後黎俾我發現，我就將對佢既愛慢慢收回，佢亦都無再敢行前一步。過程有好多唔太好受既感覺，但我肯定呢個唔係最壞既結局，最壞既就係自己抽唔到身，又去到"三角o麥"既局面

依家幾好丫，無野需要再煩，開心左好多添

呢件事都發生在好多年前喇，之後我都有拍拖，現在就單身喇 ^^ 不過早陣子我遇到一個好鍾意好鍾意既男人，佢最初好努力去隱瞞佢有女朋友，後黎俾我發現，我就將對佢既愛慢慢收回，佢亦都無再敢行前一步。過程有好多唔太好受既感覺，但我肯定呢個唔係最壞既結局，最壞既就係自己抽唔到身，又去到"三角o麥"既局面

依家幾好丫，無野需要再煩，開心左好多添

agree,

都唔係唏噓, 一開始已經預左, 所以冇問題, 接受到, 冇佢仍然會過得開心. 仲有朋友仔嘛!

係呀, 我特登調O黎就佢O架, 亦都可能因為係咁, 所以佢病都出O黎同陪我囉.

O係街冇O架, 因為怕俾人見到, 佢特登巴士都唔搭, 搭的士... 哈哈, 咁佢全程的士 (~40 mins) 都有拖住我. 睇戲既時候都有, 不過就出左去聽左幾次電話囉. 無kiss呀, 佢鼻塞, 抖唔到氣. 不過到走佢都錫左我面一啖囉.

似乎你真係 learnt a lesson... 我而家都只有見步行步啦. 講真, 我都係自己呃自己, 呃 d 短暫既快樂. 明知到有一日佢唔玥想理我既時候, 我係會傷心, 但我仍然同自己講 "可能係我厭先呢".

V，

佢特登巴士都唔搭, 搭的士... 哈哈, 咁佢全程的士 (~40 mins) 都有拖住我.

==> 睇你好似睇番當年既自己..XDDDD

當時佢同我講過，有D問題唔諗唔理好似無咩問題，但事實確實係一個大問題

其實我都同意之前有D朋友講"各取所需"呢個CONCEPT，所以我都好難講呢D事究竟係岩定錯，就算講可能人地都只會狠批呢D係"歪理" (確實又係...哈~)，問題都係你自己承唔承擔得起。佢同佢女友有無問題你都未必知，可能有...可能人地好到見哂家長PLAN埋幾時結婚添。