她只是一個可以上床開心的好朋友



  • 跟男友一起有八年了,最近發現他跟另一名女子常常見面. 



    不經意發現他們的msn對話.親密的以老公老婆互稱.



    問他,他說她只是一個可以上床開心的好朋友.



    問題是,她已經結婚了.



    我應該怎麼辦?





  • do you have time talk phone??





    my phone is 65344721



  • 其實你就係 "一個可以上床開心的好朋友"





    你明嗎 ?






  • 跟好朋友可以上床嗎?



  • 你bf既意思係米話....


    已婚婦係玩既,


    同你係愛&感情.....咁呀!





    呢個situation 已經比你發現了,


    而他, 亦講左他的"藉口"了,


    而家個spotlight 就對住你了, 係你决定怎樣處置他與這段感情了.





    如果你很珍惜他的, 雖然錯已犯, 但係如果佢肯一刀切與已婚婦"玩耍", 你可以决定你能否對他"既往不究"





    而他如果還喜歡保持這位"玩伴"的, 覺得無問題, 那看你能否容忍而决定留or go.








    不過一個對感情不忠誠的人, 這樣去"玩", 是一個自私的人. 不顧及女友感受及專重這段感情....





    繼續留在這関係, 專嚴何在?













  • 嬲死.


    死都要嬲.


    佢講咗藉口, 有無悔意同誠意改過, 行為同promise?



  • promise is just another lie



  • If he says so, you find a guy and tell him he is just a guy for sex, nothing else. See what will happen.





    Or you tell him you are now being others' bed friend



  • Wow very tough situation here.


    If u still love him, can forgive him, and if he also promise to stop, then maybe a chance is there. 8 yrs is a really long time. It's hard to let go, but only if u could bear what he did or else the future is not-so-bright.



  • 如果佢係有悔意, 一定會做野. either marry you or some other things.


    If nothing done, 飛得



  • 如果你可以接受或原諒�


    好肯定將來結婚後佢一定會重覆


    咁你要諗清楚係咪可以一世接受



  • You know what is mutual respect?........He is a playboy only......ditch him......



  • 你又搵返個同類型既朋友囉



  • umbrella replied @ 2008-12-10 12:52 pm





    你又搵返個同類型既朋友囉


    --------------------


    我也要好多好多好朋友, 哈



  • 你保守, 他開放


    他愛玩, 你不愛玩


    他性慾強, 你不強





    性格不合已經是最大的原因導致分手





    因相同而結合, 因不同而分開


    緣起緣滅, 直在其中矣



  • 問他,他說她只是一個可以上床開心的好朋友.





    問題是,她已經結婚了.








    佢亦都曾經同嗰個己結婚既女人講起你,話佢己經同你無咩感情,但怕hurt你,所以先繼續一齊,你係一直纏住佢唔肯放手,仲話如果一旦分手,恐怕你會自殺.所以係你阻住佢地.



  • 我應該怎麼辦? 分手.



  • 估你都係比男朋友食滑左



  • 你唔係仲想係到等運到呀?



  • 版主其實無得選擇啦!





    因為件事上左面, 唔分手佢會更"羊"





    分手最少仲可以比自己有番d骨氣.




  • 版主,你接受得到呢個解釋嗎?



  • 佢甘答你都無反應..好佩服



  • diu 9 佢啦


    "可以上床開心的好朋友"都講得出


    即係當你無到啦!!!!



  • 只是一個可以上床開心的好朋友





    呢個解釋唔錯喎,haha.....





    其實佢個好朋友結左婚未都唔係重點,重點係佢對妳不忠,佢對住條女時,都可以話同妳冇曬感情,亦而好小上床,只係負責任,唔想傷害妳,



  • 我們都已經論及婚嫁.見過彼此的父母.


    去年因為他常常要到內地工作,約定好明年結婚


    他對我很好.從來沒想過會發生這些事情.





    我現在很困惑.繼續下去好嗎?




  • 大話就大話啦


    朋友~?


    以"老公老婆互稱..."的"朋友"~?


    你信嗎~?




  • 如果咁都過到關,以後咪領正牌出去玩


    叫佢作個另一個叫人條氣順d 既借口啦



  • 如果你可以忍到佢有x甘多個"可以上床開心的好朋友",咪繼續下去羅,但你要保護自己,唔好比佢傳染d病比你...佢唔知有幾多個"可以上床開心的好朋友",而"可以上床開心的好朋友"又唔知有幾多個"可以上床開心的好朋友"====唔知幾多角..@__@



  • 我想, 妳自己心裡邊都應該有個天平去衡量去或留吧?


    每個人都有唔同既準則, 連同忍受痛苦都唔同;


    其他人叫妳去留, 都始終係個意見,


    真正去感受同埋去做決定既係妳自己啊...


    妳覺得佢仲可信, 仲可以比到妳想要既幸福比妳, 而足以補償今次佢對妳所做成既傷害的話, 妳可以當妳原諒到佢;


    原諒唔到佢又唔捨得既..就分開下睇清楚係唔係可以仲一齊;


    如果真係冇灣轉, 妳就離開吧...


    自己既幸福好應該自己去創造番黎



  • 如果佢係好好條件,有錢有事業,婚後唔洗妳做或依家都養梗妳...妳又報復心態既,不妨繼續一齊喎......咪當自己騎牛搵馬/羅著數





    但比著係我,就一定唔會再同佢搞,咁邋遢,隨時有病.





    不過佢出面玩得咁開心,返到黎都未必對妳有興趣或累啦,除非真係精力好到呢頭係出面吊完返到黎又吊遮



  • Wow...What kind of situation is it??





    as i know(the aslias), are you her bf's another gf? If so, this thread is way too ....fun.



  • 我唔明有幾困惑, 我都唔知你煩乜.





    你依家原諒佢, 同佢結婚, 即係默認左比佢出去玩.


    佢依家咁樣同你講, 你唔同佢分手, 就係你0既問題, 第日有咩冬瓜豆付, 你唔可以賴佢, 因為佢就係咁, 佢就係要去玩, 玩到唔尊重你, 仲要比你知道.





    我真係真係唔明你煩乜.




  • 我覺得,可能版主接受得到掛.....



  • Can you forgive? Damage made, if you decide to forgive, try not to sleep with him. Use the Wait & See Tactics. Ultimately you wanna marry him. If he wants to marry you, you'll see his effort.


    FACT:


    the lesser you get intimate, the more you're wanted, more time for yourself to see if he's worth your time & forgiveness


    PROS:


    You will get to see how much you mean to him (commitmentwise) & intimately.


    CONS:


    He may abuse the situation & cling on to the other party until you get married.


    CONCLUSION:


    If his effort is noticable (can take into consideration)


    If he's abusive about the relationship (Prepare for another guy)



  • 犯賤到你咁真係無咩好講



  • 又會有0的0甘蠢0既女?......點解我遇唔到0既?......



  • 跟他通過電話.彼此間的信任很重要.我選擇相信他.


    謝謝你們大家的建議.




  • 困惑 replied @ 2008-12-10 5:07 pm





    跟他通過電話.彼此間的信任很重要.我選擇相信他.


    謝謝你們大家的建議.


    =======================================================================


    相信佢?


    相信佢會停止見'可以上床開心的好朋友'?


    定係相信佢得一個'可以上床開心的好朋友'?


    ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????



  • 結婚?! 唔好講笑啦


    我好相信個男人唔會同你結婚囉


    佢都開始玩女人咯, 你只不過係佢玩既其中一個女人



  • 我相信個男人會同佢結婚wo,甘難得搵到個女人明知佢出去玩都肯同佢做家頭細務,比家庭溫暖佢...點解唔結..



  • 乜一個玩女人既男人需要呢啲野咩 ?




  • 路過 :





    都唔奇ga,夜晚翻做女人唔易做既賤man,就算點賤點出去玩女人,都想有個女人同佢生仔,haha...





    難得個女人明知佢玩女人都肯制,有乜所謂啊,結左都係照出黎玩之嘛





    屋企仲多個執頭執尾加有仔生同間唔中有餐"住家飯"食既女人,haha



  • 你如果真心愛佢,何必介意太多.....



  • 佢擺明去偷食都費事呃你





    你真係咁愛佢咩!??!!?


    愛係包容,而唔係縱容 


    有時唔係要抬高自己,但都唔駛將自己放到咁低位置


    搵番d尊嚴比自己啦




  • 愛係包括所有缺點,呢d 就係真愛,就算佢嫖,媎,飲,都應該接受.



  • 愛是恆久忍耐,又有恩慈;愛是不嫉妒; 愛是不自誇不張狂,不做害羞的事, 不求自己的益處,不輕易發怒, 不計算人家的惡,不喜歡不義只喜歡真理; 凡事包容,凡事相信,凡事盼望, 凡事忍耐凡事忍耐,愛是永不止息。





    假設以上是愛的規則, 而規則係要兩個人同時遵守





    假設愛是一種合作關係一個engagement, 或者係一種遊戲





    其中一方犯規, 另一方絕對有權(或保留權利)踢對方出局





    不要濫用包容一詞



  • ladymarmalade.. u have msn ? would u like to exchange ?



  • i delete the msn for concentrating on studies (LOL)





    But i can add u in facebook