好多謝你比我知道你都鐘意我, 起碼我知自己無feel錯 ... 但係同時間你亦都比我知道原來你並唔想同我有d咩將來, 只係希望同我keep一d所謂朋友既關係 ... 我唔開心, 唔知點解, 其實我係預左既, 可能係我唔捨得你, 可能我知我終於衰左係你手上, 可能我真係好想同你一齊 ... 太多既可能 ... 不過有一樣野我好肯定既就係, 我真係好傻, 傻到太執著, 傻到以為人人都好似自己咁, 對愛係認真, 係執著, 係有奢望既 ... 你唔想傷害你既家庭既同時, 你知唔知, 你係度傷害緊我 ...

[失心]

好少, 我知我control唔到自己係自己問題, 但係我鐘意佢, 都唔係我既錯, 一條錯匙係唔會響既 ... 有d野係雙向 ...

[好少]

失心，

一條錯匙係唔會響既 ... 有d野係雙向 ...　＜－－

妳明白ｅ個道理但又會想繼續同佢做朋友？個感受真係咁強烈？明知係火坑都要跳入去？值得嗎？

[失心]

我好亂 ... 成件事由開始有野都依家都成好幾個月 ... 我重未走得番出黎 ...

[好少]

失心，

我重未走得番出黎 ... ＜－－

咁多ｄ去搵其他野分散注意力，俾自己係其他地方多ｄ寄託，妳要知道一個人唔係一定要有邊個先可以生活喎，我相信妳未識佢之前乜一樣生活得好好，問下自己妳ｅ家貪佢ｄ乜先？妳同佢一齊開心多ｄ定係痛苦多ｄ？點解自己幾個月都走唔返出黎？

[失心]

on the other hand, 佢都有試過令到我好有安全感, 覺得好多野都可以交比佢處理 ... 當然, 佢亦都有令我痛苦既時刻

[好少]

失心，

如果佢係單身，咁一切就係完美，可惜佢有太太，所以ｄ安全感只係妳既錯覺，佢俾妳所有美好既感覺有朝一日都會變成傷害妳既利器，佢俾得逾多，妳傷得逾重．做人唔好咁短視，眼光放遠ｄ喇．　；）

[失心]

嗯 ...

[好少]

失心，

我知妳聽唔入耳，妳當我係度講廢話算喇，嗯，希望妳好運喇．　；）

夠鐘走人．　；）

[失心]

好少, 我唔係聽唔入耳, 我知自己會好難先做到 ... 點都好, 好多謝你無好似其他人咁只係係度鬧我

[狐狸精殺手]

....牛皮燈籠....妳要死唔比妳死咩,黑心Ｄ講句希望係妳死,唔係人哋個老婆知道後去死囉!

[mybaby610]

反對 !!

人地有老婆你就收手啦

你估仲puppylove咩

未成大錯好停啦

[CheerfulSweetie]

Mrs. Guilty Me:

Good to see you here.



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The case here is different from yours.



Your case was you were at the edge of the cliff. If you go a step further, your family will be broken. It was good that you were able to retrieve a step back to prevent your family broken.



I persuaded you at the edge of the cliff. Because you were this close to lose your mind completely. And I am very proud that your conscious save your family.



Although, I do not agree with you that you get yourself into an affair at the first place. But you were able to pull out from getting deeper.





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On the other hand, I post my comments earlier in this thread is not JUST pinpoint the thread master.





I PINPOINT ALL THE HUSBAND STEALER.





I have a very close friend who is victimized by a husband stealer. Her family is broken completely because of her husband cheated with the 3rd woman. I went through with her on this ordeal and I sympathized her situation.





The 3rd woman was so evil and her husband is so stupid. A good family that was perfect got broken. The wife was able to move on but her heart was completely very broken due to this, the 2 beautiful kids left with no daddy as the husband stealer stole him completely.





As I close friend that has been with my friend, can you understand how much I disguised by this kind of "Fox lady"?





So I do not have pity on the husband stealer. As they are evil, and snake hearted. They are selfish and inconsiderate.







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In the case of thread master, she KNEW he was married, she KNEW he had a family... all before they started.



And that does not prevent her from having feelings for him.



She felt sad for herself, she felt despair...



Does she know it is her that got herself in this situation in this first place?



Does she know it is her that is going to damage someone's good family?



Does she know because of her ignorance, another family is going to be broken like my friends?



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She has no RIGHT to feel sorry for herself.



YOU GOT WHAT YOU DESERVE.

[男同學]

突然諗到一個問題，點解會有一夫一妻制？

人明明就係會變，但就係會為左人地既睇法硬係搵 d 野去限死自己，限死左人地就會話你好威好叻，咁又點？



試下做第三者先去批評人啦！當你係錯既時間遇上對既人(或者係自己覺得對既人)，果種痛苦有幾難頂，你唔試，或者冇機會試，又或者人地話咁樣唔岩你就唔試，你係永遠唔會知面對緊問題既人既苦惱。就好似你從來都未食過榴槤，有人同你講榴槤好難食，你就決定唔食，跟住仲要話食榴槤既人有問題，咁樣有冇說服力呢？



好！又當你試過，你覺得咁係唔好，咪同人分享下會有咩野問題，救人地出苦海囉！



可能有人會覺得我講"歪理"，但每當你做一個 decision，一定會 satisfy 到部份人又同時令部份人不滿。我唔多認同以道德為旗幟去批判人，因為我覺得道德都係大部份人去妄顧小部份人而 set 出黎既一 d 自保機制。



我係壞人，我會想自己開心先架！因為自己都唔開心，冇人會救到我。每個人都要對自己條命同自己所做既決定負責任，我覺得做到呢點，就已經不枉為人



失心，今日既經歷，會令妳對人性同愛情既了解加深左，為左自己跟住落黎幾十年開心 D，記緊三思而後行。衰左一次，唔好再衰第二次，知道會令自己唔開心既野就唔好再做喇！到今日，我仍然會勸妳埋單離場，因為我唔見得妳再同佢一齊會開心左，佢對佢自己既決定冇負到應盡既責任，但係妳仲有得揀，女人會隨時間貶值，自己寶貴既時間同青春，係需要謹慎投資

[CheerfulSweetie]

If thread master still have conscious about herself and the family that she is about to damaged.



You need to pull out from it completely.



The damage has done to you.



You are depressed as you know you are doing the wrong thing.



You have no supporter(except those with crooked minds)



You are not living in a perfect world. This world has values and the role that you are playing as a fox lady is completely wrong.



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If you still have conscious, think through it.



Do you want to continue a relationship that has no meaning and end?

Do you want to waste your youth and time in this no result relationship?

Is it worth your despair to do something this stupid?



You sounded like an educated person, but you are lost, and obviously, no one deserve to have a unrecognized relationship.



He won't acknowledge your presence.



Very bluntly, he told you he wants to be JUST TO BE FRIENDS with you only.



Miss Thread Master, this is the NICE way of a guy to tell you. "Sorry about the sex, but hey, you enjoyed it too. But I am not going to give up my family to be with you. If you want to be a SL, it is fine with me."



SL= secret lover, you are going to be a secret. That's no secret about it.



If you are willing to be his SL, and happy with this status, he is going to be happy about having a SL too.





He is not stupid to lose his family to be with you. Ask yourself is it worth to be a NOBODY in this relationship?





If your conscious tells you to stop. You need to stop.

[高]

借人地老公用下, 用完咪洗乾淨還返比人囉, 仲想據為己有?? 唔好咁傻啦, 這並不是愛情.............

[男同學]

CheerfulSweetie



我會覺得係個 CASE 有以下幾點需要注意



(1) 個老公對家庭既責任感不及佢對私慾既追求

(2) 個第三者會比較重視自己既快樂多於別人既感受

(3) 個老婆並無足夠既感情牽絆令個男人浪子回頭



其實個個都有問題，無話邊個無辜 (除左無份 MAKE DECISION 既兩個小朋友)



(1) 老公如果冇考慮過自己有冇能力去 KEEP 一段婚姻，結乜鬼婚？

(2) 老婆如果冇考慮過自己有冇能力去維繫呢個家庭，點解當初肯同呢個男人生仔？

(3) 第三者如果冇考慮過自己有冇能力去抵抗世俗眼光，點解會選擇 start 呢種 relationship？



其實，大家都高估左自己既能力。不過我同意，小朋友係最無辜，因為佢地俾人整出黎係冇得揀既！



因為呢件事發生係妳朋友身上，感情上自然會有 bias，都係果句，呢個世界就係咁，有人開心有人愁，妳改變到幾多，妳講既 case 日日都發生緊，assume 大家都應該明白咩野係岩咩野係錯，但人性就係咁，到變左同自己有關既時候，妳就會識得計數同埋俾好多唔同既理由說服自己架喇！最終妳都會揀一個令自己有最大 satisfaction 既選擇，一定會有所犧牲。

[阿龍]

對牛彈琴

不如唔好彈琴

隻牛幾醒都好個程度都只係一隻牛

佢點都唔會明白咩道德倫理四書五經架喇

何必說教 ?

[嘿嘿]

愈墮落………愈快樂



唔墮落………真寂寞

[SL]

失心 replied @ 2008-03-03 4:21 pm

可能係我蠢掛 ...





但始終佢有老婆，又未同你確認個關係

就算酒精影響，都唔拒絕？



其實我唔明，就算好有感覺，女仔點解會未確認關係就有親密行為

除非，唔介意啦

[失心]

我諗再講d咩都係比人鬧 ...

[好少]

失心，

妳聽得入耳都算唔錯喇，係人都知感情易放難收，加油．　；）

[男同學]

失心



俾人鬧又點者？鬧下又唔會死既，最緊要妳知道自己想點，人地講咩野都冇用，因為其他人都會用自己既觀點睇野，包括我！妳依家就要靠自己去分析下自己想開心定唔開心喇！

[失心]

好少, 男同學, 好多謝你地兩位一直都用一d唔同既觀點或者一d站係我立場去睇我呢件事 ... 好多謝你地 ... 我知我依家唔開心多過開心 ... 知易難行 ... 但我會嘗試

[阿龍]

比人鬧有咩問題

如果妳沉迷落去不能自拔

就好有可能後悔點解當初冇個敢講野既人鬧醒妳

妳真係要多謝 internet 比個機會妳聽到唔同既聲音

比著朋友都未必敢講真話

[CheerfulSweetie]

I agree with 阿龍.



You are confused and can't let go.



The reality is that you cannot bring your discussion to your friends and family as they will condemn you.



Post a thread and there may be sincere advice from others you can rely on.

[gulity me]

CheerfulSweetie: I can understand that why "hus stealers" irritated u that much, but i think maybe this time u are a little over-reacted on this case. 失心 didn't mean to steal someone's hus on purpose at the first place, they work together, contact & communication are unavoidable, the feeling built up sometimes is unresistable. i do understand how it feels when u have feeling on a person who cannot commit. I do believe that失心 has tried to fight & resist that feeling, but failed. especially they have done sex already. it's not easy for a gal to get over it like pulling a plug. i am not saying that's the right thing to do. but in this case i think the man is more gulity than 失心. he is a married man, he is the one who understands well this triangular relationship. he wants some external excitement but he won't leave his wife. he makes 失心 so painful.



失心: the man may likes u, but not enough for him to give up anything. He doesn't even want to give out more to u, he just doesn't mind to have a sl, but here's the deal: only sl, he won't commit or give u more love, so take it or leave it.



男同學: 理智d看, 其實我也同意你的觀點. 即使是一夫一妻制也只要在法律上可以名正言順地生育下一代或共同擁有 法律上夫妻的權利和義務 - 根本不是用來保障之間的感情不變. 人, 是會變的, 如何可以維繫婚姻感情不變是另外一回事了, 根本與婚姻制度無關. 我不會將婚姻制度看得過分神聖, 但也認為絕對要尊重. 結了婚有了責任, 必須儘量維繫, 不可以像是拍拖般隨時話分就分. 但是, 若感情到後來真的變了, 又如何? 因為結了婚就不容許雙方有second chance嗎?

可以理智地選擇, 係人都會揀個可以有結果既啦, 但感情來到又真係唔到你選擇喎. 我如果唔係曾經做錯過, 也不會明白版主既那種痛苦和無奈. 也可能可以舉起道德正義旗幟大聲地去聲討別人.



最後, 阿龍: 你的回應簡單直接正確, 如果我不是將我的問題posted出來, 比人狂插, 當然也有其他不同的聲音 which在現實生活中不會聽得到(因為我的問題不可以對人講), 我也不會清醒得咁快, 走出困局.

[男同學]

guilty me



好多謝你，我覺得你真正明白我想講乜

我覺得"道德"呢兩個字真係好可怕，有少少莫須有既感覺，個情況就係，我地個個都話你唔岩，就係你唔岩！其實同宗教狂熱冇乜野分別，係唔係好，係唔係岩，見仁見智啦！



我淨係覺得，家家有本難念的經，唔係切身問題，係唔會知道知易行難。既然版主依家係 seek for help，又唔係去炫耀咩野，可幫則幫，積下陰德囉

[好少]

冬天燕子南飛過冬，途中有隻燕子實在抵不住寒冷，結果落在地上再也飛不起來，她的同伴也無能為力，轉了一圈之後就飛走了．

現在這隻可憐的燕子只能在地上等死，但是她的惡運好像還沒有結束，附近忽然有頭牛向她走過來，安慰的話一句也沒說只在她頭上拉了一堆屎．

大家可能以為這隻燕子臨死前還要受辱而死在一堆牛屎上，詭譎的是那堆新鮮冒煙的牛屎反而暖和了燕子的身體，不一會兒燕子就飛走了．

故事說明一個道理，在妳頭上拉屎的人不一定是害妳，相反對妳甜言蜜語的人也未必是朋友．

[害人者話人害佢]

人地有老婆就知道要檢點唔好搞人啦, 呢d叫common sense

你只係識話人傷害你, 你咪一樣諗住去傷害人老婆? 傷害人兩家父母? 傷害成個正常社會體系?

你正常d啦! d後生既睇住我地呢班大人學做人架

[失心]

guilty me, 我估你係真真正正明白到我既感受, 又或者你亦都知道我需要overcome既野, 我估我唔會再多講, 畢竟比人鬧唔係一件開心既事, 我唔想 ... anyway, 多謝你

[男同學]

害人者話人害�



世界上沒有事實，只有對事實既詮釋

對同錯，邊個有權去決定，你將自己既意願強加於別人身上去批判別人，又算唔算得上係強姦別人既思維？

睇一件事，可以從多 d 角度去睇既



失心



對與錯，開心唔開心，妳自己心裡面都有個底架喇！妳想點行都得，最緊要唔好俾自己後悔就 ok 喇！

都係果句，妳後悔妳痛苦，係妳自己一個承擔，冇人可以幫到妳，要忠於自己呀！

[失心]

男同學, 第三次多謝你

[男同學]

做人，真係好過做牛咩？

值得深思喔！

[阿龍]

如果愛情冇道德規管

鍾意做乜就做乜

以為咁樣就係一個開心既世界 ?

唔好玩啦

有 D 人只係識諗自由最開心

又唔諗下放縱會有咩後果

我又唔信有人會唔將道德加響另一半身上

你起碼都想對方對你一條心啦

唔通比佢日日同人上床咩

呢 D 規管唔算叫道德呀 ?

只係世上有種人係特別自私

自己做就乜都得

人地做就乜都唔得唧

女人聽男人講野

少 D 分析能力都會比佢催眠妳

唔係男人點可以用甜言蜜語 tum 到 D 女人死心塌地

[regret]

What is more important?

To enjoy that very precious but sweet feeling n moment this moment

or to suffer the loneliness for most of the time?

[gulity me]

失心, 如果你想找人傾下, 你可以隨時msn我. 我的email你可以在我之前post的thread內找到.

[gulity me]

男同學: 我好認同你對這件事既分析, 好理智和好高層次, 但亦唔係人人可以接受到. 其實你從無偏幫版主或批評任何人, 只是好以事論事地講出你自己既看法.

如果兩個人既關係(婚姻)是好堅固, 根本旁人無從界入, 有缺口, 本身一定已有問題存在. 我也不是支持或同情或評激版主, 再講我也沒有權利咁做. 引用堅經一番話: 「你們當中那個沒有罪的, 便用石頭擲向我吧.」



最後, 想起艷女coco blog處有一段很有智慧的說話:

女人..无所谓正派..正派是因为受到的诱惑不够..男人..无所谓忠诚..忠诚是因为背叛的筹码不够..在爱的国度没有谁对不起谁..只有谁不懂得珍惜谁..

[水晶球]

在整件事上，我覺得個男人唔岩多d，自己有老婆，但就係去搞婚外情。



最好笑係上完床後，就做番正人君子，話要做朋友。



真係要做一世朋友既話，唔該就唔好上床啦~ 唔上床就真係會做到一世朋友！

[truth]

agree"上完床後，就做番正人君子，話要做朋友"

once target met, he won't give u more.

It is a normal practice for a 搞婚外情 又不肯commit gei 男人

[whwc]

Guilty Me,

I do agree with you. If the relationship between a couple is perfect, noone can come in and destroy. Having a 3rd party, no matter it's the husband or the wife who betrays the other half, there should be something wrong within their relationship. However, the husband and wife at least should try to work out and resolve the problems between themselves instead of jumping the step and turning to someone else.

If the couple really treausre their relationship/marriage, they should give themselves a chance to find the way out. Turning to 3rd party and starting an abnormal relationship with someone else cannot resolve the problem but only make it worse.

[CheerfulSweetie]

It sounds like the thread has become a debate of morality...



There are numerous arguments when it comes to morality, but who is going to determine the right from wrong? It will only take us nowhere at the end of the day as we keep arguing.



Aside from this debate, the decision of the beholder takes account for the direction where they are heading.





好像Guilty Me's case, 她衡量輕重後,决定離場.這個决定係佢知道不可以為了一個路人甲而輸掉10多年與丈夫建立的大好家庭. 她是輸不起. 她做决定時, 我相信是建於利益上(不能失去好家庭)多於道德內徘徊.



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又:"失心"小姐, 她字裡行間我看不到她有否在道德內淨扎. 只是很軟弱, 不能自拔. 明知自已痛苦, 都願意繼續留在困局中.





咁我地又此處道德大戰真waste 氣.



真係好需要"自救"勇氣. Guilty Me 決定自救, 佢得而保存自已的美滿家庭.



但失心小姐若不自救, 她自討苦吃外還真的害了別人家庭...



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"阿龍", 你幾句說話便簡單道出道理.

"害人者話人害佢", 你此句都好精警. 我會好好記住留作日後用(你唔會charge 版權費啩)

[男同學]

阿龍



回應返你既講法，就正正係我唔認同道德既原因

好多人會用道德去規範人，但就唔會用道德去規範自己



我既處理方法係，如果我既另一半背叛我，我會選擇離場，因為呢個係我既 best alternative。

如果係我背叛又俾另一半知道左，咁我當然都會衡量邊段感情對我重要 d 而選擇留邊段感情，或者兩段感情都放棄，因為我做左背叛呢個 decision 就要預左呢個最 worst 既 situation。



純粹個人意見，與其用標準不一既道德去做批判，我覺得人應該為自己所做既決定負責，果 d 輸打贏要既人，果 d 要搵著數但又唔肯承擔風險既人，果 d 做左決定之後又唔想接受負面結果既人，先係最卑鄙。



當然，引用返呢個理論，版主繼續 keep 住佢既執念既話，唔開心係佢自己，佢係需要自己去承擔呢個風險。做錯 decision 唔係一件可恥既事，但係重複咁做錯同樣既 decision，完全冇學習能力的話，就真係貴客自理喇！

[whwc]

我本身也是婚外情中的受害者，當中誰對誰錯，已不是重?。一段關系有問題出現，並非單方面的因素，各有前因，你我她各有不是。最重要是兩夫婦是否仍愛對方，而這份愛是否能蓋過所有自己因婚外情所受的感情及自尊上的創傷。這承諾遠超過一般人可以接受程，必須有無比勇氣及耐性才可做到。我自己亦仍在試練中。

作為別人情人者，亦同?要?歷同?痛楚，若妳真的很愛他，只耍能見到他，又那?介意他有家庭及自己的感受。由第一天和他開始，你已知這條路並不易走，亦有心理準備將來不會得到任何?。

[gulity me]

cheerfulsweetie: u were right about me. My decision to end the affair was 建於利益上(不能失去好家庭)多於道德內徘徊. It was a rational decision but not a decision that followed the real sound from my heart.



其實大家對道德婚姻都有不同既看法, 各抒己見無所謂, 反正呢個平台都係比人要來吹水用.不用針鋒相對要別人認同自己便可以了.

[男同學]

whwc



因為人係自私既，所以先會痛苦

好多人承諾既時候都冇諗過自己可唔可以 keep 得到，更多既情況係高估自己既能力，以為自己 keep 得到。

愛呢個字太沈重，唔係一般人可以揹得起。

要維繫愛，要 put 幾多 effort？要作幾多犧牲？愛，某程度上係違反人性既一種感情，係要係折磨自己既情況下獲得快樂。順其自然既只不過係喜歡，好易就做得到，亦好易就消散



邊個真係咁把炮拎得起放得低，做到呢點，又變成得唔到真愛喇！好矛盾.....

[阿龍]

男同學



原來係咁

我既做法同你唔同

另一半背叛我我可以選擇離開

我背叛另一半我唔會選擇離開佢定挽留�

而係要佢選擇離開我定原諒我

我對於任何後果都唔會作出選擇

佢離開我....ok....自己抵死

佢原諒我....ok....盡力補償

就等於我犯左法我唔會自己判自己坐幾耐監罰幾多錢

而係由人地去判決

呢種後果先係最壞既風險

估計唔到既叫風險

預左要還既叫打算

玩唔起衰左講聲唔玩就算負責任 ?

冇咁著數卦 ?

至於風險係咪自己可以承受

就係另一個問題

[男同學]

阿龍



我會覺得，點解要將自己條命交俾人？

點解你會認同法律可決定你既生死？

法律係人定，人定既野就一定有 bias

假設，呢個世界大部份人都話俾你知老人家係街上面跌倒係唔應該扶起佢，係唔係真係唔應該扶？

點解會唔信自己既 judgement 而信人地定下既規則？

自己可靠定自己以外既人可靠？

自己都唔忠於自己，咁樣既生活先至係最悲哀

我講既風險，都係話自己以外既人對你所做既 decision 而作出既 interaction，呢個係要自己預估

誠然，我活係一個有輿論有法律既社會，我都會評估風險，只不過我唔覺得由自己以外既人定出黎既 rule 會比自己內心感受來得真切而已

規矩同法律，本來就係一種違反人類本性既枷鎖，亦係一種群體既復仇機制

信法律既人，只不過係一頭被鎖住被馴服既野獸

唔保證以後會唔會有一日獸性大發

反而，我認同自己係一頭野獸，不過我都會做好本份，取得我認為我自己能力所及應有既資源

可能冇乜人會好似我咁諗，但係當我認同左自己本身都好醜惡果一刻，我真係有豁然開朗既感覺，我唔想害人，亦唔想被人害，我會諗方法自保，我會諗方法令自己開心

始終，生命有限，我唔想我死果日先後悔

[男同學]

一百個人同時指住隻鹿話呢隻係馬，你會忠於自己既認知，定係隨波逐流？

中國人果然有大智慧，同時亦好有方法操控人心

[whwc]

我亦同意男女間，愛這個字實在沉重得很，內�堜狴]含的不只是純愛情，還有慾望，責任，期待，等等。付出越多，期望越大，當期望得不到滿足，便覺痛苦不快樂。這亦對原本已脆弱的婚姻?係上更加潻壓力。

不忠的一方，會因現實中平淡的婚姻生活而生厭不滿。做情人的亦貪戀一時得來不易的?柔。種種因素只會令情況更壞，可以做的就只是放鬆和放開一?，令大家有空間好好想一想。

有誰能百份百保證自己心無旁務或做到桄榔樹一條心，但起碼這一刻我是全心全意愛我的丈夫，我願意包容他的錯失，亦希望盡我所有能力去挽救及修補彼此的婚姻關系，起碼就算將來最終也要分開，我亦無悔。

[gulity me]

男同學: 我反而覺得, 人本身天性係自私的, 要違反自己意願順從法律或道德或世俗眼光而去不自私, 才是痛苦.

你說:「愛，某程度上係違反人性既一種感情，係要係折磨自己既情況下獲得快樂。」我覺得愛並不違反人性, 愛是出於自然同真心, 愛而不可以愛(或因客觀環境因素下而強迫自己不去愛) 才是違反人性.



阿龍: 我認同另一半背叛我我可以選擇離開, 因為錯在對方所以主動權理應落在你手, 對方理應聽侯發落. 但如果對方背叛了你, 即反映了對雙方關係有或多或少的不滿意之處.而被背叛者, 真的可以浪子回頭金不換嗎?



婚姻制度, 某程度上的確違反自然. 自盤古初開, 根本沒有一夫一妻制, 在自然界絕大部分動物亦唔會有呢樣概念. 所以一夫一妻制唔係一樣自然既野, 而是人類有了思想有了道德觀念發明出既副產品. 不過既然生於現代社會, 自幼被思想灌溉婚姻觀念, 當然也理順成張.



唔好誤會, 我並不是認同離經叛道,目空一切. 因為生於人類文明社會,必須遵守這個"規則".