If you find out your husband/bf is unfaithful, and you don't want to disclose due to your family, how would you recover?
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well, good question
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how about you ladies? your men are perfect?
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OK la, of coz he's not perfect
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<br>it has a long way to go to being perfect. hahaa
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<br>maybe it's impossible to be the one
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Well, I was experienced this kind of experiences before. Just the different of he paid for sex, not for SL/SP.
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shxt. even worse...and then?
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我覺得幾樣都一樣咁shxt,
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worse? depands on how was the thinking. I am not a saint, the world is change, the life is pressure. I have a kid, both of us need to work. To be honest, sometimes, I was really moodless for sex because I am tiring of taking care my kid after work. Man need sex, he was trying his best not to disturb me and give me more time to rest.
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Well, I rather he is paid for something and not to have SP/SL. I told him, with a SP/SL, although you don't need to pay for it when you have sex, but, I dont want him have affair with someone for long term. I rather he pay for them as time goes by, hoping he will 'fed up' with that 'paid sex'.
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at the same time, he should care your feeling, right
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how can you tolerate this? because you think you can't satisfy him
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Yes, I still remember the time I found out. I could see his expression, you know, if a man feeling guilty, you can see something from his face.
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你咁既諗法都真係唔岩喎, 要解決問題, 唔係放蹤佢, 你husband唔覺得有問題嗎?
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crossover, I see what you mean, and I respect you don't mind telling us. Actually I think the same thing, I'd rather my partner having ONS instead of falling in love with somebody.
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<br>How is your husband now then?
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Yup. Since I couldn't fullfill his sexurge, I have to let go something. To be honest, due to the reason, both of us having quite good income, we have extra pocket money, hence, he can paid for that. However, for the couple who less money, i don't know how they solve the problem. Hopefully not something illegal.
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so, your husband feels guilty about this? does he appreciate you letting him to do it outside?
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OMG
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@@, i am not sure you are married or not. Do you aware that a lot of 'problem couples' now? They seem as a good couple in front of relatives, friends, at home they are like a stranger.. zero communication. If I was them, I rather give up the relationship. However, I choose we have a fair truly relationship, which we have to let each other to know and aware of everything we know each other, let himself to control rather Iforce him to do so.
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will you guys leave your gf if they have affair with another man? I think it's not just the problem of girls facing
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to some extent, I agree with crossover wor. She is right, couples seems to be ok with each other, but actually not much communication at home...quite sad..
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<br>I think I will understand why my gf cheats before leaving her..
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besides, everyone have their privacy. surely you dont like your husband checking you every minutes, every second, right? However, like myself, I am always behave, hence, i dont do anything to hurt him or ruin our relationship. Just the matter of when he willl discover the 'true of relationship'. Besides, both of us are young, no point to be such hypocrite until end of the life.
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will you try to forgive?
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crossover, mind telling us your age and how long have you been married?
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yes, I told him, I will forgive you, but, I m not guarantee when could I forget it.
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29, 5 yrs
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I see, and how old are your kids?
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<br>I mean, see, I know how you feel and what you are doing is right, you let your husband chase it and be understanding. However, it can't be like this forever (?) I mean, from my exp. I don't think he will be fed up soon..
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i think so, you're making the situation worse
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however, to be fair, is he good at taking care of your family? if he is a responsible guy, he will appreciate your hard work at the end..
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well, i m not expected he will change in years. however, married is not a game, since we decided to have a family together, tolerance and understand is so much important for a little family, love him is accept his everything. If he love me, he will sacrified the bad habit because of me and the kid.
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shane, guess that you're quite understanding bf, are you? :)
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time for lunch now.
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ok, enjoy lunch, chat later. That's why I have this topic and see different expectations.
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<br>Thanks, Lin, I think I am OK, but with some "bad habits", ha ha
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what's your bad habits about?
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we just talked about it. :)
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<br>I like flirting with girls alot..
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why you have to? worth flirting with girls and then make your girl upset? :)
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exactly.
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<br>you know what, I always ruin my relationship by that. to be honest, I don't have any intention to go further, but just that little thing and confusion I made that upset my partner..
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you should let your lover know how much you care about her, she will be upset and disappointed once she knows you do that.
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<br>really pissed!
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yes, I know. Hey, let's go for lunch sin, will be back
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yes, chat later!
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back lu, how's lunch?
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ok la!
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<br>how about you? got full?
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yes, very full, what did u eat?
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Pasta, very full too :)
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wao
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Just wonder if your gf lies you and hang out with a guy, do you mind?
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yes, I do
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ha, but i think if your gf behaves then there should be no worries la.
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男仔都一樣咁介意
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of course la. It's easy to say than done, my gf behaves very well though
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咁又係啊, 俾其他男仔打你gf主意咪大件事
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then appreciate what you have now, as a matter of fact, it's getting hard to find a nice girl (i mean the truly sincere one).... :)