2個人結左婚好多煩惱！

今日心情唔多好！唉∼好似點解我屋企人成日覺得我老公好冇用！而我老公點做都比屋企人睇唔起？
而我做夾心人原來好辛苦！我屋企人就覺得我唔體諒佢地．．．我老公又覺得我唔體諒佢！我好想問我可以點做呢？有時既我真係覺得左右做人難！
我老公細細個就好獨立出來做野同住．．．而個責任心都冇乜．．．而佢家庭背景都唔係好好．．所以乜都靠佢自己．．而我嫁左比佢．．
但我地冇擺酒，冇影結婚相，冇去旅行結婚，真係同佢簽張紙就算個種．之後我就搬左去佢屋企住．．結婚半年搞婚外情．所以我屋企人好討厭佢．．一來覺得我巳經委屈嫁佢（講真我有人追．．個樣唔係話醜）．．二來覺得我老公唔珍惜我．．三來覺得佢冇責任心．．因為結婚６年啦！我老公都冇話儲個錢等我同個仔有個安定居所！
而我住６年的屋企都係我家人比．．我頭３年都冇比租（因為沙士我老公失業．到個囝出世先搵到野做．．而個囝又出世冇人湊自己要親自湊．．仲之個時發生好多野．．所以欠落一筆債）尾個２年係咁還債．．所以呢年先比返正常少少租金．．ＨＫＤ４５００．．．因為冇人湊仔關係．．要媽咪唔好做野湊仔．．個度又比４０００同我住又幫我ＣＯＯＫＩＮＧ（我知其實好少）．．．前後計我個個月最少都要比８５００．．．仲未計好多雜費．．個仔返學學費．．．課外活動．．．個個月計落都要１５０００．．．講真老公又返工又用錢．．．我地就算搵３萬都唔夠．．．最主要我屋企人覺得我老公好冇用．．而我又做唔到乜野！
做到我咁！好想問仲可以點？現實係香港地生活真係好難∼

其實我都係呻下！

因為壓力好大∼而我老公屋企人又幫唔到！但我又係外嫁女！要我屋企人幫佢地又覺得唔應該．．．但又唔想睇住我慘！

有時錢唔係萬能．．．但冇錢真係萬萬不能！

工作上巳經夠煩！自己屋企人又有時比說話我聽！我老公有時話我屋企人．．個囝又煩．．．我好想知我可以點做！

今日我勁有衝動搬屋走．但一諗到出去租屋．．個囝搵人湊．．一大堆問題．．我好想唔洗再靠我自己屋企人幫．．．但自問冇能力．．．想買樓首期真係冇．．．就算可以９成５按．．都要拎一堆錢．．又供唔起．．輪公屋又冇資格．．．抽居屋又話過額．．．我好想問政府．．我呢Ｄ家庭入息唔過３萬蚊．．．乜資格都唔得．．．但又要養個囝．．可以點做呢？

just think he does not take his responsility of a husband and father

hi

life is sometimes boring and work / life pressure is extremely high in hk

wanna share in msn ma

[email protected]

formula0106

家家有本難念的經，忍吓啦

why 30K is not enough for 3 persons?

最主要問題是錢.

要求佢多付家用, 為了孩子.預留金錢和忍受一下

formula0106,

明白妳的感受,我和太太月入六萬,都係猛猛緊!我有兩個小孩..............

昨晚實在太委屈...同老公傾...老公只係識話洗唔洗諗咁多野!同屋企人又唔傾得....有時我真係覺得嫁錯就冇得返轉頭...同人相處巳經夠複雜....唉~我個心中太多個唉啦!

3萬蚊係香港地真係唔夠洗...自問巳經冇乜享受生活...睇戲,旅行一律好耐冇做....因為屋企上綱費..電話費..水費...電費..煤氣費...有線費...管理費...個囝睇醫生費...總之咩費都要.....

剛剛去百佳買野都去左900........柴米油都係錢....自己住其實好大支出...唔係講得笑....我都寧願可以返我老公屋企住...但問題係佢都冇位我住....輪資格又唔夠新移民...我想話政府係咪想一d都唔體諒我地呢種階層......

我有d朋友做裝修...唔洗入息證明....但個個月搵3萬住公屋...再計佢老婆個份都月入總收入4萬....小朋友讀幼稚園可以全免.....

我地呢d年年要比稅....支出一大堆....煩惱一大堆...請問政府又可以幫我地做乜? 住屋佔支出都要1/3......仲唔係有安定居所...

都係借呢度呻下舒服d~~唔係屈住會死!

totally understand, living cost in HK is very high. You got married when you were quite young?

formula0106

morning~~~

in hk living also like that ga la,...........i want know how ld are you and married how many years?

有婚外情都仲要小朋友?

請問你同你老公點繼續?

24就結婚lu~

當你發現有婚外情時...巳經去挽救...因為自問自己都有問題...所以比多次機會大家....跟住原諒左佢就發現有BB...個時有諗過要定唔要...如果唔要個BB 就唔會再同佢一齊....

我只係感慨香港真係好困難有個舒服環境生活....首先住屋巳經一個問題....

若然好似我老公個背景咁...乜都冇得依靠...要自己去努力...真係好困難!

萬事起頭難...若然乜都冇變到有...又冇人幫手拉一把....係好辛苦的!

我好想好似我D 朋友咁...佢地結婚老爺會話拎錢出來幫下手...比首期...唉~

老公唔係唔比家用! 而係佢比左但佢自己都要預留洗費...我試過強迫佢比多我...但原來佢自己變得唔夠洗又唔出聲.....咭數唔夠找又怕我同佢嘈...所以佢就唔同我相量...一味諗住自己解決....點知就息仲比得多....

唉~ 男人逃避方式特點!

formula0106

睇怕一開始((有女人在外出)以有問題..加上無經濟基礎,更加上有 BB潻,

to bad.............GOD BLUESS YOU!!

formula0106

香港有好多像妳老公一樣冇得依靠...要自己去努力...

所以此並不是惜....

formula0106

香港有好多像妳老公一樣冇得依靠...要自己去努力...

所以此並不是惜口....

我好想好似我D 朋友咁...佢地結婚老爺會話拎錢出來幫下手...比首期...唉~>>>>>>>>>>>>>>有就最好啦......不過妳家人都好支持妳一家三口......right..

咁我都知!

只係話身邊既朋友有咁好啫!

不過我都會諗...起碼我後生就巳經養緊個囝....當儲錢囉! 好過人老個時先知養個細路咁多問題...

咁計落個仔15...我都係3x多.....咁都算啦! 所以唔生多個係好多原因...聽曾生講話要3個....呢位曾生真係唔知搵食困難....一句唔好聽經濟唔好又失業...

做人如果唔安慰下自己! 我估會因壓力而死!

點都好! 呻完開心好多....

how old are you?

過左28冇耐...家陣29囉!

好後生之麻,大把世界..

囡囡多大?

formula0106 replied @ 2007-11-27 12:36 pm

做人如果唔安慰下自己! 我估會因壓力而死!

點都好! 呻完開心好多....>><>>>>>>> you know do that is good .....

formula0106 replied @ 2007-11-27 12:34 pm

咁我都知!

只係話身邊既朋友有咁好啫! >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>人比人,比死人....自己努力的好過啦

5 years

所以安慰自己囉! 只係比人後生d捱...先苦後甜....如果個囝生性既話!

formula0106 講真妳二公婆收入有二萬幾三萬,都幾好ㄚ,加上有妳家人各類支持((非妳想)),不過不失啦....never give up.........

formula0106>>>> what's youre real name?

點都好!

只係壓力有時太大...所以先係到呻...

因為我同老公都溝通唔到! 一來佢覺得我比野佢煩...二來唔夾既人相處係好辛苦! 我都唔識點講........可能人既相處要夾係好難啦!

mydear,

你唔好講話識我!我真係唔識答你!唔通世界咁細少...我識你!?

formula0106 replied @ 2007-11-27 12:58 pm

點都好!

只係壓力有時太大...所以先係到呻...<<<<<<<<<<<香港地大部份人生活上,工作,家庭都有壓力ㄚ啦!!

因為我同老公都溝通唔到!<<<<<<WHY????

一來佢覺得我比野佢煩<<<<<問題要面對並不是逃避...

二來唔夾既人相處係好辛苦! 我都唔識點講<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<出現感情問題

可能人既相處要夾係好難啦!<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<係要有技考

formula0106 replied @ 2007-11-27 12:59 pm

mydear,

你唔好講話識我!我真係唔識答你!唔通世界咁細少...我識你!?<<<<<<<<<<<<<< NO.I DON'T KNOW WHO ARE YOU..JUST WANT KNOW YOURE REAL NAME JAR......IF YOU DON'T WANT ASK TO ME,FORGET IT.......

formula0106 ：

俾完首期都要供la，未又要幾千蚊支出。咁你住緊果層樓要俾$4500你屋企人，其實可唔可以當係你供，之後轉你名??

yo yo replied @ 2007-11-27 1:06 pm

formula0106 ：

俾完首期都要供la，未又要幾千蚊支出。咁你住緊果層樓要俾$4500你屋企人，其實可唔可以當係你供，之後轉你名??

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

yoyo>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>她自己不想.(文中她提及自已係外嫁女,又不想家人再一次睇少自已老公))

YO YO

are you married?

mydear：

我未結婚ga，不過我都想版主同佢個囝囝有個"安樂窩"啫，而且版主個老公無責任心，甚至無用都係事實

YO YO GET IT.....

不過我都想版主同佢個囝囝有個"安樂窩"啫，而且版主個老公無責任心，甚至無用都係事實<<<<<<<<<<<<<家家有本難念的經

一子錯...

mydear：

係架"家家有本難念的經"，版主lee個境況暫時都改變唔到，唯有捱住先la，希望佢個仔聽聽話話健健康康，第日大過生生性性孝順版主la

yo yo replied @ 2007-11-27 1:45 pm

mydear：

係架"家家有本難念的經"，版主lee個境況暫時都改變唔到，唯有捱住先la，希望佢個仔聽聽話話健健康康，第日大過生生性性孝順版主la>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> i hope so but can't only this thinking ga wor......think any method change her living.....

maybe, i m not married and no need to spend for my kid. so i cannot feel the heavy pressure of having a own family,

however, also find its hard to pay the 2 mortgages at the same time..

三萬蚊如果二個人使真係好夠,仲可以年年出國都得添.但多咗個細路真係唔夠.香港地使費好大,特別係小朋友,所以勸喻各位冇十足既經濟能力都唔好生住.

板主遇到既問題香港地好多人都有,X賤夫妻百事衰.好多夫妻都因為錢而成日嘈交,或者離婚.離婚越來越多,唔似我地呀嫲個年代,依家真係好難一生一世..

唉...我都要同板主一樣唉吓呀

同情板主.我都見有朋友係二公婆加埋咁上下人工,你知啦,香港地個個搵二三萬一個人咩...但我見佢地都可以去到旅行有時, 幾犀利..係理財方面多d著下手囉..平時要慳d, 有錢就投資下.如果申請公屋都得,其中一個人要唔做野住囉...

請問你老公揾幾錢個月 ??

人可能係自私..

如果層樓係我老公屋企人...我會提議話供左當比我..

但問題係我生於封建家庭....我媽幫我湊仔巳經係萬不得而...其實我自己諗到要改善...最少要等到個囝讀小學...我先可以話唔洗靠人....

有時靠人個種感覺好難頂...可能我又受唔慣氣...

我只係借助一個平台呻下! 舒解下尋晚發生既委屈!

我同老公感情發生有問題我係知....不過唔可以單方面去解決...佢唔去合作我都冇辨法....而我又唔想吵架...可能到我逃避掛!

版主：

why咁ga男人你都會嫁佢?? 定係佢結婚前無咁差??

我老公人工唔定...因為佢個行業特別少少...但個個月最少都有1萬2(計扣完強積金)...有時就1萬7,8到........

咁我自己就緊係固定收入啦!高過佢囉!有時連ot都好好pay.....

所以計落都搵到3萬蚊收入...成個家庭計...

我幫我老公計過佢一日支出

早餐計25蚊

午餐最少35蚊

下午茶20蚊 (因為個個同事食...佢咪要食囉)

煙仔 33蚊

水,汔水 10蚊

油錢當一日平圴計20蚊

有時夜晚要ot...晚餐 40

我只係太約計佢一日普通支出都 180...

計佢平圴日薪500....普通支出都用左佢份人工1/3

yo yo,

結婚前可能冇負擔...我又未有細路...而後生時我地都冇儲錢呢個動作...加上未沙士時...佢月入約2萬...我又有錢洗....明唔明?

而責任心呢個問題...個時佢追你當你如珠如寶....結婚時我頭半年當正自己皇太後....想要杯水飲叫句"老公唔該"...就有得我飲....依家倒返轉.......

"老婆唔該"就聽得多!

formula0106：

叫你老公搵d平d ga 嘢食law

而責任心呢個問題...個時佢追你當你如珠如寶....結婚時我頭半年當正自己皇太後....想要杯水飲叫句"老公唔該"...就有得我飲....依家倒返轉.......

"老婆唔該"就聽得多!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>全都不是責任心問題?