拍拖7年﹐訂了酒席﹐剛分手﹐我是否很蠢?



  • 我們拍拖7年﹐剛訂了酒席。以為可以開開心心做新娘子﹐點知男友向我提出酒席費用一人一半。等了他7年﹐才發覺佢連擺酒都冇錢﹐又冇錢買樓﹐婚後生活更要一人一份﹐我是否很蠢?



  • kitty kam:


    就係因為錢問題,你同佢分手了?



  • 唔係呀.... 你地無plan好既咩....



  • If u mind he has no money, why don't ask in advance lei? or he cheated you he has money? if u haven't asked, I think it may be your fault wor......



  • 一半半啦﹐我同阿媽都唔想婚後比做女時更差﹐E+分手﹐我還有機會兩年內結婚﹐如果等佢﹐兩年?三年? 都唔知要等幾多年。



  • 我以為佢點都有錢比酒席那10多萬先話同我結婚。



  • 衰d 講句, 係你抵死姐, 有咩理由結婚前唔會大家做一個財政預算? 講真, 酒席唔係大問題, 收返人情就算cover 唔哂都唔會補貼太多





    最大問題係住屋問題, 我未聽過有人結婚前唔商量一下呢個問題, 你而家先知, 係你地冇計劃, 唔可以怨人



  • 佢冇呃我﹐識佢時知佢冇錢。只是想不到佢擺酒同買樓都唔夠錢﹐就話同我結婚。



  • 明白,原來kitty_kam 只係一個典型的港女,跟個男仔一起7年,一知佢冇錢就即起飛腳,好野! 好在連佢呀媽都同意即走,完傳係港女的特徵.以為結婚後可以唔洗做有人養,正白痴! haha



  • 我阿媽講明要10圍的﹐同一定要買樓。



  • Kitty,


    how old ar U? do u have other guys chasing u in the last seven years?




  • 講明要10圍??一定要買樓??


    有人肯同你結婚,同你捱都偷笑啦,仲咁多要求,以為自己好高貴嗎??



  • Actually, it's not a fault to break up with bf because of no money if one can't guarantee future of basic life. but no plan for 7 years....may not be only one side problem. Just curious, how u can be sure u can get married in 2/3 yrs after breaking up with ur bf?



  • 我等左7年喇! 先生! 我現在飛佢﹐還有機會起2年內結婚﹐等佢有錢都唔知等到幾時。我反而覺得我等佢等了7年很蠢﹐三年前我已經話要結婚﹐都今日都未準備好﹐叫我點信佢?



  • but only request 10圍? no further request on 礼金? this request is reasonable wor.....



  • Kitty,





    妳愛錢多過愛妳bf喎!



  • 同佢咁耐有唔少人追過我﹐只是冇發展﹐我成30了﹐點等佢姐? 難道你覺得這個男人值得我等?



  • now, also many keep chasing u?



  • kitty kam





    呢個唔係你的錯,社會的錯,令到大部份香港的女仔壞曬腦,個個以為自己高質素,所以高要求.結婚就一定要有能力買樓?? 相信除左港女堅持呢一點之外,好難搵到第二個民族會有呢d想法.





    我祝你下一個男人都要你等7年先知佢係一個死窮鬼.



  • 我唔愛佢就唔會同佢7年啦﹐但一想到冇錢﹐婚後生活可能比現在更差﹐我就覺得自己好蠢了。



  • do u think u know him after 7 years? my feeling is u know nothing about him. u have no idea on his finance and his responsibilty. Do u think he loves u? let's chat in msn km64u@hotmail.com



  • but did u think before what u will contribute to the family after marriage?



  • 一起7年分手,如果你沒有可惜傷心感覺的話,就分開啦





    說實話,聽你語氣,真係想要錢多d。不過我只是奇怪,7年,你都不大清楚佢既經濟情況,都幾嚇人





    找一個你願意跟他一起努力既男人吧



  • may i know ur job nature?



  • 一睇就知佢想嫁個有錢人啦.30yrs?? 太老了,如果我30幾,有少少錢,有自己樓,唔會考慮過左三十的老女人.





    P.S. 去到60的呀叔,都係鍾意20出頭的後生女的.



  • 租樓的錢是有去冇回﹐買樓點都有間屋剩﹐將來離婚﹐起碼有一半係我﹐呢個對女人來講係好基本的﹐至於擺酒﹐原本都冇所謂﹐但阿媽講﹐這是實力的表現﹐證明佢養得起你﹐我覺得真係幾岩羅。



  • why all thoughts from mom? no own idea? if the man bear all the mortgage loan, why half of the flat is u? 好基本? why man takes all responsibility? dun understand......it sounds funny....it seems that gal doesn't need to have any commitment for marriage at all....but just to enjoy.....



  • 佢都好錫我﹐比得到我的都會比﹐但我真係唔知佢既經濟情況。咁樣等了他7年﹐先覺得自己蠢。



  • tell u one more fact, if one hasn't paid any for the flat, in case of divorce, legally speaking, no need to share the property with the gal....let alone half of it.....



  • i'm afraid ur bf thinks he's stupid too but sor for u......who's poorer?



  • Kitty,


    買樓點都有間屋剩﹐將來離婚﹐起碼有一半係我


    Will you share the expensive with your future husband?





    這是實力的表現﹐證明佢養得起你


    Whatelse in your your mind apart from money?







  • hahahaha!!!! kitty kam:





    比你笑死我啦!!! 同人結婚就諗離婚時可以分一半身家,聽呀媽講酒席多少就係實力表現??? hahahah!!!!結婚後要人養?? 你有身體殘缺,不能自力更生的嗎???'港女' 呢個詞係因為你而出現的!!!佩服你媽媽,希望你唔洗媽媽養你吧



  • Cushion :tell u one more fact, if one hasn't paid any for the flat, in case of divorce, legally speaking, no need to share the property with the gal....let alone half of it.....





    全中!



  • 婚都未結就諗離婚...好似怪d喎





    我同意大家都想生活好點,我都是這想法,但2個人都要出力嘛,不是分來分去



  • maybe rude to say that....i think u won't earn a lot but would like to find a 水泡.....



  • kitty,


    擺酒唔係一個實力既表現, 如果係的話 10 圍根本就表現唔到d咩野, 如果係有實力的話就好似人地咁 包哂機票酒店去第2度擺個世紀婚禮啦.


    我個人覺得擺酒係想同其他人分享你地大家都找到一個心愛自己既另一半既開心, 比大家去祝福你地, 話比大家知你對我既肯定同埋心目中既地位, 而唔係去展示你所謂既實力!!


    你知唔知有好多人想搵一個心愛自己既人去結婚都搵唔到呀, 點解你有機會搵到都唔好好咁去珍惜呢?





    我覺得係你既mom 由小到大灌輸比你既知識有問題囉...





    你知唔知, 有錢不一定可以做到一個幸福既女人? 幸福亦不一定可以用錢買到架?



  • ~~又會7年都唔知自己另一半係滿足唔到自己d 基本既野



  • Cushion :





    絶對同意你的講法,但放心,kitty kam 的高要求會隨住佢的年齡增長而下降的.最後都好可能要嫁一個死窮鬼.



  • 鐵人:





    no la.....i dun mean to offend kitty but just want to be factual ja



  • 我覺得某程度上kitty有佢道理,kitty如果你覺得自己仲好好條件就快d搵個好d既嫁啦,有情唔係真係可以飲水飽



  • Cushion :





    事實佢就係港女一名lor.太多了,個個都壞腦的,可能睇得香港電視劇同本地電影太多.



  • 你這個個案都幾少有



  • 條件好的男士會選佢咩?? 真難明白



  • 唔係話要佢養埋我下半世﹐但連我都養唔起﹐第日點養細路呢? 家庭生活點有改善呢? 呢D唔係基本係咩? 至於participation, 一定係佢主﹐唔通要我擔起頭家? 佢擔起頭家﹐第日我先可以幫手養細路﹐呢D唔通又好過份?



  • kitty kam


    但而家事實係你一知佢冇錢就走人,冇諗過同佢一起儲錢,一起計劃將來.只諗到自己應該在兩年內搵另一個有錢的人結婚.只係呢點都抵你嫁唔出啦.



  • but what's the difference of "養埋我下半世"? how if ur other half can only afford u but not child......? unless u can also contribute a bit to the family la.....dun think nowadays HK a man of late 20s or even early 30s can afford the whole family......even if only a family of a couple.....過唔過份....only u know la....



  • 鐵人唔好咁話人啦...有時現實既野好難講架...佢有佢自己既唸法..







  • 10圍那五、六萬真是不算甚麼﹐就是連幾萬蚊都花不起﹐我真係好冇信心﹐叫我點嫁佢? 我們父母那一代﹐又何嘗知道愛為何物? 如果我Mom當年揀錯老公﹐我都唔可以有機會過外國讀書﹐我媽叫我唔好同佢結婚﹐都係為我好。



  • Kitty,





    wish u good luck la....anyway...but suddenly think ur bf is quite pity....




  • kitty kam





    不如叫你呀媽幫你搵老公啦


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