想呻下....好徬徨.... 我22,做野2年多,我bf20, 剛工作5個月 屋企親戚嫌我bf搵唔到錢養唔到佢自己同我, 成日都想我搵過好d.... 我覺得好煩....為自己既前景&決揀而苦惱... 唔知你地會唔會咁既煩惱





  • 咁你問下佢地20歲既時候, 又搵到幾多?



  • 20歲..





    人工唔高...





    正常呀..



  • 因為佢地係上一代,成日用以前o個代環境唔好,所以迫住先咁,到宜家都搵到下,唔想自己女咁辛苦wor.....


    咁你話我點駁??



  • 你問佢地, 想冇左個女, 定係想個女開心?



  • 你想點駁呀?..其實你自己鍾意咪得lol



  • 因為佢地係上一代,成日用以前o個代環境唔好,所以迫住先咁,到宜家都搵到下,唔想自己女咁辛苦wor.....


    咁你話我點駁??


    by aa





    依家搵工都唔係真係咁易


    而且人工都唔一定高,,



  • 我都覺搵錢無想像中咁易....要養自己都好難..



  • 依家人工少唔代表日後少



  • 佢讀到f.7,同我一樣,在銀行工作...聽講咁既學歷最多都只搵到1.3k, 而佢現在7.5k


    現在要建立家庭搵少d錢都唔得....無奈我都搵得唔多,所以好驚將來....父母老左邊個養?


    負擔壓力真不少.....想搵愛情但又要吃飽先得.....



  • 學歷加以讀書嘛....





    銀行工唔係太要ot吧..=.=?



  • I think you parents are very good





    You will have their thoughts few years later



  • I really think if you regard your bf has the 上進心, then it's worth coming with him



  • 如果係為個女好既, 應該睇對方既人品, 而唔係「武斷」一個剛出社會既人既入息, 有幾多個一出黎就人工高? 又有邊個做廿年都係一樣人工? 呢一刻要建立家庭當然係言之尚早, 但物質生活豐盛唔等於精神生活開心.



  • 嗯嗯多謝你地既意見


    我都覺得最重要係, 相方喜歡不喜歡, 第二係人品,第三係經濟囉





    但d父母唔係咁諗...覺得要有經濟先, 佢地會為搵少幾個錢而有吵架, 因而傷感情, 所以唔想我放感情去一d冇經濟既人身上, 香港地為層樓要成世去供





    係咪e + 差唔多年紀既朋友都會遇到咁呢??



  • 現實係咁殘酷, 但問題其實係果個人點樣選擇生活方式, 唔可以改父母既思想, 因為佢地「曾經」領教過, 所以深明金錢既重要性, 但亦由於太投入, 所以被工作, 金錢牽著鼻子走.


    大部份既人都會咁樣轉變, 但唔一定要隨波逐流, 時刻保持清醒, 生命, 遠高於生活, 精神生活, 亦比物質更重要.



  • aa,





    hope that you won't mind what I am going to say.





    I think you are now young, so you have time to bet your future, even you bet loss, you could bet on another guy.





    But when you grow up, say 4 years later, you won't have much time to bet again.





    To me, I don't prefer to bet on the future, why knows what will happen? Maybe your friend become rich, or become jobless?


    Why don't find a better career and less family burden guy? At least the probability of getting poor future is lesser. I think this is what your parents' thoughts.





    I am not saying rich = happy, but poor is difficult to creat happiness, especially in this materialistic world





    well, sorry to say my negative view



  • aa 唔好理佢地la.>


    搵多少都冇咩關係..


    我搵1.6k 我女朋友家人咪一樣嫌少la..


    雖然我都真係覺得幾少haha..


    不過佢地只係想個女好d..


    最後決定都係係你度..


    但如果連你都嫌 ge 話就真係分手好過la.>


    ahha



  • 銀行工有ot,不過少





    orphan, 你意思係話應該搵男朋友唔可以窮的?? 我都知窮...連出街食飯都要諗過食咩, 唔可以食自己鐘意既食物, if食左好野就唔可以去睇戲, 一食返屋企食完飯先出去睇



  • aa,





    it is difficult to say which things are right or wrong. But we could say which things are good or bad. Once you start this thread, I think you know what is good or bad to you





    In the past, I was dumped by girlfriend, as similiar as your boyfriend situation.







  • ohoh~~~咁你orphan現在呢??過得如何??



  • Thx, I am fine now~~





    This was a good life lesson to me. I became to realise what should I do before making gfs



  • At first, I could not accept this because of those reasons.



  • um~e 個咁矛盾既問題...要明天再傾


    因為我腦袋轉唔到要訓lu



    thx all of your comments!!



  • life is hard.



  • 其實搵幾千蚊, 反而未必係壞事, 因為有可能申請到公屋... 咁如果有公屋住, 生活質素會比供樓好, 兩千幾蚊租之後乜都唔洗交





    你返而搵到個搵萬幾蚊既, 供樓又太吃力, 加埋老婆份糧又申請唔到居屋, 就算申請到居屋又供得辛苦!





    第三, 搵到先得ga!! 唔係你話搵個有本事既就有, 都要人地鐘意你先得ga...





    所以有時好難講... 你父母可能後生o個時都係兩公婆收入唔多, 但佢父母一樣會叫佢搵個好d, 但係就唔理結左婚先有你, 歷史係會不斷重演





    仲有, 父母係自己養, 你嫁左, 除非個老公大把, 唔係你都無理由叫老公養埋你父母, 佢肯又係第二回事



  • 洗咩理人點睇呀,搵幾多咪洗幾多,睇下你條仔識唔識諗姐


    我覺得都係搵少d好似好d




  • 版主,


    你叫你屋企人問下後生d既朋友, 有邊個唔係公一份婆一份



  • 我都有諗過如果同佢一齊會申請公屋住, 不過生小朋友我就唔想住公屋,因為我覺得好易學壞, +上如果兩公婆都出去做野, 屋企小朋友就更易學壞, E個係我感覺, 因為我未住過公屋, 我細個D同學住親公屋都成日冷街, 成績又唔好,反而大人住公屋都冇咩問題, 因為大了明白對興錯嘛





    我想問D屋企住緊C人樓既人,你地會唔會想住公屋??



  • 可能我人到中年(34),我會認同妳父母的想法多少少。而且妳bf細過妳兩年,幾年後妳會覺湊仔一樣。





    錢不是萬能,不代表開心,但現實…唉‥無錢真的·····(自己想想)。





    (外人)我就有小許不滿你教人的方法,二十歲就這麼不上進不要也吧!





    還有K是等於仟,應寫13K才對。



  • aa





    我想好多同我同齡的人都在公屋長大,但妳問想唔想再住公屋,正常有能力都會說不想。環境差太遠了。(我係住C人樓既)



  • 我都係講下啫... 去http://www.housingauthority.gov.hk 睇下, 其實申請公屋並唔易, 二人家庭要月入$10,300樓下.....三人係$12100, 都應該好難申請到!





    咁講真, 公屋都唔係你想像中咁差, 細路仔都睇你點教, 我自己都係公屋大, 都仲住緊, 細個就個個打開門玩, 依家無人會開門, 咁學唔學壞既, 就睇你點教, 你一樣可以吾俾佢落街玩!........好多人兩公婆返工, 個細路咪又係放係佢地阿爺阿嫲既公屋度照顧讀書ga, 好多lor.........其實地區好緊要, 如果住天水圍, 屯門就學壞機會高d, 但如果住市區, 其實個社區同私樓都係overlap, 好多私樓隔離又係公屋!!





    有時唔係講上唔上進, 咁佢bf 都係預科畢業... $13k 既銀行工其實唔算差(當然唔係話你成世人最多$13k, 但客觀黎講算唔差lor) 如果兩公婆都有夾埋$20k, 其實係吃力d, 但慳慳地都ok





    有心一齊既, 就早d 開始儲錢, 人地好易儲十萬, 你地咪慳d, 儲兩年都會有十萬la, 你地有既係青春, 同埋錢儲左都係自己既, 到結婚先會拿出黎, 無壞





    至於叫你搵過個既問題, 喂! 講係咁講, 但係感情既唔係話揀就揀lor





    不過講真, 你先22, 應該未談婚論嫁, 總知儲左錢先一定有著數!



  • 睇真d, 你bf 搵緊$7.5k... 又細你兩年, 你屋企人無講錯, 咁既勢, 第日你會好辛苦





    但我總覺得唔係話搵就搵, 同埋你男朋友會轉下工, 加下人工, 越搵越多ga!!! 依家先事業起步, 邊有咁快搵到夠結婚既收入呀!!





    其實女人搵同年既男人做bf 係會發生咁既事, 但係你叫你屋企人諗下, 事業有成既男人通常都要過三十歲, 你又會嫌人地大, 人地又嫌你細啫!! 有時係街上見到d 後生女拖住d 叔叔就係想有個有"本事" d 既男人啫, 你接唔接受到丫?





    就算醫生讀完書實習完都最快25-26啦



  • aa,


    妳們都是剛剛開始吧!就學外人講試試一起儲錢先(獨立戶口),又看看他有沒有上進心,同是不要關了自已的大門,女仔青春有限。豆芽夢是最甜蜜的,但現實是殘衰的。



  • 你地所講都各有各既道理, 各有各既對既地方, 但就係咁先令我心情矛盾





    我BF有諗過趁宜家搵得夠少錢就去申請公屋,但係如果真係申請到, 就要開始交租, 我地現在未必一齊住.





    我都知有D公屋唔係咁差, 如果分到華貴"村"公屋我一定要架(我都知冇可能可以日日睇日落), 不過, O個D都俾人霸曬, 宜家分既應該係馬安山/ 將軍澳/ 上水/ 天水圍吧, 雖然我E加係諗長遠左諗多左, 到時唔係話想點就點, 能力限住曬了





    我呢幾年做野都有儲錢, 不過搵得唔多, 要儲到既錢都唔係好多, 十萬對我黎講都要多幾年下, 而且我BF岩岩先做野, 未儲錢, 我已經教佢要儲錢, 佢都俾我感染左, 今個月開始儲錢囉~~





    另一樣矛盾既地方係, 道德上/道理上應該愛情要專一, 但係我D 親戚又叫我識多D人, 我圈子裹現在只有我BF, 而要我去特登去識人, 又唔係咁想, 我腦子裹想不出答案....



  • 申請公屋要結左婚先ga wor, 但係為左間屋結婚就本末倒置左





    咁講真, 公屋有三次揀樓機會





    唉, 你仲細.... 遲多兩自己諗乜你今天都未必知ga la, 揀男人唔洗咁快揀定ga, 個個老人家都會叫你唔好咁早結婚, 唔係第日實後悔



  • 其實你們想要什麼,現在想清楚?


    現在有無前途,其他機會考慮嗎?