跟一個男人十年多,出街不會拖手,更從沒有sex,但常常見面,如拍拖般. 他是個老實人,待我很好,當正我是女友. 可是,成四十歲人,他從沒有打算將來,沒有主見,什麼都問我,由我話是. 佢比我做決定所有野,包括我�]�黿N來. 跟他一起好有壓迫感好唔開心. 大家咁耐,想分開又好似有點情義. 咁我應該跟他分開, 還是結婚從新生活?

what is your decision?

other than 出街不會拖手,更從沒有sex, his temper is getting worst. always dark face to me. I asked whether he's sick or anything wrong, he said nothing but dark face still. I feel very unhappy and i am getting annoy and emotion of his dark face too. maybe, i should leave him alone and so leave myself alone.

Although sex is not everything, it's a bit wired why he does not hold your hands / just give you a big hug for tenderness. I had a bf who's with sexual disability, but it doesn't bother as we still can kiss and touch other. Is it the fact he is afraid of taking too much responsibility, if u do really want to marry / give birth, u have to make decision ASAP

mm,
 
 you are right. sex and hands-hold are not everything. he is just reluctant to take his basic responsibility and change his poor personalities. the worst thing is, his temper is really out of control... to the point that i dont want to tolerate anymore. LEAVE is my only choice.

finally, i made everything clear with him tonight. he told he's afraid the pressure of raising a family. he's scare but he still wants it at a later time.... say mid-40 maybe. i's very disappointed. At last, he just said he'll change, take action and prepare it right away.
 
 like a huge stone attacked my heart. what should i do?

i don't understand...this is really non sense to me...
 if u love, or like someone, u will want to hold him, hug him, kiss him,
 
 how come u don't feel that way?
 if u dont want those things, why u still want to marry with such guy?
 
 u don't even need to ask him, u should ASK yourself instead!
 
 leave!!
 
 do u know what love u??
 u ever really love someone??
 i'm not talking about sex, but still, u would want to kiss or hold him.
 You don't love this man, he's just a brother of you, a family member.
 u wouldn't ask your 'brother' to marry u, right??

bluegirl,
 
 i have no love, hug, kiss, sex or ... with him. i wanted to leave him for long instead. u're right. i should ask myself but i am confuse........why i am so useless.... why can't i do what i wanted to....

please help ...

no one can help you, unless u help yourself!!
 
 u tell yourself the only way you can get married is to leave this man!!!!
 
 MARRIAGE = LEAVE THE MAN

if u don't leave, u can never never never get what you want!!
 
 
 you don't love this guy!!!
 even he said ok, he marry you, that's not really marriage about...

i have no feeling on him except that we've been long being with each other. in fact, i don't want to marry a man who never think and plan of his future. but what can i do??? i am afraid i can't find another man to rely on... so if i wanted to get marry now, he is the one right in front of me... i know i am useless.

你們根本唔係相愛，結婚只會一錯再錯。同一個唔愛的人一起生活，其實好痛苦。
 
 其實只要你樣貌OK，性格正常，要求又唔高，要結婚唔難。唔好因為年齡而心急。
 
 我33歲離左婚，都大把人追，唔同年齡都會有market，香港仲有好多單身/離婚的中年男人呢!

你成日都話好怕唔同呢個男人結婚就搵唔倒第二個, 呢樣野無人可以保證...既然你唔愛佢...你不如放過佢啦....亦都等於放過自己...唔好話賭唔賭一舖, 你咁大個人對於自己既選擇都要負番d責任喇...係唔係先?

其實你.... ,
 
 i know. that's why i am very useless...

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 你不如真係賭一舖啦,你唔賭就乜都無架啦!
 一係衰d 既做法,你而家去識個第二個,睇下好唔好?反正佢無講佢係你男友, 你就算識第二個你都無錯!

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 世上好多野擔心唔來, 你只為有得結婚而嫁一個你唔鍾意的人嗎?! 將來可能會離婚, 又或是你將來要照顧他的生活? 到時無得番轉頭, 仲慘. 既然你不喜歡他, 他又對你若即若離, 不如大家放生吧....

將來要照顧他的生活.
 賭一舖!
 
 :(((((((

i am afraid. maybe not him.

我個心好痛... 真係好痛...

anyone help pls.

終於,我踏出�魕O步... 跟他完了!

恭喜你可以重生! 支持你的決定, 加油振作!

小女孩, thank you so much !

一身輕鬆曬!

恭喜你！努力搵個更好的！
 
 當日我就係唔捨得，最後結了婚，但依家有d 後悔．．．．．．

none & dogpig,
 
 絕望時,我也曾想跟他結婚從新生活算吧! (係我叫佢結) 但咁��T係和性格, 又怎可能過世!
 
 完左! 我沒有哭過, 反而有一身輕鬆感覺,有番自尊..

自尊對一個女人來說很重要！
 
 勇往直前ba!
 
 大大個森林等緊你！

多謝以上曾給我意見�麊B友. 因有你�]�儱N見,再反思,才�N踏出這一步. 雖然現在一個人, 但一身輕�儱P覺好好.
 
 給自己一條生路!

so good!
 努力啦, 日後搵唔搵到第二個係一件事, 但日子至少係自己掌握之中精彩咁過~
 加油!!

真係唔明點解會有人諗同一個自己唔愛既人結婚？！
 
 真係無論點都要結一次婚呀？明知無好結果都要去做？！
 
 好奇怪啊！

一個想結婚生仔的女人,
 
 After reading your story, one thing you should do is LEAVE HIM.
 
 He will never be able to give you what you want. The most important thing is you don't feel love. If you don't have this love feeling, that's no point to be together. At least you can't have sex with him and this is already the biggest problem if you want to have children.
 
 Sure you don't want to take care of such a big kid for the rest of your life. You might have loved him before but not any more. The feeling has changed and being with him has become a habit.
 
 You are afraid you might not find another man. Hey, why can't you live without a man? After all, your so called bf is not behaving like a man. Let go of a relationship will give you a chance to start a new one without feeling guilty.
 
 Say good bye to your boyfriend.

.......The feeling has changed and being with him has become a habit.....
 
 Fanny, this is exactly what had happened. gradually it became my burden. definitely i needed some fresh air. Yes. ThankS!

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 你要掌握自已嘅人生呀，要過得比前更精彩、更開心