7年之癢？
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想問下各位， 七年係咪一個好大既關口？
大家一齊耐左結埋婚關係好似大不如前咁。。
大家都覺得對對方再無感覺，但又唔係討厭，究竟要點做先可以繼續行落去？
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wa, a big task for most of the couple.
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Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 6:15 pm
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<br>wa, a big task for most of the couple.
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<br>我而家就係呢個關口好辛苦
<br>老公開口話大家都無晒感覺
<br>好似一對好fd既同屋主多過2公婆
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Oh ,sorry about that...But if you have kid, your case maybe be better...no need to focus on your relationship only.
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可惜我地無， 亦唔打算會有！
<br>所以我都唔知維繫呢段婚姻有咩意思。。。
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Well, You dun wanna keep it?
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Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 6:39 pm
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<br>Well, You dun wanna keep it?
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<br>我都唔知。。但大家都無晒感覺仲keep到咩？？
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Find your way for both of your happiness lar...
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<br>Office now?
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Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 6:58 pm
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<br>Find your way for both of your happiness lar...
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<br>Office now?
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<br>我諗都應該會分開。。
<br>係公司丫！ 你呢？
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Me too. In office now...so boring...
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<br>Have wechat?
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Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 7:26 pm
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<br>Me too. In office now...so boring...
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<br>Have wechat?
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<br>我都悶到發毛
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<br>有丫 留比我丫
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add my wechat lar, thanks!
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<br>forrest-lam
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how about wild sex? try more new things with him
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millmaster replied at 2014-06-14 8:01 pm
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<br>how about wild sex? try more new things with him
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<br>Wild sex? 姐係點呀？
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仲7年?
<br>你太睇少時代既變遷
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yandi,
<br>this is common, as the feeling beomce stable and u2 hv find the way to keep on it
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k_4 replied at 2014-06-14 8:42 pm
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<br>仲7年?
<br>你太睇少時代既變遷
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<br>如果少於7年係一個關口，咁我今次係咪應該放棄？
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yandi replied at 2014-06-14 10:09 pm
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<br>k_4 replied at 2014-06-14 8:42 pm
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<br>仲7年?
<br>你太睇少時代既變遷
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<br>如果少於7年係一個關口，咁我今次係咪應該放棄？
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<br>答唔到你,我只知道..執子之手與子偕老,即使分開也不是我主動提出
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<br>以當今觀念....即使唔分開咪各有各搵餐食囉!!
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yandi
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<br>i can tell u...this seven-years-itchness will come again when u have been married for 14 years....
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<br>my marriage is 14 years...i had seven-years-inchiness at 7 years and again on 14 years too
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yandi replied at 2014-06-14 7:29 pm
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<br>Forrest replied at 2014-06-14 7:26 pm
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<br>Me too. In office now...so boring...
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<br>Have wechat?
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<br>我都悶到發毛
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<br>有丫 留比我丫
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<br>how about skype or line ?? may I chat with you too ??
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yandi,
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<br>你幾多歲結婚, 其實你地可能太過FOCUS 自己圈子入面, 識多D朋友, 見少D可能會好D 架啦.
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<br>有興趣ADD 我SKYPE 再傾.
<br>[email protected]
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My Wechat: kenp1981
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我朋友選擇左呀，佢忍唔到佢老公，佢同佢老公提出左分手！但結果係。。。。
<br>老公答應左，分居！
<br>個刻我朋友喊曬，原來最初感覺，要分開時，到真係放棄分開，佢係做唔到！佢回去求佢老公再諗！
<br>但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在，佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。
<br>係，女人係想要喝求關心更多，但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛，因為己經同你住一屋，這還不夠嗎？要特破，要找大家共同關事或物，可能會有更好溝通！因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通，而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺！
<br>又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人（SL），令你去食補充維他命，令呢段感情關係繼續存活！
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tk replied at 2014-06-14 11:48 pm
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<br>yandi,
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<br>你幾多歲結婚, 其實你地可能太過FOCUS 自己圈子入面, 識多D朋友, 見少D可能會好D 架啦.
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<br>有興趣ADD 我SKYPE 再傾.
<br>[email protected]
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<br>你呢 d 書男咁 pk 嘅嘢都講得出口嘅？ 扮懶晒好 人厄西丟？
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YES, 又有幾多個SL可以OVER過7 年呀！哈哈！有幾多個"年年今日"？戲名！
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古人講得無錯 ... 七年我哋就開始變了 ...
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fantasmic replied at 2014-06-14 10:08 pm
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<br>yandi,
<br>this is common, as the feeling beomce stable and u2 hv find the way to keep on it
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<br>我地大家都未搵到方法繼續一齊生活..
<br>當我提出果陣佢留我
<br>到佢提出果陣我比唔到反應
<br>大家都無左愛既感覺,雖然未到討厭唔想見對方
<br>但大家都唔痴家,根本家不成家..
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Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:06 am
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<br>我朋友選擇左呀，佢忍唔到佢老公，佢同佢老公提出左分手！但結果係。。。。
<br>老公答應左，分居！
<br>個刻我朋友喊曬，原來最初感覺，要分開時，到真係放棄分開，佢係做唔到！佢回去求佢老公再諗！
<br>但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在，佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。
<br>係，女人係想要喝求關心更多，但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛，因為己經同你住一屋，這還不夠嗎？要特破，要找大家共同關事或物，可能會有更好溝通！因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通，而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺！
<br>又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人（SL），令你去食補充維他命，令呢段感情關係繼續存活！
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<br>LILY, 我同你朋友都幾似, 之前我覺得真係無辦法再忍受咁冷淡我提出分開,佢挽留我,到隔左2個星期竟然佢提出分開!果下我都好呆..佢竟然提出,我以為自己對佢一D感覺都無,但到佢講分開果陣我個心痛好唔開心,但我唔知係愛既感覺定係時間耐左既感情?
<br>的確,呢幾年我既生活就只有佢一個,朋友愈黎愈少!反相佢工作關係愈黎愈多朋友,就變到長期都係我自己一個係屋企,一個星期都未必見到3個鐘,我覺得好累好辛苦想放棄..
<br>或者你講得岩,我應該要擴大自己圈子,唔可以再眼內只有佢..
<br>如果學人地有SL, 咁呢段感情仲有咩意義呢?
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Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:21 am
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<br>YES, 又有幾多個SL可以OVER過7 年呀！哈哈！有幾多個"年年今日"？戲名！
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<br>SL又點同呢? 唔可以同日日對住,你事事為先既老公比較..
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man replied at 2014-06-15 12:27 am
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<br>古人講得無錯 ... 七年我哋就開始變了 ...
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<br>仲有好多人未到七年已經變晒IIM..
<br>有時真係好灰,做左咁多野去維繫最後乜都無
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有無小朋友?
<br>如果無就易搞啦,如果有小朋友又要分開就真係搵著個小朋友黎搞
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k_4 replied at 2014-06-15 1:28 am
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<br>有無小朋友?
<br>如果無就易搞啦,如果有小朋友又要分開就真係搵著個小朋友黎搞
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<br>touchwood未有小朋友,
<br>就算洗牌重新開始都唔難..
<br>但結婚未足一年又離唔到婚要等多半年..
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分居囉....
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你地大家有冇諗過想要什麼既分婚, 有冇好好交流一下, 表達一下心中既感受和所需??
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yandi replied at 2014-06-15 1:26 am
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<br>Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:06 am
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<br>我朋友選擇左呀，佢忍唔到佢老公，佢同佢老公提出左分手！但結果係。。。。
<br>老公答應左，分居！
<br>個刻我朋友喊曬，原來最初感覺，要分開時，到真係放棄分開，佢係做唔到！佢回去求佢老公再諗！
<br>但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在，佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。
<br>係，女人係想要喝求關心更多，但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛，因為己經同你住一屋，這還不夠嗎？要特破，要找大家共同關事或物，可能會有更好溝通！因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通，而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺！
<br>又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人（SL），令你去食補充維他命，令呢段感情關係繼續存活！
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<br>LILY, 我同你朋友都幾似, 之前我覺得真係無辦法再忍受咁冷淡我提出分開,佢挽留我,到隔左2個星期竟然佢提出分開!果下我都好呆..佢竟然提出,我以為自己對佢一D感覺都無,但到佢講分開果陣我個心痛好唔開心,但我唔知係愛既感覺定係時間耐左既感情?
<br>的確,呢幾年我既生活就只有佢一個,朋友愈黎愈少!反相佢工作關係愈黎愈多朋友,就變到長期都係我自己一個係屋企,一個星期都未必見到3個鐘,我覺得好累好辛苦想放棄..
<br>或者你講得岩,我應該要擴大自己圈子,唔可以再眼內只有佢..
<br>如果學人地有SL, 咁呢段感情仲有咩意義呢?
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<br>YANDI, 你講得對，你寂寞係佢少左關心你，你有一個人都唔知做咩，我以前都一樣，我選擇左去做GYM，去做義工，去學野，去上網交友JOIN活動，我識左幾個交心朋友，記住唔好識酒肉朋友，因為佢地只係過眼雲煙，你回看一年你又會覺自己好似好荒淫，但識左真心朋友，又會筧係值得，因為呢的真心朋友都係會去關心你感受人！
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GemmaPun123 replied at 2014-06-15 9:36 am
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<br>yandi replied at 2014-06-15 1:26 am
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<br>Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:06 am
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<br>我朋友選擇左呀，佢忍唔到佢老公，佢同佢老公提出左分手！但結果係。。。。
<br>老公答應左，分居！
<br>個刻我朋友喊曬，原來最初感覺，要分開時，到真係放棄分開，佢係做唔到！佢回去求佢老公再諗！
<br>但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在，佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。
<br>係，女人係想要喝求關心更多，但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛，因為己經同你住一屋，這還不夠嗎？要特破，要找大家共同關事或物，可能會有更好溝通！因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通，而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺！
<br>又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人（SL），令你去食補充維他命，令呢段感情關係繼續存活！
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<br>LILY, 我同你朋友都幾似, 之前我覺得真係無辦法再忍受咁冷淡我提出分開,佢挽留我,到隔左2個星期竟然佢提出分開!果下我都好呆..佢竟然提出,我以為自己對佢一D感覺都無,但到佢講分開果陣我個心痛好唔開心,但我唔知係愛既感覺定係時間耐左既感情?
<br>的確,呢幾年我既生活就只有佢一個,朋友愈黎愈少!反相佢工作關係愈黎愈多朋友,就變到長期都係我自己一個係屋企,一個星期都未必見到3個鐘,我覺得好累好辛苦想放棄..
<br>或者你講得岩,我應該要擴大自己圈子,唔可以再眼內只有佢..
<br>如果學人地有SL, 咁呢段感情仲有咩意義呢?
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<br>YANDI, 你講得對，你寂寞係佢少左關心你，你有一個人都唔知做咩，我以前都一樣，我選擇左去做GYM，去做義工，去學野，去上網交友JOIN活動，我識左幾個交心朋友，記住唔好識酒肉朋友，因為佢地只係過眼雲煙，你回看一年你又會覺自己好似好荒淫，但識左真心朋友，又會筧係值得，因為呢的真心朋友都係會去關心你感受人！
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<br>可惜係我單方面想補救想改善，原來佢有左第2個。。。
<br>跟住就同7年之癢 大家淡晒無關！
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Yandi, 咁點解唔好似lily咁去揾多d節目? 太多時間自己一過一定好辛苦, 尤其你另一半成日咁忙..
<br>你意思你你老公巳有第三者?
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Jacob replied at 2014-06-15 12:32 pm
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<br>Yandi, 咁點解唔好似lily咁去揾多d節目? 太多時間自己一過一定好辛苦, 尤其你另一半成日咁忙..
<br>你意思你你老公巳有第三者?
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<br>Jacob 佢已經承認有第3者了
<br>話係因為我地之間出現問題
<br>佢同個女仔拍散拖2個星期 剛分手
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yandi replied at 2014-06-15 12:45 pm
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<br>Jacob replied at 2014-06-15 12:32 pm
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<br>Yandi, 咁點解唔好似lily咁去揾多d節目? 太多時間自己一過一定好辛苦, 尤其你另一半成日咁忙..
<br>你意思你你老公巳有第三者?
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<br>Jacob 佢已經承認有第3者了
<br>話係因為我地之間出現問題
<br>佢同個女仔拍散拖2個星期 剛分手
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<br>咁快手？
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Yondi, wah, 佢比光纖上網速度重要快..@@
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Yondi, 其實我覺得如你二都咁坦白, 不如誠心講下點維持或分開好過啦, 而家咁都冇乜意思㗎...
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我同意JACOB講法，如果佢連有第二個女友都同你講，証明佢總想對你坦白，若果唔想分，大家座低傾，大家方向，大家感受，因為你們都曾經生活過渡過好多時光，你們都總係唔想一個向東一個西走呀！
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Lily replied at 2014-06-15 5:22 pm
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<br>我同意JACOB講法，如果佢連有第二個女友都同你講，証明佢總想對你坦白，若果唔想分，大家座低傾，大家方向，大家感受，因為你們都曾經生活過渡過好多時光，你們都總係唔想一個向東一個西走呀！
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<br>今晚會再傾下
<br>唉 呢段日子真係好難受。。
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正正係一個好好既考驗~
涯得過既~先至係真感情~~
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<br>今晚會再傾下
<br>唉 呢段日子真係好難受。。
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<br>There are hard times in marriage, just as in life. We make tough decisions in relationships, to keep or to break alike.
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<br>It is common for people, esp women, to focus on the details, like what he says n what he does lately, while forgetting to take a look of the broader pictures, e.g. two individuals keep changing and progressing in their lives n the directions n speed of changes are never guaranteed to be similar. Over time, a matter of time, the gap between them will be wider n wider. Acknowledging this is rather normal than otherwise can make us assess the situations better.
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<br>I am not promoting separations for couples n happy-ending marriages are wonderful, though I question if they can be considered a norm based on the above simple observation. Thus, sometimes it may worth taking an alternative look n consider separation as an appropriate means to free both individuals from sustaining pain n avoiding ongoing pain, even we know tough decisions carry painful costs in the short-term, yet may be the right thing to do.
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<br>At the same time, many couples may regret about not taking the efforts to save a marriage when they could have. Well, there is nothing to stop them to re-marry after many years. This is harder path n less likely, of course.
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<br>In any case, wish both of u may get a no-regret decision for your fate, at least for now. All the best.
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Yandi, 啱, 大家好好地傾下啦, 要大家真誠去維繫一段婚姻真係一d都唔易, 雙方都要有一定要付出, ( 我都付出咗好多 :) 記住,放棄永遠係最容易, 點都好希望你地可從今晚有個好結果:)
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<br>Lily., thank you !
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其實牽涉好多野，首先好多人唔明婚姻係另一個階段，如果還懷勉拍拖既日子，就註定失望，另一方面，relation 太脆弱，太多誘惑..
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Lily replied at 2014-06-15 12:06 am
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<br>我朋友選擇左呀，佢忍唔到佢老公，佢同佢老公提出左分手！但結果係。。。。
<br>老公答應左，分居！
<br>個刻我朋友喊曬，原來最初感覺，要分開時，到真係放棄分開，佢係做唔到！佢回去求佢老公再諗！
<br>但現在一齊又係個個感覺仍然存在，佢仍然忍受唔到冷莫。
<br>係，女人係想要喝求關心更多，但有時工作令男人懶得去給更多愛，因為己經同你住一屋，這還不夠嗎？要特破，要找大家共同關事或物，可能會有更好溝通！因為大家會多左話題為個件事去一齊溝通，而唔係只有回家訓同一床感覺！
<br>又或者去學近期好流行秘密情人（SL），令你去食補充維他命，令呢段感情關係繼續存活！
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<br>that's the path many choose to take... to survive a little longer by any means. sad but true.
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其實每段感情都有機會係咁~~當你選擇放棄,但可能下一個時間奈左都會有相同既情況.問題是大家如何維繫.不過,呢種感覺唔係一時三刻產生既.或者試下同老公揾唔揾到d新既沖激?