曾經有一個SP, 維持了一年, 當中有苦有樂

[meiaa]

曾經有一個SP, 維持了一年, 當中有苦有樂
但後來我有男朋友
就結束了
你們曾經試過嗎

[KK]

meiaa



我試過因為怕太投入而放棄

[just4fun]

未試過..

你地一星期見面多唔多?

難唔難維繫?

[戰狂300]

明志決定

[meiaa]

KK replied at 2011-01-23 3:54 pm

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meiaa



我試過因為怕太投入而放棄

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對

好容易就出左真感情

[Stepshk]

Meiaa,



Yup..have similar experience

[Stepshk]

It is so easy 出左真感情 ar...but in fact..if have no 真感情..i think i cannot sex with her happily...

[meiaa]

雖然知道男人係可以有性冇愛

(當然女人都可以)

但那時我常常想,

一年了

難道當中真的沒有過愛?

那時自己很傻

常常問自己, 問朋友這個問題

當然是愛得不夠

[Stepshk]

So far..me and her still a close fd that could meet and chat...i think there must be love in between..just not more than normal bf and gf...

[pizzalover]

學會苦中做樂, 梗就祗有樂..

[Stepshk]

right now u do not have SP/SL la..i think you dun need to think about this questions anymore.

[戰狂300]

女人沒有怠感覺的話, 根本就不可能維持關係

[smMansm]

只要大家享受，大家都有滿足....

咁咪夠law..

[meiaa]

just4fun replied at 2011-01-23 3:55 pm

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未試過..

你地一星期見面多唔多?

難唔難維繫?

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2星期見一次左右

大家那時都SINGLE

其實唔難維繫

當中曾經在半年時吵過STOP左

[小小男人]

我都試過，維繫左半年

因對方老公知知地，STOP左

[meiaa]

Stepshk replied at 2011-01-23 4:02 pm

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right now u do not have SP/SL la..i think you dun need to think about this questions anymore.

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JUST TALK TALK~

[KK]

我覺得sp / sl 關係入面



就算真係「愛」左



都唔可以講出口

[meiaa]

你們男人的心態是什麼

[Stepshk]

smMansm,



I don't think a realtionship could be simple like that....

just my opinion..

[戰狂300]

男人會放感情的少之又少

[spwanted]

我sp要結婚, 所以散咗

[Stepshk]

心態是...seeems so happy to have a gal that very close relationship with u...more than a real best fd but really can relax and can talk anything...the feeling during meet is good lor...



not everytime meet is sex ka...dunno how to describe..feeling good.

[just4fun]

所以話呢...

SP...係一種關係. PARTNER 嘛!

初初唔岩既, 又邊會走埋一齊..



所以分開既時候...又係會傷心既..

加上你地都一齊左一段日子..

點都會有感情啦..



人黎架MA..

[小小男人]

心態係想有個人ENJOY SEX

平時可以係好好朋友，或者SL咁

[meiaa]

是

做得SP

就要懂得GAME的RULE

其實他條件很好

是受異性歡迎類型

我常問他為何還不快快找個女仔拍拖

他說有靚的性格好的

但就是冇 "FEEL"

[Stepshk]

sure need obey game rule la...cannot give trouble to each other..



for sp..one more thing is..can try more different thing in sex lor...something u may not dare to try with gf/wife but may dare to suggest with sp lor..

[meiaa]

Stepshk replied at 2011-01-23 4:14 pm

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心態是...seeems so happy to have a gal that very close relationship with u...more than a real best fd but really can relax and can talk anything...the feeling during meet is good lor...



not everytime meet is sex ka...dunno how to describe..feeling good.

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對~ AGREE



我付出左真感情

明知不應該但完全控制不到自己

[just4fun]

same here....

[小小男人]

係架，搵女朋友係要有FEEL

有時你對個女仔有FEEL，反相又未必岩佢



但SP唔駛咁要高REQUIREMENT，唔駛十全十美

對SP都會有容忍

[Stepshk]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:20 pm

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Stepshk replied at 2011-01-23 4:14 pm

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心態是...seeems so happy to have a gal that very close relationship with u...more than a real best fd but really can relax and can talk anything...the feeling during meet is good lor...



not everytime meet is sex ka...dunno how to describe..feeling good.

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對~ AGREE



我付出左真感情

明知不應該但完全控制不到自己

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Ok ka..付出左真感情 will make both get closer..feeling in sex also more excited...however, most important is both will obey the rule ma..



But..finally when separate or stop sp/sl relationship, there is still a feeling of "lost"..



to me..after stop..can do back fd is good ar^^

[meiaa]

Stepshk replied at 2011-01-23 4:18 pm

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sure need obey game rule la...cannot give trouble to each other..



for sp..one more thing is..can try more different thing in sex lor...something u may not dare to try with gf/wife but may dare to suggest with sp lor..

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那我不會

我只有過他一個SP

在SEX上其實沒有分別

我會好似女朋友咁咩都OK~



我愛一個人就是完全付出

又坦又勇那類型

SO同男朋友SEX方面不會有什麼不敢的~

我覺得一樣啊

[Stepshk]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:26 pm

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Stepshk replied at 2011-01-23 4:18 pm

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sure need obey game rule la...cannot give trouble to each other..



for sp..one more thing is..can try more different thing in sex lor...something u may not dare to try with gf/wife but may dare to suggest with sp lor..

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那我不會

我只有過他一個SP

在SEX上其實沒有分別

我會好似女朋友咁咩都OK~



我愛一個人就是完全付出

又坦又勇那類型

SO同男朋友SEX方面不會有什麼不敢的~

我覺得一樣啊

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then..it is my own case lor..heee..for example..i wanna try some kind of toy or role play uniform for so long time..but i only dare to suggest to my sl in the past..heeee

[meiaa]

我絕對不會與他做回朋友

太危險了吧

我跟很有SP 經驗的人不同

我不是高手

只是一個曾經試過一段這樣的關係

你們男人或者不知道

那時雖然我是SINGLE

但我有很大很大的羞愧心

覺得自己很不好

[小小男人]

覺得自己很不好?為什麼呢？

你地大家都係SINGLE ， SP只係LABEL

實際上同男女朋友冇分別

[meiaa]

可能我只有一段

所以我又不會降低要求...

HAHA

[Stepshk]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:31 pm

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我絕對不會與他做回朋友

太危險了吧

我跟很有SP 經驗的人不同

我不是高手

只是一個曾經試過一段這樣的關係

你們男人或者不知道

那時雖然我是SINGLE

但我有很大很大的羞愧心

覺得自己很不好

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oic...wish u do not feel yourself like that right now...

start a secret relationship surely impact your moral standard la...

but if started already, make the relationship clearly separate from your normal life should be ok..

i am not a 很有SP經驗的人 but i just know the rule only..



So, u stop the sp/sl relationship after u have bf..coz u feel it is bad to keep 1 more sp when u have bf?

[meiaa]

如果我與他不是SINGLE

我100%不會同他開始....SP

我會覺得大家不是情侶

有SEX就不對咁

[smMansm]

Stepshk replied at 2011-01-23 4:12 pm

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smMansm,



I don't think a realtionship could be simple like that....

just my opinion..

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當然,

大家投入幾多, 付出幾多/ 期望幾多,

好在乎各自的心態,



感情好多時就係,連自己都估計唔到自己原來己經泥足深陷

講係易,

而情感的付出, 一d 都唔易控制....



sp/sl,就係想大家的關係簡單d,

又大家能夠滿足大家



如果要搞到咁複雜....

點解唔乾脆拍拖wo.....



ps, 個人意見..

[Stepshk]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:34 pm

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可能我只有一段

所以我又不會降低要求...

HAHA

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yup ar..why need lower the standard for having sp lei?

have feel sin consider la..

[Stepshk]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:36 pm

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如果我與他不是SINGLE

我100%不會同他開始....SP

我會覺得大家不是情侶

有SEX就不對咁

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oic..that meant u can more or less treat him as "bf" like relationship lor..



大家不是情侶, 有SEX就不對咁

This is most ppls thinking ar^^

[meiaa]

有男朋友

當然不會再要這段關係

或許同他那時給人的感覺同一般人拍拖沒什麼分別

有時個FD串我~ 你地根本就係一齊

NO LA

我們從來不會說"我愛你"這句死?

在街上當然不會拖

不會見彼此的朋友

是好似FD咁

只是多了SEX呢PART

[Stepshk]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:42 pm

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有男朋友

當然不會再要這段關係

或許同他那時給人的感覺同一般人拍拖沒什麼分別

有時個FD串我~ 你地根本就係一齊

NO LA

我們從來不會說"我愛你"這句死?

在街上當然不會拖

不會見彼此的朋友

是好似FD咁

只是多了SEX呢PART

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Right...that is really a SEX FRIEND relationship..level higher than SP!!



I like such relationship more:P

[Stepshk]

Stepshk replied at 2011-01-23 4:44 pm

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meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:42 pm

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有男朋友

當然不會再要這段關係

或許同他那時給人的感覺同一般人拍拖沒什麼分別

有時個FD串我~ 你地根本就係一齊

NO LA

我們從來不會說"我愛你"這句死?

在街上當然不會拖

不會見彼此的朋友

是好似FD咁

只是多了SEX呢PART

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Right...that is really a SEX FRIEND relationship..level higher than SP!!



I like such relationship more:P

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You said "有時個FD串我~ 你地根本就係一齊"

Maybe coz u both single...u feel that is more ok to have sex relationship with him and will not shame too much..

[meiaa]

當然,

大家投入幾多, 付出幾多/ 期望幾多,

好在乎各自的心態,



感情好多時就係,連自己都估計唔到自己原來己經泥足深陷

講係易,

而情感的付出, 一d 都唔易控制....



sp/sl,就係想大家的關係簡單d,

又大家能夠滿足大家



如果要搞到咁複雜....

點解唔乾脆拍拖wo.....



ps, 個人意見..

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所以, 我從來都覺得

SP變不到做情侶

就是因為愛得不夠

坦白說

我當然期望過與他真的一起

因為我付出了真心

其實那時不是不痛苦的

[KK]

meiaa



作為男人



我覺得一段sp / sl 關係



用以彌補自己生活上的不足



但唔可以影響固有生活



亦唔可以傷害任何人



以平常心同相信為基礎

[Stepshk]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:46 pm

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當然,

大家投入幾多, 付出幾多/ 期望幾多,

好在乎各自的心態,



感情好多時就係,連自己都估計唔到自己原來己經泥足深陷

講係易,

而情感的付出, 一d 都唔易控制....



sp/sl,就係想大家的關係簡單d,

又大家能夠滿足大家



如果要搞到咁複雜....

點解唔乾脆拍拖wo.....



ps, 個人意見..

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所以, 我從來都覺得

SP變不到做情侶

就是因為愛得不夠

坦白說

我當然期望過與他真的一起

因為我付出了真心

其實那時不是不痛苦的



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As i said, the feeling is quit "lost" when stopping the sex relationship and become normal fd ka at that moment..

[meiaa]

其實可能我跟一般人不同

我跟他其實是初戀情人

分開N年了, 一直沒有聯絡

某一年, 我們大家都剛各自分手

在某一天晚上, 就發生了

那時大家都沒想過會變成SP

[cc]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:36 pm

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如果我與他不是SINGLE

我100%不會同他開始....SP

我會覺得大家不是情侶

有SEX就不對咁

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totally agree!! same case, same feeling!!

[Stepshk]

meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:52 pm

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其實可能我跟一般人不同

我跟他其實是初戀情人

分開N年了, 一直沒有聯絡

某一年, 我們大家都剛各自分手

在某一天晚上, 就發生了

那時大家都沒想過會變成SP





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So, as i said lor..no feeling really cannot sex ka..

[Stepshk]

cc replied at 2011-01-23 4:52 pm

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meiaa replied at 2011-01-23 4:36 pm

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如果我與他不是SINGLE

我100%不會同他開始....SP

我會覺得大家不是情侶

有SEX就不對咁

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totally agree!! same case, same feeling!!

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So, cc, do u have sp right now?