marriage is getting like friendship. do you feel the same?



  • let share about marriage



    i am a guy, married for years.  marriage to me is kind of living with a very very closed friend.  romantic feelings in the very beginning seems fade away.  it is not good nor bad, just a kind of feeling.



    all married couples are the same?  really wonder.

    sometimes i think of finding slsp.  just i am not so quality.



    hope some nfs can inspire me on this



  • how long you've been married?




  • do what u r qualified to do





    don't aim too much



  • This morning I told my hubby that I am not happy in our marriage. I questioned him: 'does you feel the same?'





    We hardly have sex in the past two years, and we hardly talk too. The communication line is breaking in both physical and mental field. Why's that?





    I think I have really worked hard to get the marriage back, he also attempted. However when a marriage has to end, we are just human who cannot act against the god's will, if it is his will tho.







  • married lady, you want to msn?



  • decent man,





    I am happy to stay here. Hope you feel the same.



  • I agreed the feeling changed a lot for being together for long, not much love sparkling. It's normal as both people being together for years. But if we talk about separation, it also gave a big hard feeling. I think we need to adjust ourselves for the change of the kind of relationship, may be from love to care, also adjust our feeling for that change. So far, it's not easy to find someone who can be together for a whole life.



  • married lady replied at 2012-07-10 8:35 am


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    This morning I told my hubby that I am not happy in our marriage. I questioned him: 'does you feel the same?'





    We hardly have sex in the past two years, and we hardly talk too. The communication line is breaking in both physical and mental field. Why's that?





    I think I have really worked hard to get the marriage back, he also attempted. However when a marriage has to end, we are just human who cannot act against the god's will, if it is his will tho.





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    can i help? other than GOD........



  • married lady replied at 2012-07-10 9:37 am


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    decent man,





    I am happy to stay here. Hope you feel the same.


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    same here



  • cwk replied at 2012-07-10 9:40 am


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    I agreed the feeling changed a lot for being together for long, not much love sparkling. It's normal as both people being together for years. But if we talk about separation, it also gave a big hard feeling. I think we need to adjust ourselves for the change of the kind of relationship, may be from love to care, also adjust our feeling for that change. So far, it's not easy to find someone who can be together for a whole life.


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    It is a dilemma. I have to overcome the hard feeling before I make the decision to stay with that person in my remaining life time.





    Change is not a problem if change brings me peace and joy.




  • man,





    I don't need help, thanks.



  • my pleasure



  • married lady replied at 2012-07-10 10:27 am


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    cwk replied at 2012-07-10 9:40 am


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    I agreed the feeling changed a lot for being together for long, not much love sparkling. It's normal as both people being together for years. But if we talk about separation, it also gave a big hard feeling. I think we need to adjust ourselves for the change of the kind of relationship, may be from love to care, also adjust our feeling for that change. So far, it's not easy to find someone who can be together for a whole life.


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    It is a dilemma. I have to overcome the hard feeling before I make the decision to stay with that person in my remaining life time.





    Change is not a problem if change brings me peace and joy.


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    r u sure u get the right direction and destination for changes?





    don't be CY (思歪) wor



  • married lady replied at 2012-07-10 10:27 am


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    It is a dilemma. I have to overcome the hard feeling before I make the decision to stay with that person in my remaining life time.





    Change is not a problem if change brings me peace and joy.


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    I think it's only you knowing what you want. But I think you need to ask yourself if you still have feeling on him or not, no matter it's love or others. To a certain age, especially middle age, it's not easy to afford changes, and changes may not give you something better than now.





    I have a similar situation of you, i choose keeping the current situation unchanged, but try to explore something I want.




  • cwk,





    I have discussed with him several times about this topic. We both understand that 'change' may not give us better ending and 'change' may bring me a more serious and unaffordable consequences as I am a working mother.





    I am not a good wife, I cannot tolerate a marriage likes this.



  • r u a good mother, then?



  • Well...guess the issue to consider will be what you will lose by giving up this marriage, life is full of practical considerations....guess passion and sex may not be relevant any more here...



  • married lady replied at 2012-07-10 11:10 am


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    cwk,





    I have discussed with him several times about this topic. We both understand that 'change' may not give us better ending and 'change' may bring me a more serious and unaffordable consequences as I am a working mother.





    I am not a good wife, I cannot tolerate a marriage likes this.


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    I totally understand your feeling and situation, so i got a SL before, and really enjoyed some romantic period which I lost. Although the moment was not long, it already give me a period of happy moment.





    I am not asking you to be the same, I just think you can explore some other things you like, such as finding some friends or soul mates for sharing, rather than just stick yourself in current situation.



  • it's a family problem more than a marriage problem



  • man replied at 2012-07-10 11:22 am


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    r u a good mother, then?


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    Up to this moment, I am the best mother in my child's world. I think I do better than many other 'helicopter' 'monster' parents.



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