我應該同男友分手嗎?想大家比點意見!



  • 我29歲,樣子都算是中上,身材標準,正常職業。

    男友30歲 樣子都算是中上,年青有為,自己開公司的。



    我們一起4年多了,第2年一起住。

    第一年正常的。

    第二年開始唔正常了,無性生活,無KISS,唔準我模他的重要位置,唔準在他面前著SEXY的3.....我有同佢傾,佢唔傾,發脾氣,我又肯定佢無第2個。

    我本來好尊一的,但佢令我好寂寞..宜家都唔想一起睡,我們的關係像朋友。

    分手又怕後悔...

    未結婚就守寡了幾年...都唔敢同佢結婚。

    我如何是好????



  • 第一年正常的 = 有性生活?



  • rose





    hi, I understand your situation...





    can share in msn now?





    miketravel09@hotmail.com



  • gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:32 am


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    第一年正常的 = 有性生活?


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    有SEX...正常情侶



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:33 am


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    gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:32 am


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    第一年正常的 = 有性生活?


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    有SEX...正常情侶


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    佢發脾氣唔傾, 有冇話因乜理由唔傾?



  • 分唔分手好呢?



  • Easy... then find a SL here.... and you can still be with him..... leave the "love" part for your SL..





    Done!



  • gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:35 am


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    Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:33 am


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    gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:32 am


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    第一年正常的 = 有性生活?


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    有SEX...正常情侶


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    佢發脾氣唔傾, 有冇話因乜理由唔傾?


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    無,佢好像不近女色...我現在都放棄唔傾,但可惜這段關係,唔知分唔分手好。



  • rose





    I have similar problem.....if you dont mind, lets chat more in msn now



  • Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:36 am


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    Easy... then find a SL here.... and you can still be with him..... leave the "love" part for your SL..





    Done!


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    我又唔想FIND咩SL,我只想一個正常的男人。



  • 系不系他有乜问题?



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:38 am


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    gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:35 am


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    Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:33 am


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    gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:32 am


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    第一年正常的 = 有性生活?


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    有SEX...正常情侶


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    佢發脾氣唔傾, 有冇話因乜理由唔傾?


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    無,佢好像不近女色...我現在都放棄唔傾,但可惜這段關係,唔知分唔分手好。


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    佢有冇視妳為結婚對象?



  • may replied at 2011-10-09 10:40 am


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    系不系他有乜问题?


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    我都唔知道,NO SEX幾年感情好淡。



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:40 am


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    Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:36 am


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    Easy... then find a SL here.... and you can still be with him..... leave the "love" part for your SL..





    Done!


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    我又唔想FIND咩SL,我只想一個正常的男人。


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    Have you find the root cause ?





    1. May be you can never find it ( i believe you try before )


    2. Your case is NOT an exceptional. Many relationship after years like that.





    So you have to plan for it and even if you find a new one. The result may be the same.. How many years do you have ? I doubt ?





    Sorry for being direct



  • 系不系你做錯點乜氣老左他?



  • 我懷疑你男朋友同我一樣,突然感覺自己對男的有興趣,最後唔想近女色。



  • Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:42 am


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    Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:40 am


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    Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:36 am


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    Easy... then find a SL here.... and you can still be with him..... leave the "love" part for your SL..





    Done!


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    我又唔想FIND咩SL,我只想一個正常的男人。


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    Have you find the root cause ?





    1. May be you can never find it ( i believe you try before )


    2. Your case is NOT an exceptional. Many relationship after years like that.





    So you have to plan for it and even if you find a new one. The result may be the same.. How many years do you have ? I doubt ?





    Sorry for being direct


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    那分唔分呀??



  • 我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下,或者你自己發現一點他的問題。



  • cc replied at 2011-10-09 10:45 am


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    我懷疑你男朋友同我一樣,突然感覺自己對男的有興趣,最後唔想近女色。


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    我有這樣想過,有問過他,佢話唔係,還發脾氣。








  • Have you find the root cause ?





    1. May be you can never find it ( i believe you try before )


    2. Your case is NOT an exceptional. Many relationship after years like that.





    So you have to plan for it and even if you find a new one. The result may be the same.. How many years do you have ? I doubt ?





    Sorry for being direct


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    那分唔分呀??


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    if you still love him but just no sex.....


    (1) either find someone to fill in this part


    (2) solve the problem if you can..





    But if i am you, i will choose to stay and married with him.




  • 除咗性生活, 有冇其他地方妳唔滿意佢?



  • 我覺得哩個問題仲是要同他傾,你要給多點關心他



  • may replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am


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    我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下,或者你自己發現一點他的問題。


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    幾年啦,佢肯傾的話,唔會去到現在我這樣的想法,佢又唔肯面對。



  • gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:48 am


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    除咗性生活, 有冇其他地方妳唔滿意佢?


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    唉,KISS都唔得呀..都唔知佢咩事,其他就沒有什麼。



  • Raccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:48 am


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    Have you find the root cause ?





    1. May be you can never find it ( i believe you try before )


    2. Your case is NOT an exceptional. Many relationship after years like that.





    So you have to plan for it and even if you find a new one. The result may be the same.. How many years do you have ? I doubt ?





    Sorry for being direct


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    那分唔分呀??


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    if you still love him but just no sex.....


    (1) either find someone to fill in this part


    (2) solve the problem if you can..





    But if i am you, i will choose to stay and married with him.


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    下,還要結婚!!!現在都想分手。只是怕後悔。



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:49 am


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    may replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am


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    我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下,或者你自己發現一點他的問題。


    ===============================================================


    幾年啦,佢肯傾的話,唔會去到現在我這樣的想法,佢又唔肯面對。


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    我覺得佢好大問題是應該是生理問題,咁除左哩個平時生活上對你好不好啊?



  • 假如佢當妳係結婚對象, 商量定一個時間去一齊解決, 直接了當講時間一到解決唔到就走





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    那分唔分呀??


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    if you still love him but just no sex.....


    (1) either find someone to fill in this part


    (2) solve the problem if you can..





    But if i am you, i will choose to stay and married with him.


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    下,還要結婚!!!現在都想分手。只是怕後悔。


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    Even if you find a new one, the story may be continued.





    Are you NOT attractive enough ? be more sexy !



  • Or you can try to consult sex therapists ( if he doesn't mind )



  • may replied at 2011-10-09 10:54 am


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    Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:49 am


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    may replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am


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    我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下,或者你自己發現一點他的問題。


    ===============================================================


    幾年啦,佢肯傾的話,唔會去到現在我這樣的想法,佢又唔肯面對。


    ===============================================================


    我覺得佢好大問題是應該是生理問題,咁除左哩個平時生活上對你好不好啊?


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    如果是生理問題,點解KISS都唔得呀????其他都沒有什麼



  • Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:56 am


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    Or you can try to consult sex therapists ( if he doesn't mind )


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    幾年要講的都講啦....我一提佢就發脾氣。



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:58 am


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    Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:56 am


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    Or you can try to consult sex therapists ( if he doesn't mind )


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    幾年要講的都講啦....我一提佢就發脾氣。


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    That's why i said if he doesn't mind.





    it is normal in many couple relationship.... may be you will think should i bare this.. but this is a very very common thing.




  • gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:54 am


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    假如佢當妳係結婚對象, 商量定一個時間去一齊解決, 直接了當講時間一到解決唔到就走


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    佢又唔肯確定會結婚,又唔肯解決...KISS都唔得,一提就發脾氣,幾年啦,我好寂寞呀!有等於無~!!!



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:56 am


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    may replied at 2011-10-09 10:54 am


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    Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:49 am


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    may replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am


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    我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下,或者你自己發現一點他的問題。


    ===============================================================


    幾年啦,佢肯傾的話,唔會去到現在我這樣的想法,佢又唔肯面對。


    ===============================================================


    我覺得佢好大問題是應該是生理問題,咁除左哩個平時生活上對你好不好啊?


    ===============================================================


    如果是生理問題,點解KISS都唔得呀????其他都沒有什麼


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    因為哩個會影響到他心裏問題,他心裏接受不到所以就拒絕一切的性行為。我是從醫學角度,不知他真實點念。



  • 其實妳係咪已經決定咗離開佢, 想我哋支持妳?



  • Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 11:00 am


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    Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:58 am


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    Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:56 am


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    Or you can try to consult sex therapists ( if he doesn't mind )


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    幾年要講的都講啦....我一提佢就發脾氣。


    ===============================================================





    That's why i said if he doesn't mind.





    it is normal in many couple relationship.... may be you will think should i bare this.. but this is a very very common thing.


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    但幾年啦,KISS都唔得,我好寂寞呀!!



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am


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    cc replied at 2011-10-09 10:45 am


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    我懷疑你男朋友同我一樣,突然感覺自己對男的有興趣,最後唔想近女色。


    ===============================================================


    我有這樣想過,有問過他,佢話唔係,還發脾氣。


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    初期自己都有懷疑,唔敢諗,而且有人懷疑我係同人我會好嬲。因為自己都唔係對女性無感覺,不過日子漸過之後,又見有同人卿卿我我時心中會羡慕。但點都好,我未有心理準備voice out自己,始終社會唔可以用平常眼光睇我地,而家我最想的反而可以識到一個女同人,同佢結婚,不過大家知道大家係咩一回事,之後各有覺尋真愛,有自己生活同時可以被開外人耳目。但要有咁的女同朋友真係可遇不可求。



  • gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:02 am


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    其實妳係咪已經決定咗離開佢, 想我哋支持妳?


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    意識上係想的,只是怕後悔,分唔分好呀?



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 11:04 am


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    gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:02 am


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    其實妳係咪已經決定咗離開佢, 想我哋支持妳?


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    意識上係想的,只是怕後悔,分唔分好呀?


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    妳怕邊方面會有後悔的機會?



  • 分的話又好像浪費了幾年青春,唔分又唔知浪費多幾多年,佢又無話會結婚??好迷網。



  • cc replied at 2011-10-09 11:04 am


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    Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am


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    cc replied at 2011-10-09 10:45 am


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    我懷疑你男朋友同我一樣,突然感覺自己對男的有興趣,最後唔想近女色。


    ===============================================================


    我有這樣想過,有問過他,佢話唔係,還發脾氣。


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    初期自己都有懷疑,唔敢諗,而且有人懷疑我係同人我會好嬲。因為自己都唔係對女性無感覺,不過日子漸過之後,又見有同人卿卿我我時心中會羡慕。但點都好,我未有心理準備voice out自己,始終社會唔可以用平常眼光睇我地,而家我最想的反而可以識到一個女同人,同佢結婚,不過大家知道大家係咩一回事,之後各有覺尋真愛,有自己生活同時可以被開外人耳目。但要有咁的女同朋友真係可遇不可求。


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    你幾歲時發現自己是這樣??



  • 要浪費的已經浪費咗, 追唔返, 妳都話自己樣子中上, 身材標準, 正當職業, 怕乜呢?



  • gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:06 am


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    Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 11:04 am


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    gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:02 am


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    其實妳係咪已經決定咗離開佢, 想我哋支持妳?


    ===============================================================


    意識上係想的,只是怕後悔,分唔分好呀?


    ===============================================================


    妳怕邊方面會有後悔的機會?


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    佢又不是唔理我,條件不錯...但我不可以模他,那是咩關係????我怕找不到,真心愛我的人



  • gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:09 am


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    要浪費的已經浪費咗, 追唔返, 妳都話自己樣子中上, 身材標準, 正當職業, 怕乜呢?


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    唉,面對30歲的關口,有點驚。





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    妳怕邊方面會有後悔的機會?


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    佢又不是唔理我,條件不錯...但我不可以模他,那是咩關係????我怕找不到,真心愛我的人


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    No one can help you other than yourself. I think you know all the points and think for years.





    Or you make a decision right here and ask for support. We will support you...





    You know , there is always two sides to a coin.



  • 唉,從前我從未想過去滾,但幾年下來,這種寂寞,是有男友的,但又好像無,唔知情的人,好難明白。



  • 我覺得既然他都不同你傾,日日對着仲有乜意思呢?



  • 我情況和你相似,不過我婚前沒性行為,婚後才知!





    我亦忍耐了好多年,婚後多年,一直幾近沒夫妻生活,去年三月,我把一切資產房產留給她,自己一個人離開了,沒性關係的夫妻生活,是旁人不能想像的。





    我出現專注力失調、焦燥和很多症狀,工作表現亦下滑,甚至要見心理醫生。





    分開後,重過新生活,自信心亦回來了,工作表現亦回復,但專注力仍未完全回復。








    我為了自己,選擇了離開,並以一切身外物作補償。你這樣的情況,很難共度一生的,倘日後結了婚,還要搞離婚,何必呢?離婚並不是容易的决定,尤其是對女仔,你一日未結婚,一日都可叫自己單身貴族,離了婚,便變了失婚婦人!





    分與不分,是你自己的决定。





    現在分開,可能還可做朋友,搞離婚,就頗難再做朋友了。



  • Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 11:12 am


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    妳怕邊方面會有後悔的機會?


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    佢又不是唔理我,條件不錯...但我不可以模他,那是咩關係????我怕找不到,真心愛我的人


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    No one can help you other than yourself. I think you know all the points and think for years.





    Or you make a decision right here and ask for support. We will support you...





    You know , there is always two sides to a coin.


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    其實講出來都是有點忍唔到。



  • Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 11:11 am


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    gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:09 am


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    要浪費的已經浪費咗, 追唔返, 妳都話自己樣子中上, 身材標準, 正當職業, 怕乜呢?


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    唉,面對30歲的關口,有點驚。


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    驚就快行動, 對妳對佢都或者係一個解脫, 快快放低對方, 無憂無慮去搵第二個


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