如果而家既女朋友, 同我期望的妻子條件有比較大既出入, 咁大家認為應該點做?



  • 快到三十一歲, 她和我差唔多年紀

    假若只係拍拖, 又好像浪費了她既時間

    要分手, 又好像有點殘忍

    各位認為怎樣?



  • 你女友條件有咩問題?



  • 分手, 唔好浪費人家時間.



  • 有無問過你gf 的mr. right 同你條件又係咪好大出入呢?


    如係你都唔好浪費人時間囉



  • 以做女朋友而言, 她是稱職的.


    只可惜她的壞習慣不少, 食煙飲酒不運動, 以致身體欠佳


    也不喜歡看書讀報, 文化方面的修養較少





    我在想, 結婚後她就是我子女的媽媽


    和女朋友的身份大不相同





    雖然她和我認識的時候沒有很大的分別


    但我發現要改變她一點點也是近乎沒有可能的事..



  • if u dont love her, not going to marry her, then leave her, dont waste her time..how long have you been with her?



  • Thanks all for the replies.





    prok: around 2.5 years



  • 你都講得佢好差下喎, 咁你要同佢拍拖, 真係辛苦喇.



  • 啊: 我講過佢係一個稱職的女朋友, 只不過上述的問題成為結婚的障礙而已



  • 不如你講下佢既優點呀?



  • 食煙飲酒不運動, 也不喜歡看書讀報, 文化方面的修養較少 ... 我在想, 結婚後她就是我子女的媽媽





    Seems that you want to raise so kid, yes? But if find those habits are disgusting, then its time to put a halt.





    You see, monkey see, monkey do. And you'll be on your own.





    Good luck.




  • Viper: yes I would like to have a kid or two. That is a life-long plan and I need to be serious about it. It would be unfair to both my wife and children if I take it lightly. Thanks for your advice





    啊: 看得出她是頗愛我的。我在性格上的不足之處,她雖然間中有批評(尤其是當酒後吐真言之時),但大體而言她還會嘗試去接受,這應該是最大的優點。



  • Tell me. Do you think she can take care of you kids. And what would you feel if she smokes right in front of your kids?





    Since your concern is being a "mom", it is, as you've said, a completely different things. Getting married is one thing, but having kids and raise them ... Man! I feel sorry for you, really.





    And ... good luck. You really need it.





  • Viper: well i am pretty confident that she would not smoke in front of our kids. My concern is that she does not care about her physical health even though I have been asking her for over two years already. Avoid exercises and unwilling to participate in any activity under the sun (except during vacation).





    And the other problem is that she has zero motivation to improve herself. I do not mind about her academic qualification but I guess one should keep learning and reading. I am extremely worried that the distance between us keeps getting wider and wider, to the point that it is no longer possible to have a meaningful discussion about anything. There will then be no choice but to divorce.



  • can i know you?





    i like outdoor activities and i don't smoke





    U grad



  • new gal, thanks for your reply. I appreciate your response but I believe that it would be much better for us to know about each other through conversation here. I am very interested to know your view about this as well.



  • in such case, you have to think of a good way to break up with her..



  • gal, I thought about doing that but I wondered if it's fair to her, and a "nice" way to break up with her seems to be non-existent in the world...



  • pls feel free to leave your msn







  • to some extend, it's kind of unfair to her, as she hasn't changed from the day you know her.. just that your 'requirement' has changed..


    but still, if it's unsuitable, it's unsuitable...





    as someone said before, she may also find you not suitable for her but stuggling, right?





    do the right thing earlier..


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