Is it reasonable for a married man to seek sex from an alternative source if the women he loves



  • and adores no longer wants sex or has any interest?



    I hate the idea of going with professional ladies, and do feel guilty about finding another, but I find it hard to go without sex...



  • get divorce and find your new love with sex



  • not the answer... we both love each other very much, just the sex that has gone. Marriage is more than just being about sex....



  • then you can have your marriage without sex...


    or one day you go infront of your wife, ask her...what if i want to have sex with another lady...ummm...see how she answer you ~



  • do u hv a good talk with yr wife..........



  • think it takes effort to keep 2, cheers, :-)



  • we do talk with each other, we are best friends and to be honest she is the only one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. But we tend not to talk about sex..



  • i can understand what is yr suitation now, just like roommate as same as me, will respect and care each other right



  • exactly right...we care for each other and we respect each other so never want to speak about something that we know will end in tears...





    are you saying you are in the same situation?



  • i know what u mean, it's sad....





    but think about if you got another girl just for sex or whatever, you will HURT her...







  • are you saying you are in the same situation


    yup, so i understand what is yr feeling now



  • so did you find a solution in a sl, or do you just put up with no sex? its OK if you dont want to answer that...



  • 35lady


    try work things out with him, otherwise separate(cut loss) with him....


    i went through those days also



  • Kelly


    i think i will not separate with my hubby,i treat him as my buddy in my rest life.......but like a roommate and good buddy only



  • just a guy- well i did, i hd one Sl before but broke already.......



  • but you are still young and i guess so do your hubby





    then i think you should sort the problem, cos you still have a long way to go with him



  • Kelly


    i did and hd talk wtih him before but no good answer.........and i dun want to make us unhappy under this problem again.......i think sex is not the basic to fix the marriage



  • I understand what 35 lady is saying. Everything can be fine in the marriage, and your partner really is your best friend and life partner, but the sex is no longer there. Marriage and happiness is more than sex... but sex is a requirement.... sigh



  • just a guy


    is it acceptable if you found out your wife has been having sex with her SL (assume she has) behind you? If you are ok with it, then it is acceptable for you too.




  • just a guy- bingo and tks



  • i know sex is not the basic issue in the marriage, but it's an important one





    oh well, it's sex forum here, i think i shouldn't talk like a pastor





    hope you two all well in the coming years!! think before you act, especially think on your partner side~



  • kelly- so how you solve yr prolbem as you


    went through those days also




  • similar, understand what your saying and something that I have thought about too..





    I guess ultimately I will look for another partner for sex, preferably who understands my situation, but I guess that is very difficult....



  • just a guy- btw, do u hv kid,



  • may be i am the unlucky one, or may be i am the type of ppl like to sort things out...go forward...i separated with him



  • yes, we do, and thats a key reason too for not ending it..





    how about you?



  • kelly, then, may know hows thing going for u now?? going with the one u both love each others?



  • i think for a guy, it is much easier, you can have a hooker, no relationship attached, just sex.....sp...sl...it always involved some amount of love



  • kelly- sorry to hear that but you are so brave to handle this i think



  • faceout, dating with some guys now, have a new start :p



  • just a guy- that's good kid can make the family more warm, i hvnt any kid



  • 35lady, in fact it struggle me for a while also, but i think i need to go forward, can't in this situation for my whole life, if the problem can't solve this way, it has to end in other way, hahhaa



  • they certainly do...





    is kids something that you would like? or were kids never on the agenda for you and your hubby



  • kelly, wwwooo... sound going really fine, haha :-) u will ever be lonely with yr charming charater, :-P think mentally come even explosive than physically sometimes for female, :-)



  • just a guy - still no plan to hv any kid till now



  • faceout, is that a praise? thank you !! hahhaa





    just a guy, ur sex desire vy strong?



  • 35lady


    how long did it happen? months or years?



  • I guess I know what I need, and need to do, suppose its just making the first step to get over any guilty feelings.





    will have to go soon, hope we can chat more on this topic...



  • Kelly, yes, I guess it is...



  • kelly - over year la



  • guy





    good day to you~~



  • 35lady





    umm...that's not good, your diy all this time?



  • kelly, just kidding anyway, n i know u too, :-) i m a guy who dont know turn around, i will tell u directly if i dont like u, hahaha, just sorry if i cant express my meaning by good english, hehe, lets take a break here for way, :-) (maybe i m the one who is serious, haha )





    kelly, may know u want to share yr experience now or u want to save 2 marriages?? :-)



  • just a guy- me too, i know what i need , find a gal who is hv feeling of her, then guilty feeling will easy over hahah, no feel no sex is my thinking



  • kelly - as i mention prev. i hd one SL before but broke over 7 months hahah



  • are you not having many different excuses for yourself to get a so-called SL?





    wife has no interest about sex & hate paid sex.


    since you love your wife and you are not looking for another relationship, the idea of paid sex is the solution for sexual need, isnt it?





    if you truly loves your wife, you would never think of an idea to get a so-called SL! i dont think one can sleep with someone else if he/she is deeply in love.





    to get over the so-called "guilty feeling", just admit your wife cant satisfy both your mental & sexual need, then you need to have an affair



  • 35 lady


    well that might be the case. lets see...





    ok All, gotta run now, maybe chat here another time, or drop me a note at be55727@yahoo.com.hk





    thanks for the input..



  • 35 lady replied @ 2008-02-16 12:45 pm





    just a guy- me too, i know what i need , find a gal who is hv feeling of her, then guilty feeling will easy over hahah, no feel no sex is my thinking








    allow me to say... so an selfish thought!




  • daisy, where u come the strong effort??? :-)



  • faceout... we have chatted before, but i was with the old login





    i was trying to express my idea


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