與拍拖十年的男友分手,仍有機會再一起嗎?主要原因係他長期在內地工作,結織了另一半。請分享。





  • 既然佢已經移情別戀,


    妳又何苦對佢留戀?



  • wanna share in msn?



  • I also spent 10 yrs with my ex boyfriend but he ended up going out with other girl..the feeling of losing him is the same as losing a part of my body.



  • Man are selfish now ga...


    they dont like to get marry in anyhow ..


    I spend my time at 18 to 24 with my bf..


    also this year, he broken up with me..


    He have find a girlfriend after words..


    damn sick ...



  • 咁佢對你既態度係點?


    佢仲愛唔愛你?



  • To Adriana





    可否不要妄下判斷, 不是全部男人都是這樣的...





    如果大家有付出過, 係咪先提分手的都一定是衰人...





    如果男友已經移情別戀, 就不要太過執著,





    活在自己的生活中會好些



  • I wanted to get marry with my ex gf, but she just want to keep herself open for choices so she always take excuses free up our relationship. When i want to give up and she will comes by and do something to keep me around her.





    Finally, she takes my job which require me to work in China as an excuse to keep our relationship open again, so she is open until i can get a job in HK and only we will take about our future.She said she likes me but she only want me to work in HK.





    I am really not happy about that but anyway i still work hard and do alot studies after work to build my credentials.Finally I found a nice job in HK but I found that she was dating with other guys and have a few bfs when I working her requirement out.I felt very upset and did not go back and tell her I have reached her requirements.





    I think sometimes is better not to be too serious about relationships nowadays, seems the one who get serious always get play off.







  • 我都係同行了10男友分了手,佢�M到新目標先同我分手,但我仍住佢屋企,而家佢沒返屋企快1個月,我都打算去朋友屋企暫住,因為一日留在間屋,我仍是忘不了,我想分清楚我是悶,不甘心,定真係需要佢呢?



  • 我同佢已經分開左8個月,有時候亦會問自已是否需要他?但我心中知道無論他如何錯,只要回心向我,我是會原諒他。


    但這是我的假設,他現在在大公司做,又正正上位時間,誰會願意放棄離開國內回港?


    此外,他追緊的女仔是很有學識,甚至乎與他亦有共同喜好。


    已我呢,普通人一個~!或者我太天真,以為對他好不管他,便可長久。


    my msn : christinewnl24@hotmail.com



  • 我情況跟妳差不多,不同的是我們分手後他先後結識兩女人,第二個是大陸女子,他們相處一年便結婚了。



  • honestly, he is with you 10 yrs already, not fresh indeed, if he is really want to spend his rest of the life with you, he should be married with you or at least planning to get marry with you..... now its time for him to have a new life, no more chance at your side and no more point to get back to you at his side.


    the most faster method is you start a new life no matter meet new friends, start a hobby, study.... i know when no mood especially to a girl, we will no mood to do anything .. however, set a time for yrself and then to start a new life, share with more friends, go out more.... don't waste yr time, time is important to a girl.



  • 我同佢同居,可能佢悶同生活少不免有磨擦,有個女仔溝佢,佢主動放棄我,個女仔明知佢有女友主動追佢,我話我走比返架屋佢地雙宿隻悽,佢話同女仔行唔耐,佢學歷高,中產,唔同level,個女仔同佢好夾就係落bar,disco,clubbing,佢話以後唔返屋企,仲話等我一個在屋企拆磨我



  • christinelwn:





    我都係, exbf長期在內地, 拍拖六年, 最後分手了. 都唔知中途佢有幾多個女人. 都已經唔想知了.





    男人一個人在外地, 頭一, 兩次唔制, 我想點都會試一次卦.





    單方面維繫根本無用, 令一方唔肯付出, 你想重修舊好都無法子.





    唔通你仲想過每日提心跳膽的日子嗎?


    每日只係想, 佢又係邊度? 做緊咩? 又同邊個女人一齊?





    我當初分手都好唔開心, 但幾星期之後, 覺得人反而放鬆了, 最少我唔需要再掛住佢. 虐待自己



  • christinelwn,





    I was also in a very big company in China and heading a department of about 200 people, but because my ex gf doesnt like me to work in China so I quit my job and find a lower position job in HK.Fortunately, the new job also has good prospect.





    But the outcome is she was dating other guys and have 2 bf during the process of my job change.








    Sometimes a working relationship need alot of fate. I tried to change her for the last 5 years, but not success, maybe we have no fate










  • fion,





    你何解要拆磨自己喇. 你要自愛先會得到令一個人珍惜你





    趁有青春, 仲後生, 走喇. 人要為自己打算





    你係到唔走佢都唔會返黎. 佢都識得自己尋開心, 為自己打算, 你都要振作





    當初你同男朋友一齊係因為開心, 既然佢都變左心, 你都咁唔開心, 點解仲唔走呢? 唔通要等人趕先走?





    比返少少尊嚴自己啦



  • 我同樣地有個拍左十年男友,亦都係佢識左第2個而分手,


    分手到而家已經有2年多,


    原來我一直都活係唔開心既世界裡面,


    內心依然好痛苦,唔肯接受現實,


    生活變得好無意義,咩野都無興趣做.........



  • nothing^where :





    你好痴心, 同女仔一樣, 但對方都唔會珍惜你, 我唔明點解要繼續勉強一齊





    我以前就係成日當咩野都睇唔到, 聽唔到, 自己呃自己. 是旦佢會返黎我就算.





    但到呢家, 我雖然仲係單身一人, 好多時都會好悶, 同寂寞, 即使係咁. 我都覺得比之前開心好多.





    以前成日一齊要猜疑對方, 電話響係邊個呢? sms又係邊個女人呢?





    我承認即使exbf對自己唔好, 但都叫有個寄託. 有個人掛下. 但既然都咁唔開心, 何解唔比自己一個機會呢?



  • 始終兩個人的事情彼此最清楚,旁人好難下判斷。





    愛情關係的基礎必然是互相珍惜,男仔在內地有事業,你會毅然放低在香港的一切去陪伴他生活嗎?





    樓上有巴打為了GF回港發展,所落得的下場真係聞者心酸。





    互相珍惜、互相愛護,愛情是雙方的,不論男女,其中一方自私,不尊重對方感受,是很可悲的。





    上面有人立即扣男人都很自私的帽子,反智。



  • cc,





    I did not really check her sms before, but i did accidentally saw her sms sent by other guys when she is replying. I knew that she is dating with other guys before but due to some reasons she didnt pick them and stick with me.





    I just think I do really love her so I was like "one eye open, one eye close" even though I knew what is she doing outside. As you said guessing is very painful. For me, the purpose of having a relationship is just to have happiness with the one you love.





    So during last year, I was tired with my previous job in HK and accepted a job in China which has very good prospect. She knew that i was very busy with work, everyday work till mid night and I always have my weekends with her. But she still insist I will be attracted by the china girl and wants me to quit my job and back to hongkong and she wants to break up until I have job in HK and she said she will wait for me.








    My core competence job skills was not popular in HK, so I have to take up alot of studies during weekends in order to build up my qualifications in the popular job sector in HK. It took me almost a year of tire weekends to done my qualifications and finally I can find a job in HK which have good prospect( she always said her future husband must have a good prospect job).





    But I just found that while I was busy to achieve her requirements, she just start dating with other guys and have 2 bf. She didnt admit that to me, but her friends told me that. I am very disappointed and decided not to look for her again.We have been on and off for last 5 years, its tire for me to keep "trusting" her lies.





    I also think maybe single is lonely but feel better than keep hurting by a partner who keeps thinking she wants to look for better guys out there.



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