男....女.....real friendship??

[Dent]

妹豬

right. 你有你做人嘅style

一切都係講matching

[Dent]

sorry, 應該係太好, 唔係太快

[may]

dent

no, I am not stock agent, I just have little investment in stock market.



依個係我朋友俾我嘅advice

佢地認為我對girls 太快. 會problem making



haha, what did u do to girls? I know some girls will think Gentleman is good feeling. I heard a lot in the past.

[Dent]

may,



有機會同你講下stock related affair

[may]

dent

that is great. I am only new learner, just buying "stable" stock, very slow upward!

[wsk_57]

以前我會相信有好朋友存在,但現在...似乎有D問題.

不是單一化,而係雙方化.

[Dent]

因為唔同女仔有唔同嘅反應

我諗我都係一個幾細心嘅男仔,

我有個concept, 對女仔都一定要gentleman

[Dent]

wsk_57



why 雙方化?

it seems that somethings happened to you

[may]

wsk_57

I feel that if you have this thinking, your "friend" will have this thinking too, so it is very difficult for you to have pure friendship with "opposite" sex.

[may]

dent

我有個concept, 對女仔都一定要gentleman



are u from other country? Since I have been living in other country some years, I know that guy could treat a lady very nice due to gentlemen only. But if the same behavior happen in HK, most girl will say that guy is approaching her. Very funny.

[Dent]

may



i am not from other country

但係我會覺得gentleman係basic requirement

你講嘅問題係因為hk gals 保護意識強

hk boys 好多又會有所目的

[妹豬]

Dent



咁係因為香港有部份男仔太衰,先令女仔咁保護自己~

[eight_letter]

Dent,

I have some female friends, who are good friends of mine. I introduced my gf to them during friend gathering event. And I will bring gf to those event if she wants to go with me. My action also makes my gf to introduce her friends to me.



I noticed there are many men/women want to hide their gf/bf away from their friends, who are opposite sex. I think that is the difficulty you are saying.

[Dent]

妹豬



依個係一個好重要原因, 我自己係男仔

都會feel到有好多男仔hurt到女仔

[Dent]

eight_letter

你講嘅野都有point

兩個人fall in love will become selfish,

couple oriented

[Dent]

簡單來說, 坦白, 信任 最重要

[妹豬]

Dent



無辦法~做女仔的只可以帶眼識人

[Dent]

妹豬



男仔都係要帶眼識人, 太複雜了

[may]

for myself, I just classify if he/she is good person, if our personality is match, if I feel comfortable when communicate with him/her...etc to see if we can be friend or not.



However, if the situation change that he eventually is want to approach me, then the friendship will change...



my point is we can not avoid knowing friends due to prevent "something may be happen".

[Dent]

may

如果你知道你自己係點, 係最好

別人的想法的確沒有辦法去控制

只想遇到新相識的人時, 有機會成為朋友就去珍惜, 希望真正可以同你成為朋友, may

[Dent]

need to leave again



if want to contact me.

via email: [email protected]

[may]

dent

thanks, See u later la.

[eight_letter]

When I studied part-time, there was a classmate interested in me and she mentioned to my good friend about it. At that time, I had a gf and everyone knew about it.



I didn't take any advantage from her by know this information. After we graduated she is still a good friend of mine and we still keep contact. She will mention her new bf and live to me. Don't be afraid if someone likes you. 因咽廢食 is stupid

[Dent]

eight_letter



你的經歷可能有少少唔同.

大家可能沒有面對面去說我愛你

不過你地都好好, 大家都可以放下

your life keep going without any problem with each other

我都會好似你咁講

唔會去怕, 只會好好處理, 因為我一定會相信

boys and girls can be real friend

[Dent]

hello, 你地有冇啲唔同嘅睇法??



大家一齊share

可能會令你有更好嘅relationship

[Dent]

有冇人可以傾下計?

[木籣]

其實真係好難...但未必絕對無可能





剛剛開始認識對方都會先保護自己..

咁係正常的反應....



只要大家用平常心而又真誠的對待,

大家必定可以做到好朋友...

[Dent]

木籣



你有冇試過發展friendship過程中

會唔經唔覺有曖昧的時間

[Dent]

你地有冇一些成功的例子?

[木籣]

你好DENT



這麼多年來, 幸好遇上幾位知心男性朋友..

大家相處都沒有什麼曖昧或唔見得光的事..



現在比較少見面..

原因各自各長大了..

大家都工作為將來而忙碌,

稍有時間也要陪陪身邊的另一半或屋企人, 對我這位朋友只可以在EMAIL裡大家互相聯絡......

這情況下, 少見面唔代表失去了友誼..只要大家個心還關心對方..已足夠了..



當然間唔中都會搞笑話下對方 " 有無搞錯呀咁耐都唔浦頭? " 呢一類對白咯..

[Dent]

木籣



朋友就係咁, 朋友往往默默在你身邊

平時各有各忙, 需要的時候, 想到他們的時間就會有講唔完的說話

朋友間, 用"心照"去聯繫

[Dent]

木籣



how old are you?

[木籣]

DENT



你這一問有沒有和對方有曖昧過..

um...當然有遇過呢...

但現在都也是朋友但沒有咁熟了..

因為很難維持....

除非雙方都放低哂..就可以再做返好朋友了!



其實曖昧有好多種...

SEX, 言語上, 拖下手仔錫一錫等等...



只係睇下邊一種會令大家拎得起放得低吧了

[Dent]

所以我都會講過



要道出"我愛你" 通常會失去大家的友誼

因為可能會變成情人., 或是陌生人

[Dent]

曖昧我覺得係大家之間有一種feel

uncertainty....

[Dent]

細心想. 做朋友, 往往開心過做情人

[木籣]

朋友間, 用"心照"去聯繫

by Dent



其實真係好睇大家咯..

心照呢樣野唔係人人都受落..

好多人覺得係excuse....



而我, 我有時真係好忙

但間唔中都會send email傾1,2 句

唔係簡單咁forward email呢一類..

有時我果D email內容,

對方睇完唔洗真係要reply我比response..

好似睇雜誌咁一樣,

你鐘意睇完想寫返回應雜誌社又得,

唔回應, 咪等下期咯...

[Dent]

可能依樣亦都係男同女唔同的地方



女的追求始終都係別人的關心

男的追求始終都係別人的明白



你都好好, 會send email keep contact

我有時會覺得自己唔上心

就係我好少主動搵我的朋友

通常都係佢地有事會搵我傾計

朋友庚間我的確欠了一份主動

[木籣]

我快 30 歲了! 失禮哂



我都認為做朋友好過做情人

但唔係人人都接受的..



如果真係要同對方講一句 " 我好鐘意你!"

之前就要有心理準備

假如對方唔接受你,

你都可以繼續和對方做返朋友..

當然對方都要明白才可以..

你睇下自己想唔想take risk了



而我,

我鐘意一個男性朋友時

我知自己鐘意佢其實係"欣賞" 佢...

並唔需要係埋一齊做情侣的..

[Dent]

所以我可能唔適合做情人

情人需要的是承諾, 付出

朋友間的相處比較適合我

做情人的我可能往往都會傷害到人

[痛苦傷心人]

我都有好多女性朋友....

冇諗過會追佢地...只係想做普通朋友...

有感情問題�黈伬唹i以搵佢地訴苦...

佢地會用女性角度同我分析...

唔錯唔錯....

有好多��...最緊要自己睇得通....

[Dent]

有時我會諗

可能我地同一個女性朋友講" i love you"

唔係真係愛�

係好自私咁想自己擁有佢, 唔想佢對其他人好

之後就因為一時衝動而無左依一個好朋友

[Dent]

痛苦傷心人



我都好同意其實有異性朋友一定會好啲

始終意見, 睇法有根本的分別

[Dent]

要有一個原則



最緊要唔好傷害到人

[木籣]

女的追求始終都係別人的關心

男的追求始終都係別人的明白

<---

無論男或女都好, 都有呢個追求

我相信, 男既一定會找到那位明白他的..

而女既也會找到那位關心她的..



你說你自己欠了主動

如果你遇上明白你的女性朋友

當然沒問題

但遇唔到的話,

只係她不是太明白你吧了....係咪?



不過你都要比多少少反應比人地

唔好令人誤會覺得你係玩失踪

又或者係想疏遠佢地..

其實你自己唔係的..!!



我有女性朋友都是欠了主動

但性格是這樣...

唔可以怪佢的...

只要她身邊的朋友依然記得她

常常不介意誰和誰先主動...

因為大家都知道佢性格係咁..

唔係玩失踪或疏遠大家..

[Dent]

但係我往往都會被誤會為

唔係玩失踪或疏遠大家



可能我都係唔係咁懂得去keep a relationship



我時時都希望能夠遇到一個明白我的人

[木籣]

每個人都會有自私的時候...

你話自己最緊要唔好傷到別人

但自己可能唔知原來已經傷害左人..



點都好啦

唔好話自己唔適合做情人..

同人地相處係好難既學問..

有心既, 一定做到..

只在乎你自己有幾多要求..

[木籣]

但係我往往都會被誤會為

唔係玩失踪或疏遠大家



可能我都係唔係咁懂得去keep a relationship

<---

你似乎係懶多D 咯..

有心無力果隻..



唔好再係咁啦...積極一D....

[Dent]

有時候唔係只係自己有幾多要求

他人對你的要求亦都重要



我自己都會覺得自己係一個好嘅朋友, 男朋友

我會好細心去關心身邊每一個人

[Dent]

其實我都係一個幾積極的人

有咩唔開心好快會唔記得

覺得樣樣都可以重新做好啲



所以我都好想搵多啲男同女嘅real friendship