男朋友全家都係外國, 佢都去左做野, 要嫁過去, 但係自己家人朋友都響香港, 亦無去過外國住, 比你會唔會嫁





  • 咁你地o係香港果陣有冇一齊住過?



  • You have to understand that, when anything happens, you are on your own. Nobody will help you.



  • You have to understand that, when anything happens, you are on your own. Nobody will help you



  • obi - 03/13/07 21:40





    10 years later, you still face the same people. The answer is very obvious, although many people continue to lie to themselves.



  • I have the same case. I'm now happily married for 8 years.


    You have to be a very independent person;


    be able to speak the foreign language (in my case, English);


    keep abreast of the local news;


    improve and upgrade yourself constantly;


    of course, make sure you and your bf want to be with each other.



  • Me too, I've been happily married for 6 years. Never been to the country I am now living in before. Still trying to learning the language here. My in-laws are treating me well but not interfering. I am not so independent though, but lucky that my colleagues and friends have been great and supportive.



  • Where are you two going?




  • Obi, you need to ask yourself if you love your bf and if you can be an independent person.





    Because even though you married to a HK guy, if you are not independent enough, no one can help you when you are in a marriage.





    Also, being away from your family is not that bad because you can still chat and see them a lot through MSN. I am now living in France with my husband and almost meet my family and friends once a week through MSN.





    If you have question, try to live abroad for 3 months and see if you can deal with it before getting married lor.







  • I will not leave my family. To me, my family is the most important thing in life. Your boyfriend can betray you, your husband can betray you, but your parents will never. Also, you may be able to spend 50 more years with your bf, but definitely not your parents. If you insist to move, ask your parents to move with you!



  • overseas bride, fate,


    可唔可以講你地去左邊? 去到有無搵工做?定係做housewife? 我仲諗緊架, 因為男朋友既事業係果邊會有發展空間, 呢度就無, 所以為左將來, 去佢度會好d,但係我個人唔係咁independent, 同埋上面都有人講, 屋企人take care左我咁耐, 都無好好報答佢地, 如果走左, 我會好唔捨得, 同埋佢地年紀大啦, 都無可能再過第二度生活,所以真係好唔知點, 而家仲有時間可以諗, 我想問下大家意見, 唔該曬!!



  • hello overseas bride, fate and obi, i have also the same case as yours... my parents (esp my mother) were a bit worried of course, because i'll be here alone, but later, after these years my boyfriend (now it's my hubby) went to visit them too, so my family had a chance to know him more and more...





    although i am used to live without my family these years, i still cry a whole lot everytime i leave them and go back.





    sometimes i feel i'm quite selfish, but 幸福是自己爭取,i followed my heart at that time and my parents supported (and still do) me, afterall they know my hubby is someone i can depend on.



  • 我都唔明, 乜你諗住嫁左去外國就唔再返香港架?





    我都係d好痴屋企既人, 而家隔一、兩個月就返香港一次, 冇咩問題呀!





    係辛苦d, 成日飛黎飛去o者.



  • obi,


    I moved to New York city for the 1st 5 years and now live in the suburb. My husband made decent $ but wanted me to make friends and gain more experience by getting a job. So I work in the HR department of a European hotel until I got pregnant. I'm a housewife with 2 kids. But still have a lot of things to learn. e.g. to deal with other housewives, setting up playdate for my kids, participate in school activities. I recently gave a presentation of Chinese New year at my son's class and everybody enjoyed it.




  • 屋企人take care左我咁耐, 都無好好報答佢地, 如果走左, 我會好唔捨得, 同埋佢地年紀大啦, 都無可能再過第二度生活,所以真係好唔知點..by obi - 03/14/07 13:12





    But Obi, as kellybanana said, 幸福是自己爭取.





    When I get married to this French guy, my parents were really supportive because they said that I should have my own family because one day they will die and I will be all alone if I do not have husband or child.





    You should consider more if you love this man and if you are willing to give a try. And if you will have other chance to meet someone like him in the future?





    If you love him, go ahead lah!



  • hello j plus, actually i did ask myself that 'what if.....' question also before i started a 'new' life with my hubby (at that time he was my bf) in amsterdam.



  • 我就嫁左去外國剛剛8個月左右, 地點是加拿大~ 其實到新的地方 , 最重要是自我適應力要高, 還有你要努力開創自己的生活圈子... 去到新的地方, 我建議回校讀書, 一來讓自己更容易了解社區和認識朋友...





    不如先過去看看環境, 我未嫁來前, 已經在這裡旅遊兩次.



  • cardin,


    可唔可以share 多d你既experience?



  • 可唔可以講你地去左邊? Japan





    去到有無搵工做? I have a part-time job and I also attend language classes.





    同埋上面都有人講, 屋企人take care左我咁耐, 都無好好報答佢地, 如果走左, 我會好唔捨得, 同埋佢地年紀大啦, 都無可能再過第二度生活,所以真係好唔知點,


    Where is he from?







  • Hi cardin & 各位姊妹,





    你住係溫哥華 OR 多倫多 ?? 我四月會同老公移民溫哥華, 希望可以同各位姊妹做個朋友 !!


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