好唔開心, 同居男友因為sex問題, 想提出分手





  • Candy





    good a~


    無謂等到結左婚先發覺吾岩~



  • candy,





    what problem ? can share ?



  • 甚麽sex問題?



  • 我2002剛大學畢業就認識了他.....


    他是我生命裡第一個男人, 我們認識了半年便開始同居, 生活得好幸福, 我早就打算嫁給他了.





    直到前年, 我去了一間規模大的公司工作, 因為經常OT, 他早已有微言,....除了OT之外, 公司還有很多煩事令我心情不好.....實在太多人事問題, 太多人COMPLAIN. (其實我覺得我MANAGER好有問題)..ANYWAYS....總之我感覺好辛苦.....好辛苦就自然要休息....不知不覺冷落了他....



  • 不過, 我真的好愛他, 所以就算辛苦, 我亦都會爬起來跟他have sex.....





    不知道是否太辛苦, 我患上了甲狀腺病, 吃了一年綠丸, 但要休息的時候就支持不下去了..





    去年, 我又開始讀master degree, 好辛苦呀....





    他說我現在像死魚了......



  • 他說如果我再是這樣, 便跟我分手........





    唉......我知道sex對男人來說是好重要, 但我真是透支了體力....我已經無辦法對sex再提起興趣



  • he knows your situation ?





    i also know...sometimes...it's quite difficult to have life balance...esp..with bf/gf







  • 你可能受壓力有抑屈焦慮,所以冇曬興趣,太嚴重不如轉工啦。也可以試下睇下AV,提升下興趣。同佢開心見誠講下啦。



  • 情况唔樂觀呀....





    男人開得口話你似死鱼.....分手啦...


    留D尊嚴俾自已.



  • 叫佢叫雞好了



  • Candy





    問題都吾係在sex 度~


    根本就在你自己身上....


    你自己諗清楚男朋友重要定工作學業重要D先啦~



  • I sympathize you. i don't like sex much because of tired after word



  • 咁多年感情大家拎出黎傾lor


    咁又唔洗分手咁嚴重



  • i broke up with my bf because of other reason. i am sad. but at the same time i am happy that now i am single and no need to have sex with man. I can sleep whenever i want.



  • 綠丸係乜藥�縵ar?



  • if the man care more about sex than your health, it is a problem



  • sex對couple 都幾緊要,就正常情侶relationship 嘅一部份(否則=friend),你要balance 下,付 出比事業,男友幾多,有時係心理上的調節。



  • i am also weak in health, so i know sex needs a lot of energy to do it.



  • 咁多年感情大家拎出黎傾lor


    咁又唔洗分手咁嚴重





    by @@ - 01/21/07 22:52





    宜家係佢男人想分手呀!理由上面講左....


    你都話咁多年感情... 仲有乜嘢好講??



  • I think you should consider whether you would like to quit your current job and find another one since your job did affect your personal life and your health as well.





    Also, calm down and re-think about the relationship with your bf. You guys have been together for 4 years and I think he should care about you and your health condition rather than how you perform in bed.



  • how often your bf want to have sex?



  • I have the same problem before,工作令我有点抑屈,no interest like dead fish。我現學曉放sung 了,bf 話:最多唔做養埋你(講下姐,邊得吖,but 都好sweet)。自己都會keep 下個mood 培養下興趣 (EG 偷睇佢珍藏d AV)。HK 冇sex therapy,其實都可能有用。



  • agree. Boyfriend and job are important. But health is most important. u are still young. if your health improve, there are lots of chance of job and men for u



  • but sometimes after OT, nothing can turn me on. i just want to sleep



  • sometimes i am too tired for sex after work. my bf would be so angry that he went back to his home in the middle of the night. I have quarrelled and cried many times because of it.



  • men and women 係呢方面好唔同,men 有男性荷爾蒙作怪,(唔係人類可能已绝種。)



  • my bf wanted sex almost every night. i don't know if it is too much



  • 我覺得是雙方的問題..





    1. 時間就好d咪得


    2. 男要有的gentleman 風度...唔好話要就要....叫雞都要排隊啦....有時都要搞d新意或都"tum"下女友gama..


    3. 女就要花多d時間在男友身上....時間唔夠身體唔好仲要搞咁多嘢....分手都冇得可憐.







  • maybe you people are right. if u want to keep a relationship, u have to sacrifice something for him.



  • 我同我男友昨天晚上傾了好久..





    究竟他只是想分手, 抑或真的是想改善sex life.....如果他只是想分手的話, 就無謂說下去了...但如果他真的想改善sex life, 必須要跟我溝通, 不可以用現在不理不睬的的態度對我..





    之後, 我們寫出的我和他的問題, 決定改變現在的生活習慣....定了一個生活時間表





    由今天開始, 我要開始每天吃下午茶, 到晚上放工的時候便不會覺得太餓太累, 先做愛, 之後才吃晚飯....先實行一個月, 看看效果如何...





    另外, 我會記錄自己的休息時候, 男友願意跟我11.30p.m.前要sleep...





    我覺得自己其實真是忽略了他, 但男人又不善於溝通.....他再ignore的的話, 我亦會受不了..





    希望這個改變生活習慣的planning有用吧.



  • 有興趣搵我��


    ......66212313....mike



  • Candy,


    You must think about yourself, which one is important, work or bf? Men is not everything. You need to support yourself, you need to know what you are looking for!


    I will support you.


    I'm lucky then you, I want to study BA, no money, my bf will sponsor me and give me time to study, but we are not live together, but I've some aruge about this ga, because very expensive.


    You must tell him what you are thinking about...........


    Good luck



  • 我諗關鍵在於----中庸


    任何事傾哂一邊都會出現問題, 只有男友無學業無事業, 第日有事時你會一無所有, 相反, 就只會靠個男人養, 久而久之, 只會驚佢飛你.


    appreciate你兩個人咁認真咁傾, 亦希望你兩可以體諒大家.


    但, 唔好俾你個planning流於死板, 你諗下, 每日食下午茶, 放工, 做愛, 食飯, 訓覺...


    同軍訓有乜分別. sex唔係schedule, 大多數時間需要驚喜,


    good luck!



  • 你bf 咁唔識體諒 ........


    其實佢係鍾意你,定鍾意同你上床?


    自己諗啦!



  • candy, 你對bf 都算好啦, 起馬佢想要你都比佢.


    我就慘囉, 同左gf 幾年佢都唔同我做, 你bf 真係唔滿足.



  • Candy


    放鬆d啦, 工作唔如意, 身體有病, 依d事經常都會發生, 只要你睇開d, 唔好咁緊張! 試下同你bf傾下, sex前叫佢做番d前戲, 都有幫助架!





    一一講得好啱, sex唔係on schedule, 唔需要定下一日邊個時間食飯, 邊個時間sex! even你地兩個坐喺梳化睇電視既時候, 你都可以多手挑逗下佢!



  • 你bf 咁唔識體諒 ........


    其實佢係鍾意你,定鍾意同你上床?


    自己諗啦!


    by 123 - 01/22/07 18:09





    咁佢bf如果鐘意佢,就自然鐘意&想同佢上床架啦 ,我覺得冇問題wor,兩樣野冇抵觸架 .





    掉轉如果個男人都係因工作而成日好似死魚咁,到時你咪一樣投訴~仲可能會懷疑佢係咪有第二個,做咪走去叫雞咁





    其實板主我覺得你做得啱,個schedule有冇用我地唔去諗住,但起碼你同男友都肯踏出一步去作出改善,已經係好既開始黎la,唔好咁輕易放棄呀 !!







  • find a new bf la



  • I think you should consider whether you would like to quit your current job and find another one since your job did affect your personal life and your health as well.





    Also, calm down and re-think about the relationship with your bf. You guys have been together for 4 years and I think he should care about you and your health condition rather than how you perform in bed.





    by gal - 01/21/07 23:06





    gal, this is the most sensible. look at both sides :)



  • 算喇,快d forgot



  • Judy


    I mean 佢bf 係鍾意佢,定純粹想同佢上床滿足需要



  • 有興趣傾計就搵我��


    .......66212313......mike



  • 第一天時間表--失敗...





    除了有吃過下午茶, 其他的東西都沒有按完定計劃進行...





    我男友認為, 我應該不OT, 做不完便由它吧....反正員工要OT其實是經理的責任, 工作分配不平均或安排得不好才會有某些同事OT, 有某些同事不用OT.....





    我今天會嘗試盡量不OT.




  • Candy


    其實你bf 係鍾意你,定純粹想同你上床滿足佢需要?




  • 從前是男士需要面對既工作壓力,從而影嚮了私人生活質素。今天女士們工作能力與日遞增,以工作為首位。從前被女士臭罵男士不解溫柔,今天角色對換。聰明既你,請小心平衡,勿要重蹈覆轍。



  • 今天既樣板港男,好可能就係明天既港女!!



  • 昨天可以跟到原定schedule..





    下午餐=>放工=>造愛=>吃飯





    但好像缺少了什麼似的...我不覺得比平時興奮, 不過, 能夠早d休息, 已經好好...





    我已經半年無性高潮了, 以前不是這樣的....










  • Candy,


    個人意見


    1. 有體力, 精神先可以做愛


    2. 可以減少做愛次數, 但要keep到質素


    3. 工作問題, 睇下有無得Arrange好d, Schedule.. 我都努力中, 再研究


    4. if 工作太大問題, change job


    5. 溝通, 明白愛 = Care, Not only 做.




  • 其實工作方面, 我覺得自己已經控制的ok.


    起碼, 我不會把工作帶回家.....其他部門投訴, 其實天天都有, 我都看慣了..





    只不過, 我真的好累....我讀書時都有做運動, 但已有接近兩年無做運動了...現在只是每天在公司跑六層樓梯....我覺得自己應該多做運動...





    我暫時不會轉工....始終, 我的確是付出了努力, 打敗了好多對手才入這公司, 而且, 我覺得自己學到野, 遲些才算吧...





    其實, 我男友對我好好的, 他只是不喜歡我現在變成死魚...這亦難怪, 因為我之前不是這樣的...





    其實, 我發現天氣都是一個問題....他昨天把冷冰冰的手放在我身上, 什麼慾火都熄啦....












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