我應該同男友分手嗎?想大家比點意見!
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我29歲,樣子都算是中上,身材標準,正常職業。<br />男友30歲 樣子都算是中上,年青有為,自己開公司的。<br /><br />我們一起4年多了,第2年一起住。<br />第一年正常的。<br />第二年開始唔正常了,無性生活,無KISS,唔準我模他的重要位置,唔準在他面前著SEXY的3.....我有同佢傾,佢唔傾,發脾氣,我又肯定佢無第2個。<br />我本來好尊一的,但佢令我好寂寞..宜家都唔想一起睡,我們的關係像朋友。<br />分手又怕後悔...<br />未結婚就守寡了幾年...都唔敢同佢結婚。<br />我如何是好????
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第一年正常的 = 有性生活?
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rose
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<br>hi, I understand your situation...
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<br>can share in msn now?
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<br>[email protected]
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gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:32 am
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<br>第一年正常的 = 有性生活?
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<br>有SEX...正常情侶
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:33 am
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<br>gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:32 am
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<br>第一年正常的 = 有性生活?
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<br>有SEX...正常情侶
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<br>佢發脾氣唔傾, 有冇話因乜理由唔傾?
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分唔分手好呢?
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Easy... then find a SL here.... and you can still be with him..... leave the "love" part for your SL..
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<br>Done!
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gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:35 am
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<br>Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:33 am
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<br>gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:32 am
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<br>第一年正常的 = 有性生活?
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<br>有SEX...正常情侶
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<br>佢發脾氣唔傾, 有冇話因乜理由唔傾?
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<br>無,佢好像不近女色...我現在都放棄唔傾,但可惜這段關係,唔知分唔分手好。
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rose
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<br>I have similar problem.....if you dont mind, lets chat more in msn now
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Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:36 am
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<br>Easy... then find a SL here.... and you can still be with him..... leave the "love" part for your SL..
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<br>Done!
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<br>我又唔想FIND咩SL,我只想一個正常的男人。
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系不系他有乜问题？
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:38 am
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<br>gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:35 am
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<br>Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:33 am
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<br>gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:32 am
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<br>第一年正常的 = 有性生活?
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<br>有SEX...正常情侶
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<br>佢發脾氣唔傾, 有冇話因乜理由唔傾?
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<br>無,佢好像不近女色...我現在都放棄唔傾,但可惜這段關係,唔知分唔分手好。
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<br>佢有冇視妳為結婚對象?
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may replied at 2011-10-09 10:40 am
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<br>系不系他有乜问题？
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<br>我都唔知道,NO SEX幾年感情好淡。
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:40 am
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<br>Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:36 am
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<br>Easy... then find a SL here.... and you can still be with him..... leave the "love" part for your SL..
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<br>Done!
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<br>我又唔想FIND咩SL,我只想一個正常的男人。
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<br>Have you find the root cause ?
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<br>1. May be you can never find it ( i believe you try before )
<br>2. Your case is NOT an exceptional. Many relationship after years like that.
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<br>So you have to plan for it and even if you find a new one. The result may be the same.. How many years do you have ? I doubt ?
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<br>Sorry for being direct
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系不系你做錯點乜氣老左他？
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我懷疑你男朋友同我一樣，突然感覺自己對男的有興趣，最後唔想近女色。
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Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:42 am
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<br>Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:40 am
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<br>Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:36 am
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<br>Easy... then find a SL here.... and you can still be with him..... leave the "love" part for your SL..
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<br>Done!
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<br>我又唔想FIND咩SL,我只想一個正常的男人。
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<br>Have you find the root cause ?
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<br>1. May be you can never find it ( i believe you try before )
<br>2. Your case is NOT an exceptional. Many relationship after years like that.
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<br>So you have to plan for it and even if you find a new one. The result may be the same.. How many years do you have ? I doubt ?
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<br>Sorry for being direct
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<br>那分唔分呀??
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我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下，或者你自己發現一點他的問題。
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cc replied at 2011-10-09 10:45 am
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<br>我懷疑你男朋友同我一樣，突然感覺自己對男的有興趣，最後唔想近女色。
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<br>我有這樣想過,有問過他,佢話唔係,還發脾氣。
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<br>Have you find the root cause ?
<br>
<br>1. May be you can never find it ( i believe you try before )
<br>2. Your case is NOT an exceptional. Many relationship after years like that.
<br>
<br>So you have to plan for it and even if you find a new one. The result may be the same.. How many years do you have ? I doubt ?
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<br>Sorry for being direct
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<br>那分唔分呀??
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<br>if you still love him but just no sex.....
<br>(1) either find someone to fill in this part
<br>(2) solve the problem if you can..
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<br>But if i am you, i will choose to stay and married with him.
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除咗性生活, 有冇其他地方妳唔滿意佢?
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我覺得哩個問題仲是要同他傾，你要給多點關心他
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may replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am
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<br>我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下，或者你自己發現一點他的問題。
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<br>幾年啦,佢肯傾的話,唔會去到現在我這樣的想法,佢又唔肯面對。
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gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:48 am
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<br>除咗性生活, 有冇其他地方妳唔滿意佢?
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<br>唉,KISS都唔得呀..都唔知佢咩事,其他就沒有什麼。
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Raccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:48 am
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<br>Have you find the root cause ?
<br>
<br>1. May be you can never find it ( i believe you try before )
<br>2. Your case is NOT an exceptional. Many relationship after years like that.
<br>
<br>So you have to plan for it and even if you find a new one. The result may be the same.. How many years do you have ? I doubt ?
<br>
<br>Sorry for being direct
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<br>那分唔分呀??
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<br>if you still love him but just no sex.....
<br>(1) either find someone to fill in this part
<br>(2) solve the problem if you can..
<br>
<br>But if i am you, i will choose to stay and married with him.
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<br>下,還要結婚!!!現在都想分手。只是怕後悔。
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:49 am
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<br>may replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am
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<br>我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下，或者你自己發現一點他的問題。
<br>===============================================================
<br>幾年啦,佢肯傾的話,唔會去到現在我這樣的想法,佢又唔肯面對。
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<br>我覺得佢好大問題是應該是生理問題，咁除左哩個平時生活上對你好不好啊？
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假如佢當妳係結婚對象, 商量定一個時間去一齊解決, 直接了當講時間一到解決唔到就走
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<br>那分唔分呀??
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<br>
<br>if you still love him but just no sex.....
<br>(1) either find someone to fill in this part
<br>(2) solve the problem if you can..
<br>
<br>But if i am you, i will choose to stay and married with him.
<br>===============================================================
<br>下,還要結婚!!!現在都想分手。只是怕後悔。
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<br>Even if you find a new one, the story may be continued.
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<br>Are you NOT attractive enough ? be more sexy !
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Or you can try to consult sex therapists ( if he doesn't mind )
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may replied at 2011-10-09 10:54 am
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<br>Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:49 am
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<br>may replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am
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<br>我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下，或者你自己發現一點他的問題。
<br>===============================================================
<br>幾年啦,佢肯傾的話,唔會去到現在我這樣的想法,佢又唔肯面對。
<br>===============================================================
<br>我覺得佢好大問題是應該是生理問題，咁除左哩個平時生活上對你好不好啊？
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<br>如果是生理問題,點解KISS都唔得呀????其他都沒有什麼
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Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:56 am
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<br>Or you can try to consult sex therapists ( if he doesn't mind )
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<br>幾年要講的都講啦....我一提佢就發脾氣。
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:58 am
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<br>Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:56 am
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<br>Or you can try to consult sex therapists ( if he doesn't mind )
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<br>幾年要講的都講啦....我一提佢就發脾氣。
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<br>That's why i said if he doesn't mind.
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<br>it is normal in many couple relationship.... may be you will think should i bare this.. but this is a very very common thing.
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gl replied at 2011-10-09 10:54 am
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<br>假如佢當妳係結婚對象, 商量定一個時間去一齊解決, 直接了當講時間一到解決唔到就走
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<br>佢又唔肯確定會結婚,又唔肯解決...KISS都唔得,一提就發脾氣,幾年啦,我好寂寞呀!有等於無~!!!
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:56 am
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<br>may replied at 2011-10-09 10:54 am
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<br>Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:49 am
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<br>may replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am
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<br>我覺得最好仲是要同他傾下，或者你自己發現一點他的問題。
<br>===============================================================
<br>幾年啦,佢肯傾的話,唔會去到現在我這樣的想法,佢又唔肯面對。
<br>===============================================================
<br>我覺得佢好大問題是應該是生理問題，咁除左哩個平時生活上對你好不好啊？
<br>===============================================================
<br>如果是生理問題,點解KISS都唔得呀????其他都沒有什麼
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<br>因為哩個會影響到他心裏問題，他心裏接受不到所以就拒絕一切的性行為。我是從醫學角度，不知他真實點念。
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其實妳係咪已經決定咗離開佢, 想我哋支持妳?
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Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 11:00 am
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<br>Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:58 am
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<br>Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 10:56 am
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<br>Or you can try to consult sex therapists ( if he doesn't mind )
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<br>幾年要講的都講啦....我一提佢就發脾氣。
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<br>
<br>That's why i said if he doesn't mind.
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<br>it is normal in many couple relationship.... may be you will think should i bare this.. but this is a very very common thing.
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<br>但幾年啦,KISS都唔得,我好寂寞呀!!
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am
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<br>cc replied at 2011-10-09 10:45 am
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<br>我懷疑你男朋友同我一樣，突然感覺自己對男的有興趣，最後唔想近女色。
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<br>我有這樣想過,有問過他,佢話唔係,還發脾氣。
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<br>初期自己都有懷疑，唔敢諗，而且有人懷疑我係同人我會好嬲。因為自己都唔係對女性無感覺，不過日子漸過之後，又見有同人卿卿我我時心中會羡慕。但點都好，我未有心理準備voice out自己，始終社會唔可以用平常眼光睇我地，而家我最想的反而可以識到一個女同人，同佢結婚，不過大家知道大家係咩一回事，之後各有覺尋真愛，有自己生活同時可以被開外人耳目。但要有咁的女同朋友真係可遇不可求。
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gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:02 am
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<br>其實妳係咪已經決定咗離開佢, 想我哋支持妳?
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<br>意識上係想的,只是怕後悔,分唔分好呀?
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 11:04 am
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<br>gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:02 am
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<br>其實妳係咪已經決定咗離開佢, 想我哋支持妳?
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<br>意識上係想的,只是怕後悔,分唔分好呀?
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<br>妳怕邊方面會有後悔的機會?
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分的話又好像浪費了幾年青春,唔分又唔知浪費多幾多年,佢又無話會結婚??好迷網。
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cc replied at 2011-10-09 11:04 am
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<br>Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 10:47 am
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<br>cc replied at 2011-10-09 10:45 am
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<br>我懷疑你男朋友同我一樣，突然感覺自己對男的有興趣，最後唔想近女色。
<br>===============================================================
<br>我有這樣想過,有問過他,佢話唔係,還發脾氣。
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<br>初期自己都有懷疑，唔敢諗，而且有人懷疑我係同人我會好嬲。因為自己都唔係對女性無感覺，不過日子漸過之後，又見有同人卿卿我我時心中會羡慕。但點都好，我未有心理準備voice out自己，始終社會唔可以用平常眼光睇我地，而家我最想的反而可以識到一個女同人，同佢結婚，不過大家知道大家係咩一回事，之後各有覺尋真愛，有自己生活同時可以被開外人耳目。但要有咁的女同朋友真係可遇不可求。
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<br>你幾歲時發現自己是這樣??
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要浪費的已經浪費咗, 追唔返, 妳都話自己樣子中上, 身材標準, 正當職業, 怕乜呢?
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gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:06 am
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<br>Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 11:04 am
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<br>gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:02 am
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<br>其實妳係咪已經決定咗離開佢, 想我哋支持妳?
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<br>意識上係想的,只是怕後悔,分唔分好呀?
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<br>妳怕邊方面會有後悔的機會?
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<br>佢又不是唔理我,條件不錯...但我不可以模他,那是咩關係????我怕找不到,真心愛我的人
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gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:09 am
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<br>要浪費的已經浪費咗, 追唔返, 妳都話自己樣子中上, 身材標準, 正當職業, 怕乜呢?
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<br>唉,面對30歲的關口,有點驚。
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<br>妳怕邊方面會有後悔的機會?
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<br>佢又不是唔理我,條件不錯...但我不可以模他,那是咩關係????我怕找不到,真心愛我的人
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<br>No one can help you other than yourself. I think you know all the points and think for years.
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<br>Or you make a decision right here and ask for support. We will support you...
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<br>You know , there is always two sides to a coin.
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唉,從前我從未想過去滾,但幾年下來,這種寂寞,是有男友的,但又好像無,唔知情的人,好難明白。
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我覺得既然他都不同你傾，日日對着仲有乜意思呢？
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我情況和你相似，不過我婚前沒性行為，婚後才知！
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<br>我亦忍耐了好多年，婚後多年，一直幾近沒夫妻生活，去年三月，我把一切資產房產留給她，自己一個人離開了，沒性關係的夫妻生活，是旁人不能想像的。
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<br>我出現專注力失調、焦燥和很多症狀，工作表現亦下滑，甚至要見心理醫生。
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<br>分開後，重過新生活，自信心亦回來了，工作表現亦回復，但專注力仍未完全回復。
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<br>我為了自己，選擇了離開，並以一切身外物作補償。你這樣的情況，很難共度一生的，倘日後結了婚，還要搞離婚，何必呢？離婚並不是容易的决定，尤其是對女仔，你一日未結婚，一日都可叫自己單身貴族，離了婚，便變了失婚婦人！
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<br>分與不分，是你自己的决定。
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<br>現在分開，可能還可做朋友，搞離婚，就頗難再做朋友了。
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Ranccho replied at 2011-10-09 11:12 am
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<br>妳怕邊方面會有後悔的機會?
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<br>佢又不是唔理我,條件不錯...但我不可以模他,那是咩關係????我怕找不到,真心愛我的人
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<br>No one can help you other than yourself. I think you know all the points and think for years.
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<br>Or you make a decision right here and ask for support. We will support you...
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<br>You know , there is always two sides to a coin.
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<br>其實講出來都是有點忍唔到。
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Rose2011 replied at 2011-10-09 11:11 am
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<br>gl replied at 2011-10-09 11:09 am
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<br>要浪費的已經浪費咗, 追唔返, 妳都話自己樣子中上, 身材標準, 正當職業, 怕乜呢?
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<br>唉,面對30歲的關口,有點驚。
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<br>驚就快行動, 對妳對佢都或者係一個解脫, 快快放低對方, 無憂無慮去搵第二個